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When your feelings are tender, and the truth is hard

As much as I like to think I’m tougher than nails, sometimes I’m softer than Downy. For the most part, I’m one tough cookie, but there are moments I feel like I didn’t bake long enough, because I can be “soft to the touch”. Having said that, I am often guilty of having “tender” feelings.

We’ve all heard the expression, “The truth hurts”, and although there are times we don’t necessarily want to hear it, it’s what we need. I used to consider myself a know-it-all, but truth be told, I don’t know how to handle the truth sometimes. If someone offers me constructive criticism, I don’t perceive it as that, but take it as judgement.

I’m clearly aware that this is not the best approach or attitude to have, but I’m working on that. Besides, if I went the rest of my life thinking that everybody was out to get me, or allow what people have to say about me negatively impact me, then I wouldn’t be living at all.

My perspective on people’s “truth” has completely changed, and I now see that they weren’t intentionally trying to hurt my feelings, but help me. Their help has allowed me to grow, evolve into a better person, and “toughen up”. Although I still have my softer side and am “tender” when I need to be, I’m so grateful for the “tough love”, because it has increased my strength.

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue


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