35

In 4 days, I’ll be celebrating my 35th birthday, and I can honestly say, I have never been more blessed! Aside from the obvious, I have a pretty good life and would have never imagined this for me. I’ve been through the trenches and have weathered a many of storms, and although I’ve made some strides, there’s still a slight overcast looming ahead.

I wish someone had told me years ago, that the place I’m in now, would be one of the most rewarding ones I’ve ever experienced. Had that been the case, I probably wouldn’t have worried, stressed and obsessed ridiculously over my life and whether or not it would turn out right. Although I can’t revisit the past (and I surely wouldn’t want to), there’s “35” things I would like to tell my younger self:

  1. You’re beautiful! #period
  2. Everything is going to be just fine
  3. Be patient
  4. Anxiety is hard to deal with, but you’re tougher
  5. Who cares?
  6. If people choose to talk about you, let them
  7. Don’t be afraid….of ANYTHING!
  8. You are loved
  9. Let them go
  10. Never change yourself to fit the description of what someone says you should be
  11. Live your life
  12. This too shall pass
  13. Wait! It gets better
  14. You’re not always going to be happy
  15. Don’t give up so easily
  16. Do what makes you happy
  17. Not everyone is going to like you…and you’ve gotta be okay with that
  18. Watch your mouth!
  19. You’re not for everybody
  20. Keep going…it’s only UP from here
  21. It’s okay to fall down sometimes, just don’t stay there
  22. Everybody can’t go on your journey with you; it’s yours for a reason
  23. Keep smiling
  24. There’s nothing wrong with your skin….it’s them
  25. You should wear red lipstick more often
  26. You’re not going to experience all W’s
  27. Get over it
  28. Don’t hold yourself hostage to past mistakes
  29. Move on
  30. It’s okay to cry
  31. Just do it
  32. Forgive
  33. You’re going to be a multi-millionaire
  34. Does it really matter?
  35. You are MORE than enough!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

$1.00

Being “supported” is very important to me. However, as I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned that a lot of times the ones we want to support us, either won’t, or make up a “few cents” in our $1.00. For a few weeks now, I’ve had the discussion with my Therapist about how bothersome I am when people don’t support me, especially when I make it a point to be there for them.

Every time I spoke of how many events where I’ve invited people, whether it be with my business, church or birthday parties , I’ve had little to no participation. As disappointed as I was, I kept inviting people, because I thought surely they’d show up for the next one. Let down after let down, I felt hurt and disrespected almost, because I always make a point to try and be there for others, especially during momentous times for them.

Rather than being disappointed again, I started to not advertise every “high in my life”, and just enjoy my success alone. However, in the midst of my “whining”, my Therapist said to me, “Dee, you have $1.00, and the people that supports you make up that one dollar. You’ve just got to figure out how much money they have in that one dollar. But, what I need you to understand is, the people you want to support you, probably have the least amount of money in the dollar. All that matters, is that you have support, regardless of who it comes from”.

Thomas Edison (lightbulb moment)! Her statement was so true, but at the same time, I kept saying, “but they should”! Her, response, “No they don’t”! Honestly, she was right! In fact, none of them had too. After that, my assignment was to sit down and count my change and figure out who made up my dollar. Although I didn’t like the fact that most of my “change” went to people outside of my family, I just accepted the fact that they were there for me, when they needed to be. Essentially, I couldn’t be mad at that!

People will disappoint you, based upon your expectations of them. However, you can’t expect those who are close to you or in your circle, be everything to you, as you have been to them. Again, it goes back to being okay with knowing that everybody won’t always be there for you, but when they are, just celebrate that!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue