Bad influence

If you want to give up, great! However, don’t get in the way of someone who’s trying to finish. People will quit on themselves, give up their goals, forget their dreams, and expect you to do the same. Somehow, they feel their lack of ambition is supposed to take away the initiative you’ve chosen to take, to pursue your dreams. Continue to run the course and show them what would’ve happened, had they done the same. Don’t allow anyone to steal your zeal! When you are affronted with someone who tries to influence you to quit, because they “need the company”, then you need to walk away. Besides, misery doesn’t care who joins it, as long as it’s not alone!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

While you wait

You had a vision, then you wrote it and now you’re waiting to watch it unfold. Because you’re afraid it’s going to pass you by, you sit and do absolutely nothing. First, what’s yours is not going to miss you or pass you by. Second, the time you’re spending doing nothing, should be used to make your vision a reality. I hate to burst your bubble, but success is not going to fall in your lap. Sure, you’ve planted the seed, but you can’t expect to reap the harvest, if you didn’t do any work to get it. Besides, the only way your plan will come to fruition, is if you plan out what you’re going to do, instead of just waiting on “it” to happen.

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

“There are NO shortcuts to success….REPEAT”!

When I was in high school, I played the clarinet and marched two years in the BEST band in the land, Sidney Lanier Marching Poets! We practiced a lot and sometimes they’d be so rigorous and exhausting, but the reward I received from marching and performing, was not only worth it, but priceless. After each practice and before we were dismissed, our band director Mr. Charles C. Cooper, would have us chant our motto: “There are NO shortcuts to success….REPEAT”!

There’d be times the drum major would have us repeat it over and over again, until we were begging to stop. I knew the message behind the motto, but I didn’t understand the message behind the motto, until I started my own business October 2018. Naturally, I’m a hustler, go-getter and will stop at absolutely nothing, to achieve my goals. One of the biggest goals I set for myself, was to have a successful and lucrative business/brand.

As crazy as I can be at times, I set my goal a little too high and became extremely hard on myself, because I made a promise I couldn’t keep. Essentially, within my first couple of months of being in business, I aimed to make thousands of dollars. A bit ambitious, but I was determined to do it. Within the first few months, I not only didn’t have the thousands of dollars I was hoping for, I was NO…WHERE…NEAR…CLOSE!

Initially, I beat myself up…pretty bad, but I remembered the motto Mr. Cooper had us to chant. Rather than continue to beat myself up, I just knew I had to be more realistic with my goals, and not expect success to happen overnight, or try to take any “shortcuts”, because there are none. Five months after starting my business of writing and publishing my books, I have added Motivational Speaker to my resume, and the door of opportunities having been opening up for me!

Two months ago, I prayed to God for paid speaking opportunities, and He has definitely delivered. I’m so blessed and fortunate to have booked 3 paid speaking engagements, and I just know this is only the beginning! Although my dreams and goal of having thousands of dollars within my first month of business didn’t go as planned, I PLAN to have that and so much more, by the year’s end. Remember when I told you all I was a 34-year-old multi-millionaire? #waitforit

No matter how high you set your goals, or how ambitious you are, if you don’t meet the expectations you set for yourself, when you said you would, don’t give up! Keep going, and remember, “There are NO shortcuts to success…..REPEAT”!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

When you leave “we” for “me”

The woman I am becoming is going to upset some people, cost me a few family members, friendships and relationships, but I’m perfectly okay with that, because in the end, I choose ME! ~ Deetra La’Rue

This afternoon as I was reading my daily devotions, I read that “Those who pursue God’s purpose will always face hard times, troubles and trials”. I’m not sure whose words those belong to, because the plan didn’t give a name or author. Although I don’t know this person’s identity, one thing I do know is, ever since I turned from my old, unaccepting ways, I’ve been met with nothing but jealousy and problems.

I never understood how the minute one decides to live their life according to God’s purpose and try to do the right things, they’re automatically the enemy. I’ve been very forthcoming that I didn’t necessarily have the best attitude and do things the way God intended, but after finally getting my stuff together, I decided I wanted to live a more positive and influential life, not one that was insulting.

There were so many people who pointed out the error of my ways, but I honestly didn’t pay them any mind, because I felt like I was “faultless”. However, after one too many people started saying, “Hey Dee, this is what you’re doing….”, I decided I needed to sit up and pay attention. After all, my life wasn’t going in the direction I wanted it to go, and I now know it had a lot to do with my attitude and foolish ways.

After doing a much needed self-inventory, I started to read my Bible more, spend more time with God and chased after what He wanted for me, as opposed to what I wanted. When I left the negativity alone, my thoughts became positive and God’s will and purpose were more clear than ever. But, I wasn’t going to be able to pursue His plans, until I gave up my own. One of those plans were to remain tied to the same people who I’ve always had a connection too. Not so, said God!

“People who have chosen the path of God will always be met with the fiercest of opposition”. ~Author Unknown

I had what I thought were some pretty rock-solid friendships and relationships, until I started pulling away from them and drawing closer to God and what He has for me. When I showed them that “we” was no longer an option for “me”, I was met with attitudes, cold-shoulders, jealous and envy. You’d think I had committed a heinous crime against them, but the only thing I was guilty of was wanting to be and do better!

I guess my success or this newfound me, was too much to handle! Crazy thing is, I’ve always been the type of person that said I would include everybody once I won. But, it wasn’t that they didn’t want me to share, it was just that they didn’t want to see me WIN! As long as I was a part of the “we”, foolish or craziness, I was “good” in their eyes, because we were all the “same”.

However, when I said I’m going to act right and do “me”, suddenly I was the enemy or “better than”, when I don’t even act that way (NEVER WILL). You know, people are okay with you being less than them or equal to them, but when they feel you are well on your way above them, they resent you for your success/accomplishments, and will do everything they can to see you fail, even it means they’re the ones to pull you back down.

I want everybody to do well and I don’t want anyone to fail, because I’m afraid of them succeeding….even more than me. I would be foolish if I said that all I’m experiencing from people now, doesn’t bother me, because it does. But, one thing that doesn’t, is my ability to walk away! Besides, I don’t want to affiliate myself with someone or people who sees me as a threat, or choose to involve me in a secret competition that I’m not even aware that I’m a part of.

I’m thankful for the ones who are not offended or bothered by my success, because they want me to continue to do well. Note takers, the road to success is not an easy one, and often times we’ll want to take those we’re familiar with or close to, along with us, because it can be lonely. But, whatever you do, don’t allow them to hold you hostage to the idea of staying the same or remaining a part of “the group”, when you know God has better plans for you.

Sometimes we can get so caught up in pleasing “we”, that we forget all about “me”. I love me, I appreciate and am proud of the woman I am evolving into, even if that means being by myself at times. But, I’m okay with that, because I’ll ALWAYS choose me!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Success: When you don’t know how to feel!

I feel overwhelmed! I’m getting all the things I’ve always prayed to God for, but now I don’t know how to process it all. Everything that I’ve prayed years for, is happening so fast, literally right after another, and before I can enjoy one blessing, I’m met with another. This is NOT a complaint or an act of ungratefulness, because I’m sure there are countless of others praying for what I have. However, what do you do when you don’t know how to deal with your blessings? I’m very fortunate and grateful for all that God has bestowed upon me, but sometimes I struggle with them.

Sometimes I don’t feel like an accomplished Author and Writer, and no matter how often people remind me of my success, I just smile and say “thanks”. That’s not to say I’m not appreciative of God’s blessings, because I am. I wrote my first book in 2 days, my second book in 18 days and published both within 4 months of each other (If you are a writer, you know firsthand, this is UNHEARD of), and although I was extremely elated when I completed both and so very proud of myself, no more than a few days later, I felt as though I hadn’t really done anything. It seems the people around me are more proud of me and happy for me, than I am.

Before I published my second book, God blessed me with my very own business, CH1, and I had been praying and fasting to Him for years for that. When I finally got confirmation that it was going to come to fruition, I was so happy and felt extremely accomplished, when I received my business license. However, not even 24hrs later, I was back to feeling “normal”. “What dampened my mood”? I honestly couldn’t answer, let alone had a reason for it. To be honest, right now, I just don’t know how to feel. But, what I do know is, I gotta get a hand on this whole “success” thing…..really fast! I know I’ve got to make a quick adjustment, because God has revealed to me so many more blessings, for 2019 in particular.

When I look back over all that I’ve accomplished, I’m not sure if the reason I feel so “blah”, is because I sometimes feel as though I don’t deserve my blessings, or it could be due to the simple fact that I just don’t know how to process it all, nor do I want the attention that comes along with it. I do know, however, that I am extremely grateful and beyond blessed that God still hears and answers prayers. For all of my “note” takers, rest assured that God hears your prayers and will answer them, in HIS timing, not yours! Due understand that you need to be getting prepared and ready to receive everything that you have asked Him for and more!

Now my prayers have shifted to God, that once He answers them, He doesn’t allow me to become overwhelmed by them! Again, I’m grateful and thankful, but still trying to balance them all. Nonetheless, I know just how He continues to bless me, He’ll help me adapt as well….and He’ll do the same for you!

Until next time my “Note” takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

NO WHITE FLAGS!

“It’s okay to fall down sometimes, just don’t stay there”! ~Deetra La’Rue

People are so quick to throw in the “white towel”, because it’s so much easier to just quit.  However, what they fail to realize is, the moment they give up, they forfeit their hopes and dreams.  Hope nowadays, seem to be the very thing a lot of people don’t have.  As I mentioned in my book, “Let’s TALK”, so many people are okay with falling down and remaining there, because it’s too much of a hassle for them to get back up again. 

Rather than use their strength to get up, they lie there, because they feel as though their situation isn’t going to get any better….which is something they don’t want to face anyway.  Every body has had their fair share of failures, and will probably expect more throughout the course of their lifetime. We all know it doesn’t matter how many times you fall down, as long as you get back up.  For some, getting back up is almost instant and adds fuel to their fire, which gives them the drive they need to succeed. 

For others, falling down just confirms the idea that they aren’t meant to succeed, so what’s the use in trying, right? #Wrong! Our mind wants us to believe that when we aren’t experiencing the success that we envisioned so quickly, we need to “wave our white flags”, because we’ll never achieve our goals.  That’s the problem, too many of us are still waiting on the microwave to go off at any moment now, because it’s much quicker than allowing our hard work to bake, while we sit through and enjoy the process. 

That’s it! Nobody wants to endure the process, they only want the results.  But, how can you honestly appreciate and enjoy your success, if you didn’t do anything to get it? If anything, it should make your success that much sweeter to have, because you know of all the hard work, sweat (stress, yes that too) and tears you put behind it.  Nobody ever said it would be easy, but rest assured, it’ll be worth it in the end! 

So, resist the urge to “throw in the towel” and “wave the white flag”! Success is hard work, and again, it doesn’t equate to how much money you have, so stop beating yourself up about it! Remember, “It’s okay to fall down sometimes, just don’t stay there”! 

Writefully yours, 

Deetra La’Rue