Posted in Doing just fine

You’ve gotta be okay with that

As much as we try to be everything to everyone, sometimes we need to be stingy with ourselves. This won’t sit well with some people, and for obvious reasons, they’ll more than likely resent you or adopt a negative attitude towards you. Considering the fact that they’re angry at you, they’ll label you as “acting different” or “being funny”, and you’ve gotta be okay with that.

Not everyone will like you….and you’ve gotta be okay with that!

Not everyone will treat you the way you treat them….and you’ve gotta be okay with that!

Not everyone will be your friend….and you’ve (really) gotta be okay with that!

Not everyone wants to see you do well or support you….and you’ve (definitely) gotta be okay with that!

No matter the amount of curve balls life throws at you, “you’ve gotta be okay” with it! If you can’t handle the pitches (problems) in the minor league, how do you ever expect to make it to the major league?

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in positive vibes only

Not your problem!

Being negative is a choice! People choose to be that way, because they are looking for two things: attention and someone to blame! Regardless of their antics, don’t alter your character to mirror theirs! Be the bigger person and walk away, even though you’ll be alone! We all have choices, and how people go about making theirs, is not your problem! Besides, if they’re unhappy, they can choose to change it. If not, then they should at least stop talking about it! Live your life, even if they hate seeing you enjoy it!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in All that glitters isn't gold!

Great Value

As far back as I can remember, I’ve always been shallow. The looks, personality and attitude had to be a 10, and if a person failed to meet those requirements, I failed to give them any of my time or attention. The old saying goes, “Looks aren’t everything”, but to me they were. I didn’t care if you had the best personality, a wad full of money or had everything good going for you, if I didn’t think you looked good, then I felt as though you weren’t good enough for me. Whew! Thank God for growth!

I now realize I was so outta pocket, and when I look back over the few guys I passed on, I whip myself tirelessly for making such a huge (and dumb) mistake. I was that shopper that always went for the “name brand items”, and passed on the ones that were “lesser in value”. I don’t know why, but the name brand items “appeared” to be better. However, the more I bought them, the less appealing they were. Truthfully speaking, I was choosing the things that looked good to me, but were anything but. Needless to say, “Everything that looks good to you, isn’t good for you”.

As I rose from the depths of my shallowness, I started to gravitate towards the “Great Value” items. Although they were cheaper, it turns out they were actually better than the more expensive items. All those years I passed on “mediocre”, because I thought I had something great. If you haven’t figured it out by now, my shopping experience has nothing to do with “food”. It’s about me making the wrong selections as it relates to men. I didn’t give the nice guys, who weren’t so easy on the eyes a chance, because I was too hung up with looks.

Turns out the couple that I did entertain, were no doubt good-looking, but that’s where it ended. They had no substance and essentially, were a waste of my time. As a result of me being so caught up with looks, I couldn’t see anything else. I’ve learned to never judge a book by its cover! Instead, I open it up, read a few chapters, and then determine whether or not I want to continue on. Besides, some of the least appealing books, end up being a pretty “good read”!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in Picture Perfect

You are PICTURE PERFECT!

Morning NOTE takers! I’m still immersed in writing and finishing this New York Times Bestseller, but I’ve missed you! I don’t have a lot of time, but I wanted to make time to say, a lot of times, we have a tendency of seeing ourselves through someone else’s eyes. We can’t visualize or see anything good about us, so we expect others to see in us, what we can’t see for ourselves. Yet, what we fail to understand, is that people won’t always paint the perfect picture for us, because to them you might be “sketchy”.

Imagine someone has given you a “sketch” of what your life is supposed to look like, but when it’s nothing like the drawing, you experience hurt and disappointment. However, what you fail to realize is that, you are the “Picasso” of your life, and the portrait you paint, will always look better than the one they “sketch” for you! Remember, a sketch is a “rough or unfinished” drawing. Just think, if we stood on the opinions of others, our lives will always be “undone”. But, if we take the canvas and easel back, we’d be “complete”.

Keep “painting” until you finish your best Masterpiece…..YOU!

Until next time NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in Mental Health Awareness

I AM YOU

6 months ago, I did what I felt at the time was best for you and what you desperately needed

But now you have me questioning if therapy was a big mistake

As you would have it, it wouldn’t be the first time you blame me

Sometimes, I feel as though you want to give up

But truth of the matter, I believe you may already have

I want you to be great, but no matter how many positive affirmations I give you

You follow up with a negative, as punishment for thinking you’re good,

Because you believe you’re anything but

Some days I hype you up like crazy, but eventually the cheers subside

Because you somehow convince me you’re nothing to “fuss over”

There’s nothing I want more than to love you

Not just you, but EVERYTHING there is about you

Your imperfections, good heart, even the things you say are “so bad”, I want to love them too

I’ve been trying to love you for years, but for some reason, you just won’t let me

You’ve given me what you feel are a million and one truths

But I see nothing but lies

You self-sabotage and call yourself names

And then get mad at me for not doing the same

I just don’t get you! You’re beautiful, gifted, successful and inspirational

Yet you say you have nothing to offer

Bullshit! In fact, everything you say and do, is complete bullshit!

You say you’re confident, yet you don’t have an ounce of self-esteem

You say, “I know who I am”, yet you’re struggling to make peace with who you are

You say you want to experience love, yet you can’t seem to show yourself any

You say you don’t see why people like you, appreciate you and look up to you

But, if I were you and didn’t think anything of myself, I wouldn’t be able to see it either

It’s amazing! I’ve never met a person who devalues themselves as much as you

Especially, when you are more valuable than ivory tusks and richer than 14kt gold!

What a joke! But, the sad thing is, self-hate is no laughing matter!

To be honest, I actually feel sorry for you, but because of YOUR pride, you won’t allow me to

I can’t imagine being a fraud and living a double life!

It’s exhausting, not to mention hard wearing a mask

You’ve got to be sure you wear the right one, know when to wear it and who to wear it around

Why can’t you just be yourself? I’m sorry, I forgot, you don’t like her

But, no matter how less you think of yourself, to me you’re the world!

Girl, you’ve got it going on, but the enemy has convinced you that you don’t

Needless to say, you ARE the enemy

I’d be lying if I didn’t say I’m sick of you!  

You can’t even look at yourself in the mirror, without finding something to bitch about

If it sounds as though I’m upset, it’s probably because I am

You’re hurting us, and you don’t even realize it

Or, maybe it’s exactly what you wanted….speaking of want

Why do I want more for you than you want for yourself?

Why am I busting my ass for YOUR success, if you keep telling yourself you don’t deserve it?

Why am I having dreams, making goals and seeing visions

When you don’t see yourself achieving them?

Why am I even writing to you, when you already know what YOU are doing?

Why am I questioning your motives, but most important, why am I YOU?

Moral of MY STORY, just because I’m “shining”, doesn’t mean I’m not living in “darkness”. Check on those that are strong in your life, because sometimes, even they get weak!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in Critical Thinking

Just checking in…

It’s okay to cross bridges, but before you get to the other side, think long and heavy if you’ll ever need to go back again! Remember, life isn’t always going to be a dry erase marker. Some things will be “permanent”. Be mindful of the way you talk to and treat people, because in the end, they’re going to be the very ones you need!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in I'll be back

Bear with me

Good Afternoon NOTE takers! I am in the midst of writing yet another FABULOUS book, and it’s going to require a lot of my time and devotion. Anytime I write, I feel what I produce is my best creation, but by far, this one is IT ! As a result of my commitment to complete this book, you may experience a day or two (maybe three), without a post, but please bear with me!

Peace and blessings…..and until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in Taking the high road

Walk….even if you’re alone!

I’m not a real big exercise enthusiast, but whenever I do work out, I’d rather walk more than anything. The gym bores me, but walking gives me clarity and peace of mind. I’m able to empty the mental garbage that has been dumped on me throughout the day, and process how well work may or may not have gone, without my thoughts trying to compete with the noisy machines or constant grunts of the weightlifters.

I used to have a walking buddy, but I now walk alone, because it’s what works best for me. At first, I missed the conversations we had, and the friendly competitions we often found ourselves in, by trying to see whose day was more worse than the other’s. However, the absence of chatter doesn’t bother me anymore, because I’m more in tune and attentive to what He is trying to say to me. My listening skills have sharpened and so have I.

A lot of times, you’re going to find yourself in situations that require you to “walk”. You’ve got to learn to “walk” away from negativity, and anything or anyone that is a threat to your peace of mind! Granted when you do make the decision to be the bigger person, you will be walking alone, because there aren’t many people who chose to take the high road. I used to be one of them, and always felt as though I “had to have the last say”.

However, now I’ve chosen to walk away from mess and all the negative thoughts that could harvest, as a result of me listening to garbage! Sometimes, it’s not easy, but it’s what’s best, not just for you, but the other person as well. Maybe by them seeing you not engage and instead choosing to walk, they’ll do the same!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in The Right Time

Just “Ripe” (You’ve been planted) The Conclusion

Now is the time to reap the harvest! You have blossomed into what God has created you to be! You should be very appreciative that He made you “take the scenic” route, and didn’t allow you to take any shortcuts. Had you taken the “quick and easy” route, you may have not ended up at your final destination. There were many snares (people) set in place to create a diversion, because they know the power you possess. However, thanks be to Him for always keeping you on track!

I know you didn’t understand it, nor liked it, and probably questioned His reason for doing, but aren’t you glad He kept you? Just imagine what would’ve happened, had He “picked” you up well before the harvest. What do you believe you would’ve looked like? Do you suppose you would’ve been as strong as you are now? Better yet, would you have been able to endure people trying to plant weeds around you, so they can “kill” you off, well before you even sprout?

NOW do you understand why it simply wasn’t your time? Oh, but the time is now! You are just “ripe” (right), and God is about to “uproot” you, so the whole world can see what He has done! You were created on purpose, for a purpose, and all that you went through was a part of His purpose!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in Arise!

The Emergence (You’ve been planted) Pt. IV

It’s exposure time! You’ve been planted, watered and nurtured, now it’s time for you to rise and start the process of becoming exactly what you were created to do….BLOSSOM! You’re in God’s garden, planted amongst some of His finest creations! Everyone is looking at you and admiring your beauty, because they’ve never seen anything like you before. You’re unique, radiant, beautiful to say the least, and you possess something no other flower has.

Sure, we’re all created in the likeness of His image, but your image is different. In fact, it’s so different, the rest of the flowers (people) are asking why their seed wasn’t as powerful as yours. Comparison and jealousy at its finest! However, because no two flowers are alike, they won’t ever look the same as you, let alone compete with your strength and ability to shine. There was a reason you were buried…..There was a reason you were hidden….There was a reason you had to go through this lengthy, yet necessary process. There was a reason for it ALL! He knew your worth, but I don’t think you did. Therefore, He had to give you time to make sure you grew into what He created you to be.

A lot of times we try to rush God, because we feel as though He’s taking too long to get us to where we want to be, when essentially, it’s not where He wants us to be. We adopt the “I’ll take it from here attitude”, and do what we feel is best for us, knowing very well, without Him, we’d get nowhere. As a result of our stubbornness, we become stagnant and then wonder why we’re stuck and can’t go any further. Because of His omniscience, He places us in a position of uncomfortableness, which leaves us with no choice but to trust Him. Keep following Him, and you’ll be amazed at your evolution!

Now that you’ve endured the darkness, grew in the midst of what seemed to be an unbearable and uncomfortable situation, you have arisen and are well on your way out. We see you, and what a beautiful site to see!

Until next my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue