It’s not over

When you feel yourself slip, tighten up your grip

If you want to reach the top, keep going, you mustn’t stop

When things get rough, you don’t have the option to give up

You’ve been running a race for quite some time, but keep pushing until you cross the finish line

It’s easy to throw in the towel, when things aren’t going your way, but success takes time and doesn’t happen in a day

You want to be twenty steps ahead, yet you keep getting knocked back to one, but no matter how many setbacks you encounter, it’s not over until you’re done

To all my “quitters”, stop quitting! You’ll be amazed at how far you get or how much you can accomplish, if only you continue on! Things will be hard, but they’ll get easier with time!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

A different agenda

For two years, I practically begged this well-known Editor, to allow me to not only write a post for her column, but to become a permanent staff writer on the team. I’d given her samples of my work (my best work at that) and still, no response. I know one would think, after a few months’ time or a year even, they’d give up, but I couldn’t. I kept on asking and being persistent, because eventually it’ll pay off, right? And guess what, it did! I started this blog November 2018 in one of my favorite spots on the earth, Starbucks. As I was crying (literally) and asking God why “that lady” wouldn’t let me write for her column, He gave me the idea to create something that He wanted, and others so desperately needed. The agenda was the same, but the only difference, it was on MY platform instead of hers!

I know I am more than skilled, gifted and capable of writing, so it was never a question as to whether or not I couldn’t, but why someone wouldn’t acknowledge it. I understand everyone has their own preference and style, and maybe, mine was not it. I hold no ill-will or resentment towards the young lady, and I even support her column. Creating this blog has been one of the best things that could’ve happened to me, and apparently you all as well. One thing I have learned, is that we’re so quick to add to someone else’s success, when God wants us to have our own! There’s nothing wrong with helping others, but sometimes God will intervene, because He has a different (and better) agenda than the one we have for ourselves!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Quarantined, NO chill

If you’re keeping up with the latest trends or sayings, I should say, then you’ll notice the newly saturated expression is “Quarantined and chill”, which is a comical spin on “Netflix and chill”. As I scroll through my Instagram newsfeed, that phrase is all I see, supported with a photo or meme of people rejoicing, because they are staying in the house doing absolutely nothing, which is the basis for my rant. Rather than use this time to work on their goals, create other forms of revenue or do anything constructive that will benefit them once God eradicates this pandemic, they’ve chosen to just “chill”. What infuriates me even more, is that people are treating the isolation from COVID-19 as a vacation, when they can’t even afford to “take ONE day off” from working on their goals. I’ll admit, I was one of the first ones to want to work remotely, but it has been nothing but a headache since I started. (Note: I am thankful to be gainfully employed, because I realize there are millions of people without jobs, so I don’t take anything for granted.)

However, although I am at home, I still MAKE time to fulfill my obligations for my 9-5 employer, and my other employer, ME! I refuse to allow a minute of my day to pass by, without me seizing the opportunity to do something to advance me in my career or life. I work hard now, not just so I can have fun, shop or travel the world, but because I want a better life for my future husband and children, so their lives won’t be a repeat of mine. My future has already “secured the bag”, because I used the time I have now to work on my goals, so I can live the way I want later. I’ll never invest more into a company, than I would on myself! For all the people that complained about never having “the time” to do what you wanted to do, because you were always in the office, away traveling for business purposes or constantly doing for others, what do you have to say for yourself now?

Being quarantined is not an excuse to be lazy! Get up from that bed/couch and go to WORK!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

More than you’ll ever know

When I look back on my awards, degrees and times of recognition, I say, “Wow! You did that! I’m so proud of you”. Today, I understand the value of all those accolades, because I didn’t see it then. To be honest, I didn’t look at them as accomplishments, but merely something I “had to do”. I’d literally “live in the moment”, and quickly move on to the next thing. “You can’t dwell too long”, I’d tell myself. “Keep it moving, or you’ll be put in a position where you can’t”. Good riddance! No wonder I couldn’t enjoy the fruits of my labor. However, I now realize, they are worth more than I’ll ever know. I don’t take any of it for granted or think so little of it, because there are many people who didn’t have the privilege of going to college and earn two degrees like me, let alone one. I’m grateful for every accomplishment, because it lets me know I not only “did that”, but I EARNED it….and all the adoration as well!

Anything you do, regardless of how big or small, always be proud!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Bad influence

If you want to give up, great! However, don’t get in the way of someone who’s trying to finish. People will quit on themselves, give up their goals, forget their dreams, and expect you to do the same. Somehow, they feel their lack of ambition is supposed to take away the initiative you’ve chosen to take, to pursue your dreams. Continue to run the course and show them what would’ve happened, had they done the same. Don’t allow anyone to steal your zeal! When you are affronted with someone who tries to influence you to quit, because they “need the company”, then you need to walk away. Besides, misery doesn’t care who joins it, as long as it’s not alone!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

While you wait

You had a vision, then you wrote it and now you’re waiting to watch it unfold. Because you’re afraid it’s going to pass you by, you sit and do absolutely nothing. First, what’s yours is not going to miss you or pass you by. Second, the time you’re spending doing nothing, should be used to make your vision a reality. I hate to burst your bubble, but success is not going to fall in your lap. Sure, you’ve planted the seed, but you can’t expect to reap the harvest, if you didn’t do any work to get it. Besides, the only way your plan will come to fruition, is if you plan out what you’re going to do, instead of just waiting on “it” to happen.

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

“There are NO shortcuts to success….REPEAT”!

When I was in high school, I played the clarinet and marched two years in the BEST band in the land, Sidney Lanier Marching Poets! We practiced a lot and sometimes they’d be so rigorous and exhausting, but the reward I received from marching and performing, was not only worth it, but priceless. After each practice and before we were dismissed, our band director Mr. Charles C. Cooper, would have us chant our motto: “There are NO shortcuts to success….REPEAT”!

There’d be times the drum major would have us repeat it over and over again, until we were begging to stop. I knew the message behind the motto, but I didn’t understand the message behind the motto, until I started my own business October 2018. Naturally, I’m a hustler, go-getter and will stop at absolutely nothing, to achieve my goals. One of the biggest goals I set for myself, was to have a successful and lucrative business/brand.

As crazy as I can be at times, I set my goal a little too high and became extremely hard on myself, because I made a promise I couldn’t keep. Essentially, within my first couple of months of being in business, I aimed to make thousands of dollars. A bit ambitious, but I was determined to do it. Within the first few months, I not only didn’t have the thousands of dollars I was hoping for, I was NO…WHERE…NEAR…CLOSE!

Initially, I beat myself up…pretty bad, but I remembered the motto Mr. Cooper had us to chant. Rather than continue to beat myself up, I just knew I had to be more realistic with my goals, and not expect success to happen overnight, or try to take any “shortcuts”, because there are none. Five months after starting my business of writing and publishing my books, I have added Motivational Speaker to my resume, and the door of opportunities having been opening up for me!

Two months ago, I prayed to God for paid speaking opportunities, and He has definitely delivered. I’m so blessed and fortunate to have booked 3 paid speaking engagements, and I just know this is only the beginning! Although my dreams and goal of having thousands of dollars within my first month of business didn’t go as planned, I PLAN to have that and so much more, by the year’s end. Remember when I told you all I was a 34-year-old multi-millionaire? #waitforit

No matter how high you set your goals, or how ambitious you are, if you don’t meet the expectations you set for yourself, when you said you would, don’t give up! Keep going, and remember, “There are NO shortcuts to success…..REPEAT”!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

When you leave “we” for “me”

The woman I am becoming is going to upset some people, cost me a few family members, friendships and relationships, but I’m perfectly okay with that, because in the end, I choose ME! ~ Deetra La’Rue

This afternoon as I was reading my daily devotions, I read that “Those who pursue God’s purpose will always face hard times, troubles and trials”. I’m not sure whose words those belong to, because the plan didn’t give a name or author. Although I don’t know this person’s identity, one thing I do know is, ever since I turned from my old, unaccepting ways, I’ve been met with nothing but jealousy and problems.

I never understood how the minute one decides to live their life according to God’s purpose and try to do the right things, they’re automatically the enemy. I’ve been very forthcoming that I didn’t necessarily have the best attitude and do things the way God intended, but after finally getting my stuff together, I decided I wanted to live a more positive and influential life, not one that was insulting.

There were so many people who pointed out the error of my ways, but I honestly didn’t pay them any mind, because I felt like I was “faultless”. However, after one too many people started saying, “Hey Dee, this is what you’re doing….”, I decided I needed to sit up and pay attention. After all, my life wasn’t going in the direction I wanted it to go, and I now know it had a lot to do with my attitude and foolish ways.

After doing a much needed self-inventory, I started to read my Bible more, spend more time with God and chased after what He wanted for me, as opposed to what I wanted. When I left the negativity alone, my thoughts became positive and God’s will and purpose were more clear than ever. But, I wasn’t going to be able to pursue His plans, until I gave up my own. One of those plans were to remain tied to the same people who I’ve always had a connection too. Not so, said God!

“People who have chosen the path of God will always be met with the fiercest of opposition”. ~Author Unknown

I had what I thought were some pretty rock-solid friendships and relationships, until I started pulling away from them and drawing closer to God and what He has for me. When I showed them that “we” was no longer an option for “me”, I was met with attitudes, cold-shoulders, jealous and envy. You’d think I had committed a heinous crime against them, but the only thing I was guilty of was wanting to be and do better!

I guess my success or this newfound me, was too much to handle! Crazy thing is, I’ve always been the type of person that said I would include everybody once I won. But, it wasn’t that they didn’t want me to share, it was just that they didn’t want to see me WIN! As long as I was a part of the “we”, foolish or craziness, I was “good” in their eyes, because we were all the “same”.

However, when I said I’m going to act right and do “me”, suddenly I was the enemy or “better than”, when I don’t even act that way (NEVER WILL). You know, people are okay with you being less than them or equal to them, but when they feel you are well on your way above them, they resent you for your success/accomplishments, and will do everything they can to see you fail, even it means they’re the ones to pull you back down.

I want everybody to do well and I don’t want anyone to fail, because I’m afraid of them succeeding….even more than me. I would be foolish if I said that all I’m experiencing from people now, doesn’t bother me, because it does. But, one thing that doesn’t, is my ability to walk away! Besides, I don’t want to affiliate myself with someone or people who sees me as a threat, or choose to involve me in a secret competition that I’m not even aware that I’m a part of.

I’m thankful for the ones who are not offended or bothered by my success, because they want me to continue to do well. Note takers, the road to success is not an easy one, and often times we’ll want to take those we’re familiar with or close to, along with us, because it can be lonely. But, whatever you do, don’t allow them to hold you hostage to the idea of staying the same or remaining a part of “the group”, when you know God has better plans for you.

Sometimes we can get so caught up in pleasing “we”, that we forget all about “me”. I love me, I appreciate and am proud of the woman I am evolving into, even if that means being by myself at times. But, I’m okay with that, because I’ll ALWAYS choose me!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue