You just gotta love it

As I was sitting in Starbucks writing on Sunday, one of my favorite Barista’s approached me and commented on my hair. For those of you who don’t know, I’m natural (no chemicals). She stated, “Oh my gosh, you took your braids out. I like your lil (little) afro”. I, however, wasn’t so enthused. I don’t necessarily love my hair, particularly the texture, because it can be a little “rough” at times. Clearly out of my comfort zone and slightly ashamed, she asked, “What? You don’t like your afro”? I replied, “No. I hate my hair, because I want it to be curly and it’s not”. “Oh wow”, was her reply, while looking shocked and slightly disturbed all at once.

She said, “Deetra, everybody’s hair is not going to be the same. However, you just gotta love yours the way it is”. She reiterated again, “You just gotta love it”, before smiling and walking away. I’m not going to lie, it made me feel bad, because one of the things that embodies me, actually bothered me. Even still, that night I went to bed checking the delivery date for a wig I had ordered hours earlier, because I was sure people at church and work, wouldn’t accept my natural hair too well. By morning, I remember getting ready for the day, while looking in the mirror trying to determine if I should wear a cap, or my hair as it is.

Then I realized, if I continue to conceal who I am, because I worry (constantly) about others opinion of me, then I was essentially saying, I valued their thoughts of me more, than I did my own. Having said that, I have been wig-less and weave-less for the past few days, and although I am slightly still uncomfortable, I realize that I’ve just gotta love it, regardless if others do or not. I am who I am because of God! Everything He does is intentional, and although I don’t have straight hair, I’m thankful that He made me and grateful for the hair He gave me! It’s mine, and I will LOVE it!

Be who you are! The only acceptance you need, is that of yourself!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Be good to me

“What you tell yourself everyday, will either lift you up or tear you down”~ @journeystrength

I LOVE me! That’s a huge accomplishment for me, because it hasn’t always been that way. There were so many years I went searching for love, because I couldn’t give myself any. I began looking to others to build me up, increase my self-esteem and give me a pat on the back, but the only thing I got was repetitive disappointment. After continual upsets, I promised myself, I’d “be good to me”, instead of relying on someone else to do it. The days of my self-sabotage decreased and my self-esteem soared. I stopped talking down to myself, and picked myself up, with showers of kudos and praise. Ultimately, I felt good, when I felt good about me!

Are you not “feeling” you? Don’t quite think you look your best? Are you still saying, “I’ll be so glad when I lose this weight, so I can……” So you can what? Finally live your life? In the amount of time it will take you to lose weight, you will have already wasted too much time, and missed out on a lot. Remember, you set the tone for how you feel, and if you don’t feel good about you, then you can’t expect someone else to!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue