You can work your way to the top

Do you remember my two friends Barbara and Jane from my previous post, “Broken ladders”? If not, go read it asap! I’d like to give you an update and stress the importance of working your way up, as opposed to expecting someone to put you there. For those of you who need a reminder, Barbara and Jane were good friends who started at the bottom of the totem pole together. They made a pact that whoever was the first to “make it”, would help the other, but sadly, Barbara didn’t hold up her end of the bargain.

Left with no other choice but to do it on her own, Jane found success, but it was only because she “worked her way to the top”! Sure, it would’ve been easier and quicker for Barbara to put her there, especially considering the fact that she has so much power. However, because Jane knows the importance of working to get what you want instead of someone giving it to you, she appreciates the success more, because it was all her own doing.

A lot of people need to come to the realization, that they don’t always need someone for everything, let alone to do anything for them. I guess one of the largest reasons why people have shied away from this way of thinking, is because they are so used to being leeches, coat-riders, and recipients of handouts. Besides, nobody wants to work for anything anymore, because society has somehow led us to believe, “It’s not what you know, but who you know”. You see, the “benefit of being” (friends, partners, etc.) gets us jobs, advances and careers, not our hard work.

Make no mistake about it, regardless of how you get to the position you’re at or desire to be, it’s always going to boil down to hard work and how bad do you want it. Barbara could’ve placed me in a position of “winning”, but once I got there, I still would’ve had to put in hard work to stay there!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

NO WHITE FLAGS!

“It’s okay to fall down sometimes, just don’t stay there”! ~Deetra La’Rue

People are so quick to throw in the “white towel”, because it’s so much easier to just quit.  However, what they fail to realize is, the moment they give up, they forfeit their hopes and dreams.  Hope nowadays, seem to be the very thing a lot of people don’t have.  As I mentioned in my book, “Let’s TALK”, so many people are okay with falling down and remaining there, because it’s too much of a hassle for them to get back up again. 

Rather than use their strength to get up, they lie there, because they feel as though their situation isn’t going to get any better….which is something they don’t want to face anyway.  Every body has had their fair share of failures, and will probably expect more throughout the course of their lifetime. We all know it doesn’t matter how many times you fall down, as long as you get back up.  For some, getting back up is almost instant and adds fuel to their fire, which gives them the drive they need to succeed. 

For others, falling down just confirms the idea that they aren’t meant to succeed, so what’s the use in trying, right? #Wrong! Our mind wants us to believe that when we aren’t experiencing the success that we envisioned so quickly, we need to “wave our white flags”, because we’ll never achieve our goals.  That’s the problem, too many of us are still waiting on the microwave to go off at any moment now, because it’s much quicker than allowing our hard work to bake, while we sit through and enjoy the process. 

That’s it! Nobody wants to endure the process, they only want the results.  But, how can you honestly appreciate and enjoy your success, if you didn’t do anything to get it? If anything, it should make your success that much sweeter to have, because you know of all the hard work, sweat (stress, yes that too) and tears you put behind it.  Nobody ever said it would be easy, but rest assured, it’ll be worth it in the end! 

So, resist the urge to “throw in the towel” and “wave the white flag”! Success is hard work, and again, it doesn’t equate to how much money you have, so stop beating yourself up about it! Remember, “It’s okay to fall down sometimes, just don’t stay there”! 

Writefully yours, 

Deetra La’Rue

Detours

If you encounter a roadblock, go around it…..If you run into a brick wall, climb over it…..If you come to a closed door, open it! There will be obstacles in your life, but there will be solutions as well! No matter what gets in your way, DON’T GIVE UP, because there’s always a way “around” something! 

I remember being in church one Sunday morning, and the Pastor said, “Your problems have an expiration date and won’t last always”.  That resonated with me, because it was in that very moment that I realized, all that I was going through would be over with soon, but I just didn’t know how soon.  I had encountered a number of roadblocks, and didn’t know how I was going to go around them.  Credit card bills were piling up, I wasn’t making any money, I hadn’t “flown the nest” and quitting my job seemed like the easiest thing to do at that point. Besides, I no longer enjoyed what I was doing. 

After graduating from college and eventually Post-secondary school, I began my quest to find a “career”.  Application after application, I was “denied”, “not qualified” or simply didn’t get a call back.  Although I was met with rejection, I continued to apply, even though I didn’t have any faith that I would be selected, let alone called for an interview, because I had more no’s than I did yeses.  Despite not ever hearing from anyone, I continued in my “pursuit of happiness”.  I’ll admit, after a while, my faith really started to waiver, because I felt as though God had forgotten about me, or was punishing me one. 

Little did I know, I wasn’t being punished.  I was forced to take a slight detour, because the route I was on, wasn’t leading me anywhere, let alone to where God wanted me to be.  While on this detour, I drove down the “road to change”, traveled a little on “new attitude boulevard”, and managed to even cruise on “positive lane”, all the things I needed (and more) to get me around my roadblocks.  Realization had set in, and I knew that in order for me to walk straight into God’s will for me, I had to climb over a few walls, jump over some hurdles and open a lot of closed doors…..especially ones that people told me couldn’t be opened. 

Suddenly, my problems didn’t overwhelm me anymore, because I knew God was bigger than them and would help me overcome them.  As I began to take more detours in life, I reached places that I never thought I would see, encountered people who helped me get through my problems and ultimately became a better person. My life started to change for the better and the problems I thought would last for eternity, had expired.  It was then I played back the words the Pastor had spoke of, “Your problems have an expiration date and won’t last forever”.  I can smile now, because I know he was right! 

No matter how bad or difficult your situation is, it’s not going to be that way forever! It may seem like it’s taking an eternity for things to get better or you may feel as though God is not listening, although you are crying out to Him, but do know that He is! A lot of times we are waiting for God to do everything for us, but He’s waiting on us to just take the first step.  Get out of your comfort zone and move! Stop traveling roads that are familiar to you or simply bring you comfort.  It’s going to take you making a detour every once in awhile, in order for you to end up on the path God has chosen JUST for you! 

Writefully yours, 

Deetra La’Rue

You’re not late, you’re right on time!

You’re never too old to fulfill your dreams! 

Good Morning my “note” takers! I pray you all are doing well! On Saturday, December 08, 2018, I celebrated the release of my new book, “Let’s TALK” and my new business venture, CH1 Bookstore, Coffee shop and Lounge (coming 2019)! Despite the nasty rain and extremely cold weather, four of my friends decided to still come out and help me celebrate such a joyous occasion for me. I’ve always known I wanted to be a business owner, but I didn’t have the proper resources (still probably don’t), knowledge and drive.  

I’ll admit, I was incredibly lazy, and wanted everyone to do all the legwork for me…even running it! However, because of my controlling ways and OCD, I couldn’t allow “my baby” to be held in the arms of just anyone.  So, I did plenty of research (am still researching) and decided I was going to make this happen! I prayed, and prayed and prayed, and asked God to provide me with the guidance that I needed to successfully run a business, only IF it was His plans! 

After receiving confirmation, I began to think of what I would call my business.  After wrestling with so many names, I finally settled on “Chapters”, but that was not His intention.  Instead, while driving home from dinner one Sunday afternoon, I looked over to the car to my left, and the license plate read, “1CH“.  Immediately, I heard God say to me, “Chapter 1, because it is the start of many more blessings to come“.  I was so overjoyed and overwhelmed by emotions, and I couldn’t process what I heard. 

I knew then, that I had confirmation from God, and with Him on my side, there’s no way I could fail! Besides, I reminded myself of the scripture Jeremiah 29:11, which states of God’s plan for my life.  Even equipped with all of that, I’m still nervous, because I don’t know the first thing about running a business. However, I’ll do whatever it takes to commit myself to my business and making sure it’s successful. 

A lot of times in life, we often talk ourselves out of our accomplishments, because we feel we waited too late or are too old to do anything.  However, you’re not late, you’re right on time! Don’t allow others achieving their goals to stop you from achieving yours, simply because they did it at an early age, and you’re just now getting started.  Everyone has their own journey and go at their own pace, so don’t feel as though you have to keep up with anyone, for fear of falling behind.  

I am 34-years-old, and am just now setting out to accomplish things I’ve always wanted to do since I was a child.  I used to have the same thoughts and feelings of everyone getting ahead of me, which caused me to lose focus.  If anything, it only made me feel bad, because I felt as though they were succeeding and I was doing anything but.  After a lot of soul searching and self-talk, I convinced myself that I can do anything I want to do and be anything I want to be…no matter how old I am! So can you! 

Writefully yours, 

Deetra La’Rue