I don’t know which is best, having a mother or having a mother’s love. I’m sure anybody can be a mother, but not everybody is capable or willing to love. I thank God for a mother’s love, but most importantly, I thank God for a mother who not only exemplifies love, but IS love! Happy Mother’s Day to all the beautiful mothers! It doesn’t matter if you bore the child, adopted, or had a surrogate. All that matters is that you are something a lot of children are without, but desperately want and need! Thank you for being our backbone, but most of all, thank you for always having our backs!
“I’m hungry”, said the man, and “I have no money for food”.
I gave, because he was me.
“Can you help me, please? I was evicted out of my home, and I have no place to go”.
I gave, because she was me.
“Ma’am, I’ve lost my job and don’t know how I’m going to provide for my family”, said the woman holding the sign on the street corner.
I gave, because they were me.
I know what it’s like to be hungry, homeless, jobless, destitute, in need and without. No matter who I see or regardless of what their situation is, I give, because I want to help. But, more importantly, I give because God gave me! Don’t ever turn your back on those in need, because one day, “they could be you”!
Have you ever been so happy and excited about the great things that are taking place in your life, that you can barely wait to see what happens next? Do you find yourself rushing to get to another adventure, although you’re not finished with the one you’re on? Great! Because, I thought I was the only one. The last few years have been pretty amazing for me, and I couldn’t be more happier. However, I couldn’t be more impatient either, because I’m constantly in a hurry to get to the next phase of my journey. Yet, I have to question myself, “Are you really enjoying the journey”? After all, how can I be, if my mind has left the “party”, only to plan the upcoming one. Rather than “bolting” like Usain to the next level, I’m just going to sit still and enjoy the fruits of my labor!
Don’t get so caught up living your life as though you are in a race. Slow down and appreciate the small things, as you look forward to the bigger ones to come.
Three years ago, I was held hostage and I thought of all the things I had to lose
I wanted to escape and run for it, but I was afraid to make any sudden moves
I was nervous, scared and terrified, because I thought my life was done
Little did I know it was far from over, and things had only just begun
My days went from sunny and bright, and darkness slowly seeped in
I didn’t understand the sudden sadness, no matter how hard I tried to comprehend
For months my mood was dangerously low and I couldn’t get out of that rut
I tried all I could to feel better, but there was no way I could pull myself up
I was down for a very long time, which was all apart of it’s ploy
I lost myself when comparison came, and robbed me of my joy
We all know that “comparison is the thief of joy”, so guard yours at all times! It’s so easy for us to compare our lives to someone else’s. We can be the happiest person in the world, and then money, status, or someone’s relationship will cause it all to change. Suddenly, our contentment cease to exist and what we have no longer looks good to us, so we start to lust after things that was not meant for us. However, if God intended for you to have what your neighbor does, don’t you think He would’ve blessed you with the same? You have exactly what you need, and I’m sure it’s more than enough. “Be appreciative of what you have, before it becomes what you had” (church sign).
On Sunday, February 09, 2020, I was awarded the Coretta Scott King Legacy Award, for my Community Service, Human Rights, and Social Justice efforts. As I should have been overjoyed with excitement, I really couldn’t be, because I was too busy questioning God, “Why me”? When my sisters recognized me at our family reunion last year, I was honored, but internally, I questioned “There’s four of us, so why me”? When I was asked to serve as Keynote Speaker at church, I screamed, “Oh no! Dear God, why me”? I couldn’t fathom or understand how someone so undeserving as me, deserved to be recognized, because in my eyes, what they saw, I couldn’t see.
Not a day goes by that I don’t receive an email, text or phone call, from someone thanking me for what I’ve done for them, yet I can’t seem to recall what I did. There isn’t anything distinctive that comes to mind, except there’s nothing extraordinary about a woman who’s so ordinary. So, again I ask, “Why me”? After many self-reflections, I no longer question, “Why me”? Instead, I just thank God for using me! I’m not sure why I was chosen, when He had so many other options, yet He left me with none. I didn’t get a chance to say, “No”, or “This is not what I want to do”, because God had already made His plans, and I had no choice, but to follow them.
I’m grateful, because of whatever “it” is that I’ve been called to do. I’m thankful for all the accolades and praise, because to them, I’m everything I told myself I could never be….WORTHY!
“If everybody could do it, they would”! Have you ever wondered why you, of ALL people, were blessed with the gifts and talents that you have? Maybe you’ve pondered or perhaps even questioned, “Why me, not them”? Do you think it’s a coincidence, or do you believe it was on purpose? If you’re anything like me, you chose the latter. Before you were created, God had only ONE blueprint in mind……yours! When He designed you, He didn’t have an example to use, because He knew, there’d be nobody like you!
So often I see/hear of people wanting to be like someone else, which disturbs me, because I can’t think of anyone I’d rather be, other than me! It’s disappointing to say the least, because I can’t begin to tell you all the “Beyonce’s” and “Michael Jackson’s” I’ve seen, but none pale in comparison to the original. Now granted, “imitation is the sincerest form of flattery”, but why try and emulate someone you weren’t created to be? God didn’t create you to mimic someone else, especially when He knows “the original is worth more than the copy”.
Better yet, how do you think it makes Him feel, when you want to be someone other that what He’s created? Whether you know it or not, essentially, you’re telling Him that you don’t value or appreciate who you are, because you feel as though His other creations are worth more than you (just think about it), and are somehow even better. I don’t know about you, but I can’t think of anyone on this planet, that’s better than ME! You can call me arrogant or foolish, but if you’re going to call me anything, I’d rather you call me UNIQUE…because there’s NOBODY LIKE ME!
So, I’m currently in the “Windy City”, sitting in the Corner Bakery Cafe, eating my “curds and whey”. No, seriously, I’m eating bananas foster pancakes, which are to die for! Chicago is my home for the next 5 days, and as I sit and reflect over my life and all that has happened to me in the past two years, one phrase comes to mind, “A little piece of heaven”.
I can honestly say, I would’ve never imagined this for my life, especially considering the trials and tribulations I was met with early on. I was born below the poverty line and brought up in some undesirable circumstances, so my mindset then was, “Things are never going to get better”. Now twenty (plus) years later, things have been beyond better.
I’m very blessed and fortunate to travel and visit places that have been on my “to do list” for years, and every time I scratch another location off, it feels like “heaven”. “Note takers”, don’t ever stop living, dreaming or stop in the pursuit of your happiness. Things may be rough for you now, but eventually, they’ll get better!