Every step counts

There’s nothing more aggravating than trying to assemble something, that’s come with a thousand and one pieces. We all dread reading the ever confusing thick “white booklet”, also known as the instructions. Before we even allow ourselves the chance to fully read it, let alone follow it, we quickly try to do it on our own. “I got this”, we say. Well, a migraine and a few hours later, we’re elated and proud of ourselves for completing the assembly. As we try to put it to use, we realize it’s not working. We’re dumbfounded, because we know for a fact we did everything right, so we’re not sure where we went wrong. Although we’d like to think we dotted every “i” and crossed all t’s, we forgot one very important thing…. to follow all the steps. Because of our impatience and urgency for wanting things now (and I’m talking right now), we’ll skip steps 2-5 to get to 6, when 2-5 are most critical to us. It’s during these steps that we learn what we need to complete the process.

Do you often find yourself hurrying to the next phase, by jumping over steps, because you simply can’t wait? Don’t worry, we’re in this thing together! Take a marriage for example. Typically, before you marry, you go through the dating phase. Here, you learn each other, and share your likes, dislikes, etc. Next, (if all goes well) you meet what could possibly be your best friend or your worst enemy, “the family”. At this point, you’re about to determine if you’re going to run to the altar or for your life. LOL! All jokes aside, this step is important, because if you’re planning a future with someone, you want to know what you’re getting yourself into. Once you pass this step, it’s smooth sailing…until you encounter a riptide: living together. This is important for a lot of people, because they want to know if they are able to co-live with their partner, if they’re clean, leave the seat up, and so forth. In other words, do I really want to get married to you!

Lastly, you’ve made it to the homestretch, the final step, marriage. Do understand that although a lot of people will make it here, they won’t stay. When they skipped steps 2-5, they failed to get what’s required to not only help them reach step 6, but to stay there. In most cases, this doesn’t apply to everybody, because I’m sure there are plenty of couples who went straight from the first date to the courthouse. Although this is particularly not about marriage, and is probably not a good analogy, I can only hope you see what I’m trying to convey: have patience! It’s so easy to become antsy and want to rush to see what’s next. So much so, you end up skipping the line, when you needed to wait your turn. Remember, every step counts, so please take your time and wait!  

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Now is not the time

I want to be married, right now! I want a set of identical twin girls, right now! I want my house built from the ground up, right now! I want to be an Academic Dean, right now! I want to cut the ribbon for the grand opening of my business, CH1 Bookstore and Lounge, right now! There are so many things I want “right now”, but now is not the time! Ecclesiastes 3:1 tells us, “For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under the sun”, and when the time is right, it’ll happen. Not just a little bit, but all of it! When it comes to things I want or would like to do, my pursuit is undeniably fervent. Being eager is a good thing, but it’s also my problem. I can’t stay where I’m at long enough to enjoy what I have or get what I need, because I’m always on the move. “I gotta move, because God ain’t”. I gotta move, before someone else beats me to it”. I gotta move, because if I don’t act now, the opportunity won’t come again”. But, if it’s mine, it’ll return. Needless to say, I gotta keep moving. However, I can’t go anywhere until God tells me to! When I feel as though He’s not moving fast enough, I intervene and try to speed up the process, but He always brings me to a complete standstill, and I can’t stand that! Don’t you see, I can’t afford to stop? If I do, it’ll delay my mission, but if I don’t, God will abort it. So, I might as well wait. Besides, I can’t accelerate, until He releases the brake. When it’s time for me to go, I will. But, now is not the time!

Until next “time” my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Wait on the promise

I don’t know which is worse, waiting on something to happen or waiting on someone to make it happen. Either way, I can be pretty antsy at times and hate to be kept waiting, especially considering the length of my wait time. The uncertainty of whether or not I’ll get what I want hoovers over my head like an aircraft, but when I look up and see who’s flying, my doubts starts to wither away. In past situations, I’ve moved too quickly, when I all I needed to do was slow down and “be still”. Besides, my hastiness never got me anywhere. I learned all to well, that if what you are seeking to do is not of God’s will, then it won’t get done! It doesn’t matter how bad you want it or how much you petition God for it, if He didn’t promise it, you won’t receive it, regardless of whatever it is. And sometimes, it’s best that we don’t get “it“. Getting what we want versus having what we need, makes all the difference in the world. I don’t care how impatient you are or how discouraged you get, thinking “it’s” never going to happen. It will, but all in God’s timing. His promises are still good! All we have to do is wait on Him!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Enjoy

Have you ever been so happy and excited about the great things that are taking place in your life, that you can barely wait to see what happens next? Do you find yourself rushing to get to another adventure, although you’re not finished with the one you’re on? Great! Because, I thought I was the only one. The last few years have been pretty amazing for me, and I couldn’t be more happier. However, I couldn’t be more impatient either, because I’m constantly in a hurry to get to the next phase of my journey. Yet, I have to question myself, “Are you really enjoying the journey”? After all, how can I be, if my mind has left the “party”, only to plan the upcoming one. Rather than “bolting” like Usain to the next level, I’m just going to sit still and enjoy the fruits of my labor!

Don’t get so caught up living your life as though you are in a race. Slow down and appreciate the small things, as you look forward to the bigger ones to come.

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

The Breakdown

Feeling overwhelmed? Can’t seem to make sense of your life, because you’ve got too much on your plate, and don’t know how you’re going to consume it all? Rather than try and take everything on at once, establish an outline that not only creates organization, but allows you to compartmentalize your life. That way, you won’t feel suffocated or disappointed when you don’t accomplish everything you want, either because you forgot to complete a task, you weren’t realistic enough or simply too ambitious. Then too, it leaves little room for error. However, should you make a few mistakes, don’t fret. We’ve all experienced a breakdown, a time or two. Remember, it’s okay to fall down sometimes, just don’t stay there!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

“There are NO shortcuts to success….REPEAT”!

When I was in high school, I played the clarinet and marched two years in the BEST band in the land, Sidney Lanier Marching Poets! We practiced a lot and sometimes they’d be so rigorous and exhausting, but the reward I received from marching and performing, was not only worth it, but priceless. After each practice and before we were dismissed, our band director Mr. Charles C. Cooper, would have us chant our motto: “There are NO shortcuts to success….REPEAT”!

There’d be times the drum major would have us repeat it over and over again, until we were begging to stop. I knew the message behind the motto, but I didn’t understand the message behind the motto, until I started my own business October 2018. Naturally, I’m a hustler, go-getter and will stop at absolutely nothing, to achieve my goals. One of the biggest goals I set for myself, was to have a successful and lucrative business/brand.

As crazy as I can be at times, I set my goal a little too high and became extremely hard on myself, because I made a promise I couldn’t keep. Essentially, within my first couple of months of being in business, I aimed to make thousands of dollars. A bit ambitious, but I was determined to do it. Within the first few months, I not only didn’t have the thousands of dollars I was hoping for, I was NO…WHERE…NEAR…CLOSE!

Initially, I beat myself up…pretty bad, but I remembered the motto Mr. Cooper had us to chant. Rather than continue to beat myself up, I just knew I had to be more realistic with my goals, and not expect success to happen overnight, or try to take any “shortcuts”, because there are none. Five months after starting my business of writing and publishing my books, I have added Motivational Speaker to my resume, and the door of opportunities having been opening up for me!

Two months ago, I prayed to God for paid speaking opportunities, and He has definitely delivered. I’m so blessed and fortunate to have booked 3 paid speaking engagements, and I just know this is only the beginning! Although my dreams and goal of having thousands of dollars within my first month of business didn’t go as planned, I PLAN to have that and so much more, by the year’s end. Remember when I told you all I was a 34-year-old multi-millionaire? #waitforit

No matter how high you set your goals, or how ambitious you are, if you don’t meet the expectations you set for yourself, when you said you would, don’t give up! Keep going, and remember, “There are NO shortcuts to success…..REPEAT”!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Can’t hardly wait

Sometimes I can’t stand the fact that I’m so “impulsive”, as one of my students so kindly (insert sarcasm) put it. “Mrs. B., sometimes I feel like you don’t have any patience with us, because you seem to be in a hurry a lot”, was the words my student boldly said to me. For once, I didn’t argue, because I know how I can be in a bit of a “rush” at times.

I’m not sure why though, because it’s not like I’m racing with someone, in hopes of beating them across the finish line. I’m the type of person who knows exactly what I want and will stop at nothing to get it, but it’s the waiting to get it that makes me antsy. If I don’t get what I want when I want it, then I start to take matters into my own hands, and try to speed up the process.

However, it’s sometimes what we go through in the “process” that prepares us for what we’re waiting for. I have a lot of goals, dreams and aspirations that I have yet to fulfill, and I find myself sitting wondering why they haven’t been attained. It’s not that I’m lazy or don’t put in the work to get what I want, but maybe God doesn’t think I’m ready to be where I want to be……just yet!

Hence, enduring the process to get to the outcome, which sometimes means waiting. It sucks, but at the same time, I know it’ll be worth it in the end. I’ve learned a big lesson out of this all, and it’s when I can’t hardly wait for something and try to rush my way through, I often end up not getting the outcome I desperately wanted. It pays to just keep still and be patient!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Cinderella ain’t dead!

Keep dreaming….happy endings still come true! ~Deetra La’Rue

I’m a hopeless romantic, sometimes a little too hopeful, strung out on the idea of being in love.  There was a point in time in which I thought I was, but the idea quickly faded, soon after he did. I can remember experiencing what I thought to be my Prince Charming, however, he lacked the charm and was anything but royal. As a child, I’ve always been fond of fairytales, and found myself caught up in planning my own happy ending.  Cinderella and Ariel were two of my favorites to watch, but I didn’t like the fact that those Princesses didn’t look like me, in fact, none of them did. It wasn’t until I saw the Princess and the Frog, and finally realized that brown girls can be of royalty too!

I’ve been entangled in a couple of failed “situations”, in which I thought I had my knight and shining armor.  Even though they didn’t turn out as planned, I still raced to sleep at night. After my prayers and talk with God, I closed my eyes and watched the movie reel of my love life, but when I awakened, my fairy god-mother is nowhere to be found. But, I still continue to dream, because I know there is a man out there for me, and one day soon, I’m going to get my happy ending. I know that the cartoons and movies like to sell viewers what they call the “fantasy life”, because they think it’s the closest to what we’ll get to real.

Besides, they think a woman being “swept off her feet” is nothing but a figment of one’s imagination or just a really sweet “dream”. However, I know Kings and Queens do exist, and our significant other is waiting for the day we cross paths. Unfortunately for us, sometimes we allow our impatience to get the best of us, that we go seek the very thing or person, God says is supposed to find us. We’re exhausted, lonely, single and most of all, tired of watching others live happily ever after. Immediately, our thoughts begin to get the best of us, because we can’t understand why their dreams are coming true, and we’re still sound asleep.

Rather than sit still, we become huntsmen and lie in the cut, waiting to attack our prey. Days, months and years go by, and still no “kill”. The moment we give up is the moment we realize why we haven’t caught anyone…..it’s because WE ARE the prey! Men are supposed to hunt for us! In all honesty, that’s why a lot of times we experience some heartache and pain, is because we go and “find” the man we think is right for us, when he’s anything but. Dam*it, we want our happy ending, and we’ll do whatever it takes until we get it, except WAIT!

I know you may be lonely, in need of companionship, watching all your friends get married and have babies, but you can (and will) have it too! You’ve got to be faithful and know that God’s timing is going to be the right time for you! What you see others being blessed with, is because God said it’s their time. Don’t miss out on great opportunities or allow life to pass you by, because you’re too busy obsessing over finding the perfect man. I spent many if not all, of my twenties trying to “find” my husband, when I should’ve been trying to find myself!

I didn’t know who I was until I entered into my thirties, and I’m so finally happy to have met my acquaintance. Silly, right? In all reality, I’m so happy for this “alone time”, because I have so many business endeavors, PLENTY of time to write and work on my goals, as well as being able to travel and go as I please. Let’s be honest, if I were married or in a relationship with children, I wouldn’t be able to go so freely, because my time would have to be spread out equally. That’s why I don’t really stress about love anymore, because I know when the time is right, it’ll (he) find me! Ladies enjoy your me time and keep dreaming, because happy endings still come true!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue