As I was sitting in Starbucks writing on Sunday, one of my favorite Barista’s approached me and commented on my hair. For those of you who don’t know, I’m natural (no chemicals). She stated, “Oh my gosh, you took your braids out. I like your lil (little) afro”. I, however, wasn’t so enthused. I don’t necessarily love my hair, particularly the texture, because it can be a little “rough” at times. Clearly out of my comfort zone and slightly ashamed, she asked, “What? You don’t like your afro”? I replied, “No. I hate my hair, because I want it to be curly and it’s not”. “Oh wow”, was her reply, while looking shocked and slightly disturbed all at once.
She said, “Deetra, everybody’s hair is not going to be the same. However, you just gotta love yours the way it is”. She reiterated again, “You just gotta love it”, before smiling and walking away. I’m not going to lie, it made me feel bad, because one of the things that embodies me, actually bothered me. Even still, that night I went to bed checking the delivery date for a wig I had ordered hours earlier, because I was sure people at church and work, wouldn’t accept my natural hair too well. By morning, I remember getting ready for the day, while looking in the mirror trying to determine if I should wear a cap, or my hair as it is.
Then I realized, if I continue to conceal who I am, because I worry (constantly) about others opinion of me, then I was essentially saying, I valued their thoughts of me more, than I did my own. Having said that, I have been wig-less and weave-less for the past few days, and although I am slightly still uncomfortable, I realize that I’ve just gotta love it, regardless if others do or not. I am who I am because of God! Everything He does is intentional, and although I don’t have straight hair, I’m thankful that He made me and grateful for the hair He gave me! It’s mine, and I will LOVE it!
Be who you are! The only acceptance you need, is that of yourself!
Until next time my NOTE takers!