Posted in Doing just fine

You’ve gotta be okay with that

As much as we try to be everything to everyone, sometimes we need to be stingy with ourselves. This won’t sit well with some people, and for obvious reasons, they’ll more than likely resent you or adopt a negative attitude towards you. Considering the fact that they’re angry at you, they’ll label you as “acting different” or “being funny”, and you’ve gotta be okay with that.

Not everyone will like you….and you’ve gotta be okay with that!

Not everyone will treat you the way you treat them….and you’ve gotta be okay with that!

Not everyone will be your friend….and you’ve (really) gotta be okay with that!

Not everyone wants to see you do well or support you….and you’ve (definitely) gotta be okay with that!

No matter the amount of curve balls life throws at you, “you’ve gotta be okay” with it! If you can’t handle the pitches (problems) in the minor league, how do you ever expect to make it to the major league?

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in positive vibes only

Have a GREAT day!

Every morning like clock work, when I step into my office, I sit down and immediately prepare my TDL (to do list) for the day. I place a check box next to each agenda I plan to complete, and check them off as I go. This may come as a surprise to others, but the first box that I have to check off is, the one that says, “Have a GREAT day”! Yes, I purposely tell myself to “have a great day”, and believe it or not, it’s THE most important bullet on my list.

I aspire to live and lead my life with positivity, and if I’m not giving myself positive affirmations as such, then I allow others to “readjust my thermostat”. Immediately, my day goes from a cool 69, to a blistering 100 degrees, because I’ve allowed something someone said or did to get to me. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to fight someone just to regain control of my thermostat. It’s easy to become distracted or allow something to disrupt your day, when you don’t start off positive.

Self-care is extremely important to me, because if I don’t take care of myself, then how am I going to be of service to someone else? If that’s the case, I wouldn’t be able to complete my job duties successfully, and I simply can’t have that happen, when so many people rely and depend on me. Besides, when my day is not going right, neither is my attitude! I know some people are probably saying and thinking, “It doesn’t take all that”, but it does when I want to be my best self!

What are you telling yourself? Do you think or speak of yourself with positivity? Or, are you waiting on someone else to be your “hype man”?

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in Loving me

I feel good when I “feel good” about me

Everyday I try to give myself positive affirmations, because if I relied on others to do it for me, my self-esteem would be pretty much non-existent. I make sure I reassure myself that I am beautiful, good enough and more than worth the wait! To be totally honest, I don’t feel good, when I don’t “feel good” about me.

I’ve probably mentioned this a few times in past posts, but I used to look to others for validation or to reaffirm what I thought, I thought (no typo) about myself. However, when the validations weren’t pouring in, I started bleeding out. I felt hurt and offended almost, that nobody seemed to feel the way about me, the way I felt about me.  Am I making sense or causing confusion?

Whichever the case, I thought what I needed from them (whoever they were) was what I needed for me. Essentially speaking, no matter how many compliments I got, praises or “Amen”, it didn’t make me feel good, because I didn’t feel good about me. I know deep down inside, I have a lot of attributes and plenty to offer, but I had a hard time believing and seeing it.

Rather than throw another pity party for myself, my positive affirmations got stronger and so did I. I had to learn that I couldn’t rely on anyone to make me feel good about myself…..that’s my job! I couldn’t expect anyone to love me “for me” (not speaking in the context of who I am)……that’s my job! I couldn’t expect anyone to do anything for me, that I knew I needed to be doing for myself……again, that’s my job!

When I started to feel good about myself, overall, I felt good! When I let go of what I thought I needed from people or to hear from them, I felt even better! When I let go of the thought of letting go and “JUST LET GO”, I felt my absolute BEST! A handful of regrets later, I STILL feel good! I was so inspired to transfer what I had done for me to help others, that I created a “Positive Affirmation (I AM MORE THAN….) Board for my students.

On the board, there are blank balloons, and anytime they are feeling weighed down with something or someone, they are to write it on the balloon and thumb tack it on the board. In essence, they are releasing the balloon/s (the negatives) and giving themselves positive affirmation/reassurance that they are enough and “more than” whatever they write inside the balloons.

Have you “released” any balloons lately?

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue