“A woman unaffected by insults, has made her enemies absolutely powerless”. ~Entity

There is no greater feeling than knowing I took their power away!  They are weak, defenseless and cannot fight back, even if they wanted to.  I tower over them like skyscrapers, looking down and laughing, because they can no longer hurt me with the venomous things that used to hurt me.  All the insults, darts and attacks they lodged at me, missed!  After years of trying to please many Masters, I cut the strings and begin to walk and talk on my own. When I didn’t care enough about me, I was affected by everything everyone said, even the things that weren’t true. When I developed a thicker skin, not even the “stings” could penetrate through.

One of my favorite and fellow bloggers, Dr. Perry, wrote a post on the “Law of allowances”. One of the most profound things he states is, “It is important to point out that the allowance of negative behaviors, from people in your life, is not because of a law of attraction but has everything to do with the law of allowances. What negative behaviors are you willing to allow from the people who surround you? It can be as simple as allowing a person to take a week to respond to your text. Or, it can be as serious as allowing abusive behaviors in your relationships”. The hurt and pain I experienced from others, was “allowed”. I “allowed” them to speak to me negatively. I “allowed” what they said to hurt me and change the way I viewed myself.

Speaking of allowed, one of the worst things you can do, is allow someone control over you (your emotions/feelings). In some of my many sessions, I would always tell my Therapist how this person made me mad or made me act a certain way. In her “strong” voice, she’d say, “A person will only do what you allow them to do, because you’ve given them control”. Although she can be a bit spicy at times in her delivery, she has given me nothing but truth! I didn’t realize what I was doing at the time, but essentially, I was giving my power away. Sad to say, I relinquished all control over to my enemies.

When I regained control, I saw the benefits of turning a blind eye to my enemies. Instead of fighting tic for tac with words, I simply didn’t use any. Remember, silence is a response, and when people talk about you, let them! Granted words will hurt, but they won’t when you don’t care!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

They will fight you, but they won’t win!

Everybody has experienced a bully or two in their lifetime, but I was fortunate to have many! Although strange to some, I consider it a compliment when people try to fight me, because I know it’s not what I am, but WHO’S AM I, that they’re mad about. Moreover, well before the battle is to ensue, God has already made me privy of the outcome, and let’s just say, the cards are NOT in their favor! Equipped with this, I sit back and watch as God swat my enemies away like flies, one by one. After all, He said, “Weapons would form, but they wouldn’t prosper”, so I know my enemies will NEVER touch me!

I’m special, intelligent, too powerful, and my enemies are NOT pleased with that. Clearly upset at me being one of God’s FAVORite, they work desperately to take me out. They guise themselves as “caring” friends, “friendly” colleagues and “fans” of my work, but in all reality, they were getting close to me, so they wouldn’t have to “shoot” so far away. They were strategic in calculating their plans, but their execution was poorly constructed. Fully locked and loaded, they pulled the trigger, but the bullet never left the chamber. They are amazed, puzzled and baffled to say the least, because they came prepared for battle, but the war is already won!

I am victorious and didn’t have to lift a finger, because I had already “lifted” them up to God! Sometimes you’ve simply got to walk away from people. Not because you’re afraid, but because you know it’s already handled. When you’re put in confrontational positions, don’t do anything. God said you only need to be still, and He’ll do everything else. It doesn’t matter if your family, friends or colleagues want to fight you, don’t hit back. They want you to engage, because they know your worth, and if they have any inkling they can bring about your demise, they’re certainly going to try.

However, you don’t have to fight anyone, because you’re already a winner! They see it, and more importantly, they see what God is doing for you and through you. I’m a winner, so there’s no way I’m going to switch places with a “loser”. They can’t stand it, and you can’t afford to be bothered. Keep allowing Him to use you, and keep Him first!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue


How does it feel to be outnumbered? Defeated? The feeling that the whole world is against you? Take a number, I’ve been waiting for you. Sometimes it feels easier to give in, than to stand up and fight. You ever get so tired of having to defend yourself to people, who have no value, place or purpose in your life? Great! Let’s link up and chat! Hopefully, by the end of this post, your feelings of defeat will be no more.

In all seriousness, I’ve always fought my whole life, so what people are doing to me now, shouldn’t come as any surprise. If anything, I should “expect” it, but we’ll talk about expectations at a later time. For instance, there are these “special” ladies that I know. For whatever reason, these “precious”, “sweet”, “caring” (I’m being totally facetious here) women often get the courage to try and outnumber me.

They hurl insults and threats, and fight with the other to be the first to “bring me down”. Time after time, I feel the sting from their thrown rocks, but it’s not enough to knock me down. If anything, when I see them, my feet are planted so firmly in the ground, that even their hurtful words couldn’t “blow me away”.

To be honest, I’ve never been exposed to so much jealously and hate, but I’m thankful to have withstood it all. I don’t know their reason (if any), why they despise me so much. I’ve tried to have conversations as to what the issue is, but somehow nobody ever seems to have one. All they know, it’s me! I’m flattered and thankful for the “compliment”, because it warms my heart to know people think the “world of me”, and I don’t even think of them.

You see, I’ve learned that some women are intentionally messy and intimidated by strong women. Because they aren’t comfortable with themselves or perceive you as a threat, they’ll do whatever they can to make you uncomfortable. This is why it’s so important to have high self-esteem and confidence, because during times like this, nothing or no one can tear you down!

My confidence, personality and looks are a solid 10, so there’s no way I’m going to allow a “struggling 2” to knock me off my high horses. Yes, I’m bragging, because I’ve come too far to allow what anyone say or do to compromise how I feel about me. It’s no wonder that when people can’t handle me by themselves, they recruit others for help. The sad thing about it is, the recruits are so gullible and have no mind of their own, that they allow others to think for them.

A lot of people have passed on the opportunity to get to know/befriend me, because their “friend” told them not to. Having no mind of your own has got to hurt! However, no matter how many people they draft, it’s still not enough to form an all-star team to beat me! I don’t laugh anymore to keep from crying…I laugh now, because I give them effort for trying!

I saw this post on Instagram that read, “Some people are about to be sorry they missed the opportunity to get to know you, because they listened to what somebody else said about you”. I feel soooo sorry for those people, but am glad that they are one less group that I don’t have to worry about!

People know when you have a lot to offer, are special or possess wonderful qualities in you, that they wished they had for themselves. Therefore, they’ll try to defeat you, outnumber you or do whatever they can to bring about your demise. Although it may be tough at times, remember they can only do to you what you allow them to!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue