Powerless

“A woman unaffected by insults, has made her enemies absolutely powerless”. ~Entity

There is no greater feeling than knowing I took their power away!  They are weak, defenseless and cannot fight back, even if they wanted to.  I tower over them like skyscrapers, looking down and laughing, because they can no longer hurt me with the venomous things that used to hurt me.  All the insults, darts and attacks they lodged at me, missed!  After years of trying to please many Masters, I cut the strings and begin to walk and talk on my own. When I didn’t care enough about me, I was affected by everything everyone said, even the things that weren’t true. When I developed a thicker skin, not even the “stings” could penetrate through.

One of my favorite and fellow bloggers, Dr. Perry, wrote a post on the “Law of allowances”. One of the most profound things he states is, “It is important to point out that the allowance of negative behaviors, from people in your life, is not because of a law of attraction but has everything to do with the law of allowances. What negative behaviors are you willing to allow from the people who surround you? It can be as simple as allowing a person to take a week to respond to your text. Or, it can be as serious as allowing abusive behaviors in your relationships”. The hurt and pain I experienced from others, was “allowed”. I “allowed” them to speak to me negatively. I “allowed” what they said to hurt me and change the way I viewed myself.

Speaking of allowed, one of the worst things you can do, is allow someone control over you (your emotions/feelings). In some of my many sessions, I would always tell my Therapist how this person made me mad or made me act a certain way. In her “strong” voice, she’d say, “A person will only do what you allow them to do, because you’ve given them control”. Although she can be a bit spicy at times in her delivery, she has given me nothing but truth! I didn’t realize what I was doing at the time, but essentially, I was giving my power away. Sad to say, I relinquished all control over to my enemies.

When I regained control, I saw the benefits of turning a blind eye to my enemies. Instead of fighting tic for tac with words, I simply didn’t use any. Remember, silence is a response, and when people talk about you, let them! Granted words will hurt, but they won’t when you don’t care!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Following David’s footsteps

Fear and failure are two of the most debilitating feelings one can experience. They are very powerful and have the ability to change the course of one’s life, not to mention, damage it. Categorically, they’re tsunami’s, towers, and mountains that pose a threat to the quality of your life and predictive indicators of the outcome. They’re almost impossible to avoid, and once you encounter them, you only have two options: either give in or put a fight.

I’d like to talk to you about a young courageous boy named David, and his ability to defeat one of the biggest giants he’d ever faced. David was small and paled in comparison to Goliath, but he didn’t allow his size to intimidate him. Instead, he stood up to Goliath and challenged him to fight. Because of David’s faith in God and his willingness to not become a victim to fear, he was able to slay Goliath. He was a hero, to say the least, because he did what others were afraid to do, fight!

Like David, we’ve all encountered a giant or two in our lives. For some, it’s people, but for most, hardships, struggles, trials and tribulations, is their Goliath. Although all of these things can debilitate you, they don’t have to. You too can do as David did! All you’ve got to do is put on your armor and prepare to battle. God will win the war for you; all you have to do is show up!

When was the last time you “put up a fight”? Are you facing any “giants” and don’t know whether you’ll be able to slay them or them slay you? You may not have weapons of mass destruction, but all David had was a sling, rock and faith, and the greatest of these is faith. What do you have? Better yet, what do you have to lose, other than feelings of defeat? You’re a fighter and bigger than what you’re up against. Once you realize your strength, nothing will be impossible for you to handle.

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue