Posted in Happiness & Joy

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Afternoon, NOTE takers! I purposely didn’t put a title for this post, but rather a punctuation mark, because it represents how I currently feel. I have been VERY busy with school, my full-time job, running my own business, maintaining/updating my website, and booking speaking engagements along the way, that I’ve forgotten I’m only one person and sometimes I get tired. BUT, no matter how tired I am, I still keep moving forward, because I am receiving things I have prayed years for, and I couldn’t be more happier!

In 3 days, I will be speaking to RA High School 9-12 students, about my personal life experiences and how I overcame them. On top of that, I’ve very fortunate and blessed that they also will be having a book signing for me, and I feel so honored! Sometimes, I sit and ask, “Why would they want me to come speak”?, but I realize I have a very awesome and brave story to share, especially to those who are in need of hope, and are going through what I’ve been through.

In the words of Drake, “What a time to be alive”! I couldn’t be anymore happier for the way my life is currently going, and hopefully, I won’t see a period (.) anytime soon. I want this train to continue going, and we all know that a period (.) represents the end, and I don’t want to be stopped! Praying that you too are experiencing complete joy, and all of God’s blessings! Keep going……it’s only the beginning!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in Choices

Happiness is a choice!

Are you happy? Sad? Negative or positive? Everybody is responsible for their own decisions, and I’m sick of people allowing others to influence theirs. The moment we give someone control over our emotions, essentially, we are saying, “Do as you please…….I give you all power”!

Why would you want someone to control or determine how you feel? How you live your life? How is it, that you can allow them to dictate how you feel, when half the time, they don’t even know why they’re sad? It irks me when people throw themselves pity parties, extend an invitation, and then get upset when you refuse to come.

I made the choice to make my own decisions. Nothing or no one controls me, so that way, when things don’t go as planned, I can only fault myself, because ultimately, it was “my choice”. When I got tired of struggling and playing the cards I was dealt, I “made the choice” to do better for myself.

Everyday, I choose to be happy and try not to allow what’s happening around me, to effect me! Everybody has choices, so if you are choosing to be anything other than happy, then you have to live with your decision! Stop misplacing blame and accept responsibility for your feelings and actions.

Happiness is a choice, so if you aren’t, it’s because you chose NOT too!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in Don't worry, be happy

Are you really “living your best life”?

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you’ve imagined. ~Thoreau

I get so tired of the overused expression, “I’m living my best life”, when what I see is anything but “best”. People have a tendency of putting on a façade, to give others the impression that they are having the time of their lives, when they wish they lived the life they pretend to lead.

Monthly trips, new “fits” (clothes) and a different MCM or WCW (Man Crush Monday or Woman Crush Wednesday), and none of it can still make you happy or probably ever will, because you’re too busy living your life for others or to appease them, to say the least.

But, what for? What do you owe them, and why do you to pay them back with your “happiness”? You shouldn’t compromise who you are or your joy, just so someone can click “like”, “share” or label you as “goals”. The sad thing is, they’re striving to be like you, when even you don’ t know who the hell you are. How can you, when you’ve put on a façade for so long?

Are you really “living your best life”? “The life you’ve imagined”? Or, the one others imagined you to have? You’re still trying to please people and keep your “image” going, when you’re falling apart at the d*mn seams. You can’t even stitch yourself together, because you’ve got to upload the next “lie” (insert emoji eye roll). #byefelicia

When you finally decide to establish the life you want for yourself and go after your dreams, only then will you be “living your best life”. However, you’ve got to be prepared that your “real life” will probably be ridiculed, go “unliked” and may even be deemed boring, but who cares? It’s yours! Don’t waste another minute trying to be someone else’s “goals” when you haven’t even accomplished yours!

Don’t misconstrue your truth to keep up with the demands of your lie! Be who you are, do what you want to do, and only then, will you be “living your best life”!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in New beginnings

G.O.A.L for 2019

Happy New Year, everyone! Wishing all of God’s eternal blessings upon you! I don’t have a post today, other than to let each and everyone of you know, it’s time to Get Out And Live (G.O.A.L.) for 2019! No more being stressed, depressed or worried about the things you don’t have. Be grateful for the things you do have, and whatever you stand in need of, put in the WORK until you get it!

Sometimes, we are so caught up in materialistic things and wanting what others have, that we miss out on opportunities….opportunities we would’ve seen, had we not been so focused on others. Money comes and goes, but don’t allow your happiness to follow it! Be you, but most importantly, be PROUD of you! It’s a brand new year, make it a GREAT one!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in Happiness & Joy

“This is a stick-up”!

So many people are getting “robbed” everyday, and they have no idea that “comparison” is the reason for the stick-up! 

I am sad quite often, and sometimes wonder if my happiness will ever return.  Getting dolled up, putting on my favorite red lipstick and highest pair of heels used to cure the “blues”, but not even clothes can restore my smile.  I’ve somehow allowed my comparison to others to steal my joy. I’m in a pretty good space in my life, and I am on the horizon of being the most successful I’ve ever been.  But, it’s the “success” part that’s getting to me.  

Although I don’t make 6-figures (check back with me in 2019), I consider myself to be pretty successful.  However, I take a look to my left and right, and see that everyone around me are either CEO’s, VP’s or closing major business deals, and here I am just trying to get mine off the ground.  Just like that, 6 days of absolute bliss and happiness from the release of my new book Let’s TALK!, launch of this website and start of my FIRST business, has been overshadowed by what someone else has accomplished. 

Talk about a rip off! Immediately, I say to myself the same exact thing I tell my students, success=HARDWORK and not the amount of money you have! I can’t covet what my neighbor has, because it’s only making me appear less thankful for the things I have.  I come from a very harsh background and am extremely blessed and fortunate to have made it out of my situation.  When I look back on my childhood (or lack of, I should say) I am a CEO, VP and so much more, in comparison to my life then.  I refuse to waste another second of my time dreaming, loathing or being jealous over someone else’s success, when I have so much of my own to be proud of and thankful for!

Chapter 14 in my new book Let’s TALK!, is entitled, “Focus on you, not them”. Just a brief excerpt: “Everybody knows comparison is the thief of joy, and every time you compare your journey to that of another, you lose happiness and ultimately become unappreciative of your blessings.  It’s one ting to admire others success and use it as your motivation to achieve your own, but it’s another thing to want what someone else has, simply because they have it….you’ll never be able to achieve your own goals, because you’re too busy focusing on others”. 

Be happy for others, but don’t allow their success to make you unhappy! Be patient, Rome wasn’t built in a day, so don’t expect your empire to be! 

Writefully yours, 

Deetra La’Rue