When the chips are down

Been in a funky mood lately? Tired of being tired? Do you want to give up, because you don’t see things getting any better? You are not alone! So many people all over the world are experiencing the same feelings as you, and are unsure what to do. A part of them want to believe things are going to change for the better, but they’re not so hopeful. In fact, not only have they lost hope, they’ve become faithless, because everything seems to keep going from bad to worse.

COVID has taken over. The death toll keeps rising. People have lost their jobs. The economy is in shambles, and so are you. Matthew 26:6 tells us that, “You will be hearing of wars and rumors of wars. See that you are not frightened, for those things must take place, but that is not yet the end”. This pandemic has launched a full on war against the world, but it is not the end of it! I know you want a more concrete answer, but it’s the best one I’ve got. I too, don’t understand why things are happening as they are, but according to His word, they have too.

“What’s next”? The question that seems to be on everyone’s mind, and honestly speaking, its to pray! Simple as that, yet so hard for many people to do. Why? Because, they don’t have the faith to stand on and the hope to believe that what they ask for, will come to pass. After all, why should they, when nothing’s happening? Oh, but there is! Just because you can’t see God working, doesn’t mean that He’s not.

Listen, I feel where you’re coming from. There are days that I get down and ask God “Why”? Or, “When will this end”? I’ve got questions just like you, but I’ve got faith in Him as well. At this moment, you’re going through it, but eventually you’ll come out. The chips are down now, but I pray they won’t be much longer.

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Unfinished business

It’s so easy to place our dreams, visions and goals on the backburner, because this pandemic is constantly at the forefront. Like me, I’m pretty sure you’ve been uninspired, not really motivated or tired (which is a total understatement), because you’ve had enough of COVID-19! We can’t go outside, because we’re at risk. We can’t be “that close” to our family members, because we’re at risk. We can’t be out past our 10PM curfew (depends upon your state), because we’re at risk….of getting pulled over and fined! There are so many things we are faced with, yet finishing what we started is not one of them. As a matter of fact, it’s pretty much non-existent. Where did our dreams go? We’ve lost sight of what we need to be doing, because we’re too obsessing over what we can’t do! I’m not downplaying the seriousness of this deadly virus, because it needs our attention, but so does our goals. We’ve got some unfinished business, and now is the time to handle it! You might not be able to go out, but that doesn’t mean your light has too! Keep shining, keep working, but most importantly, keep dreaming!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Bad influence

If you want to give up, great! However, don’t get in the way of someone who’s trying to finish. People will quit on themselves, give up their goals, forget their dreams, and expect you to do the same. Somehow, they feel their lack of ambition is supposed to take away the initiative you’ve chosen to take, to pursue your dreams. Continue to run the course and show them what would’ve happened, had they done the same. Don’t allow anyone to steal your zeal! When you are affronted with someone who tries to influence you to quit, because they “need the company”, then you need to walk away. Besides, misery doesn’t care who joins it, as long as it’s not alone!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Not as bad as it seems

Are things really hard for you, or do you just give up to easily? At some point in our lives, we’ve all encountered some obstacles that we thought would surely “take us out”. While many chose to take those situations head on, a lot of people simply gave up. Trying was not an option and apparently neither was winning, so they did what any other timid person would do, quit! The most difficult thing to process, is that they somehow already determined the outcome, although they failed to start. This is the very reason why so many people haven’t been successful in life. Before they attempt to do anything, they quickly talk themselves out of it. “I can’t do this”. “That is too difficult to do”. “Man, that looks hard, so I’m not even going to try”. All of these overused excuses have to stop! We all have a lens in which we see through, so clean yours and you will see that things aren’t as bad as they seem, and if they are, it’s only because you made them out to be!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Give it time

We’re only five days into the new year, and you already want to quit. You haven’t give your situation any time to grow, because you felt like you did that last year. All of the confetti, streamers and bullhorns that welcomed you on January 01, have been silenced by shouts of doubt. You went from laying claims on 2020, to laying down your dreams and goals. You thought that once the clock struck midnight, things would instantly change, but Cinderella already wrote that story. Although things have not been as instantaneous as you anticipated, doesn’t mean you have nothing to look forward to. Anything can happen, but you’ve got to give it time to!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Still here

Anybody that knows me, knows that I am notoriously private (well, I try to be). Sometimes, I’m pretty easy to talk to and other times I’m not (at least that’s what I’ve been told). As I’ve gotten older and wiser, I’ve let my guard down (just a little) and try to be transparent, because I never know who I may help along the way.

It’s no secret that I share a lot of my personal hardships and life experiences on this forum. What’s simply a “post” to you, is more than words; it’s my life! As discreet as I try to be, it’s no secret my battle with depression and anxiety, amongst other things. However, one of the biggest things I’ve struggled with, is whether or not I deserved to “still be here”.

Last year, one of the biggest and bravest things I decided to do, was want more for myself. I decided that I was no longer going to be held captive to my past, my mistakes and most important, the negative thoughts I had of myself. Besides, I couldn’t fault people for not feeling or thinking positive of me, when I didn’t require it from myself.

NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) is one of many organizations that I support (for “obvious” reasons). During one of my many days of online shopping (lol), I came across this jewelry maker on Etsy, and one of the most popular items she sold, was “still here” necklaces, that were followed by the semi-colon sign.

Well, if you are a stranger to the MI (Mental Illness) world, the semi-colon represents a “pause in one’s story, but not the end”. Depression and anxiety was not the end of me (although it tried to destroy me), so I was eager to purchase a necklace, support the cause and allow others to see how brave I was.

My bravery and transparency has allowed others to come forth and share their story. One of my students came to me yesterday, after months of being absent, stating to me why she hadn’t been as active as she needs to be. She shared with me that she is struggling very bad with depression and anxiety, so much, that she literally had to force herself out of bed, and even she doesn’t know how she was able to do it.

Immediately, I felt her anguish, pain and most of all, I felt for her, because not too long ago, I was “trying to get up out of that bed”. I knew then, why I was “still here”….

I don’t care what you are going through or have been through. Never question why you are “still here”…just be thankful that you are!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Breathe! You’re going to make it!

Ever felt like you couldn’t breathe, no matter how much you gasped for air? You probably felt like a fish out of water, suffocated or caged almost, because the pressures of life was just too overwhelming. You’re tired, exasperated and struggling to survive and keep up. Debt is steadily accruing, bills seem to come more than they need to, and you have more problems than you do money, to solve them.

You’re up to your eyeballs in frustration, because you don’t know if things will get better or take a turn for the worse. By now, you’re probably spiraling out of control and feel as if you’re losing it. The life you was once in control of, is now driving you. At this point, you start to question whether or not you’ve made the right life choices. Not satisfied with your decisions, you become pessimistic and hard on yourself.

Sadly, this causes the waves of defeat to rage even more. This is it! You now have feelings that your life is over, well before it even started. With no hope to grab onto, you slowly begin to slip under. Everything turns to darkness, and you’ve settled on the idea that things just aren’t going to get any better. At the point of no return, suddenly, you hear a voice from the rafters of the shallow water, and you fight to come up for air.

Tired, exhausted and unsure how much longer you can continue to take the dangerous currents, you keep on swimming. Alas, you’ve reached the top, and you smile, because you know your help has arrived! Struggling to stay afloat, you see a familiar face in the distance, but you can’t make it out. Your vision is blurred, because the thrashing from the waves has irritated your eyes.

Immediately, the silhouette you see is now clearer than ever! With His hands outstretched, you’re pulled from the raging waters and back into His arms of safety. Now that you’ve been pulled from the rafters, it’s time to start making some changes…..and positive ones at that! Establish your purpose and know your “Why”, because that is going to keep you motivated and help you stay focused amidst life’s many trials and tribulations.

Prioritize, get organized and become a better manager of your finances. The unexpected will happen and raining days will come, but so will “the Son”. No matter how difficult your circumstances become, don’t ever feel it’s easier to “tap out” from life. You’re going to continue to experience some highs and lows (some of us more lows than others), but don’t ever stop swimming, because when He speaks, even the waters (problems) “be still”.

You can now take off your life jacket. B.R.E.A.T.H.E. You’re going to make it!

Until next my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue