Posted in humble

Help! I need to get down!

I suffer from extreme acrophobia! I don’t like ladders, climbing to high places or being up top (unless it involves success). I stay clear of anything that will take me out of my comfort zone, and place me in a position of fear, and pedestals are one of them. I appreciate when people recognize me and present me with accolades, but I don’t like the “hype” that comes along with it.

I don’t mean to sound ungrateful, but I just don’t like being placed above others. I don’t like when people make me out to be more than I am, because the minute I don’t live up to their expectations, I immediately fall from their graces. I used to try to impress people and live my life for them, but I realized that no matter how good I was to them or did what they wanted or expected of me, when I did anything unacceptable in their eyes (no matter how small it was), they turned on me.

This is one of the very reasons I DO NOT LIKE TITLES! I’ve been labeled as a role model, inspiring, encouraging and the list continues. Although I appreciate it all, I am human and I make mistakes, and will continue too, as long as I live. I’m not saying they are intentional, but what I am saying is, I’m not always going to get it right. I’m not always going to be everything to everybody or the “star”, as my church likes to put it. I don’t mind people looking up to me (no pun intended), I just don’t want the persecution that comes along with it.

I speak about my church a lot, because they are some of my biggest supporters. They brag on me constantly and have expectations for me, some which I’m pretty sure I haven’t met. However, even I have to tell them, “I’m terrified of heights, so NO pedestals please”! I’m just Deetra; a Christ lover and writer. It may not mean much to you, but those are the only two titles I’ll accept. People will hold you in high regards, and then drop you low, when they feel you don’t rise up to their expectations. Remember, those expectations are their feelings, don’t make them your own!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in positive vibes only

Not your problem!

Being negative is a choice! People choose to be that way, because they are looking for two things: attention and someone to blame! Regardless of their antics, don’t alter your character to mirror theirs! Be the bigger person and walk away, even though you’ll be alone! We all have choices, and how people go about making theirs, is not your problem! Besides, if they’re unhappy, they can choose to change it. If not, then they should at least stop talking about it! Live your life, even if they hate seeing you enjoy it!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in Doing the right thing

It’s not about you

A goal of mine when I started this forum, was to post every…..single….day! Needless to say, I haven’t necessarily been on my “P’s and Q’s”. Before I post, I ALWAYS ask God, “What do you want me to tell these people”? After sitting in deep thought for some minutes or two, I end up saying something, although that “something” may not be what I want to share. However, it ends up being something that we feel the readers need.

I’ve never been fond of the way I was raised or the life experiences I went through, and I sure as heck didn’t want to make others aware. Although I couldn’t understand why I was being tortured (so, I thought), I just knew I had to be going through what I did for a reason. My reason used to be as punishment for something I’d done in my life, but He forgives all, so that was no longer an option.

As crazy as this may sound, I learned that my misfortunes needed to happen. (1): It was all apart of God’s plans (2): There was a lesson in it for me and (3): There was a blessing in it for someone else. Part of the things I went through (I feel), was to be able to help others who were about to make their way through where I had been, or who were trying to find a way out. As much as I questioned and asked “Why me”, in all honesty, it wasn’t even about me.

It was about “her”, “him”, “they” and “them” all along….it was never about Deetra! I selfishly choose to put the attention back on me! When I took me out of it, and realized God was using me to help them, the struggles, heartache and pain, all made sense. I can’t begin to tell you the lives I’ve impacted, transformed or made a difference in, because I used my pain to help them get through theirs.

Because I was able to identify with them, I could help! Because I had been through the trenches and they the terrains, I could help! Because I had been through the fiery furnace and they the pits of hell, I could help! Because I said, “Yes Lord, Your will and not mine”, I could help! You never know what your situation may do to help others, but you can’t see it, because you’re too busy trying to get the hell out!

I’m not asking or recommending anyone to stay in a detrimental situation, to obtain experience to pass on to the next person. What I am saying is, sometimes it’s not about you, but them….and the only way you can help them, is if you’ve gone through it yourself! I’ve fallen on many of occasions, and the only way I was able to get back up, was on the strength of someone else’s story. Keep shining! You’re someone’s light in their darkness.

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in no limitations

Because they said I couldn’t

People love to tell you who you are, when they’re still trying to figure themselves out. Crazy as it is, I LOVE when people try to fit me in a box or set limitations on me, because I “Houdini” them every time! I always escape their traps and leave them wondering how I managed to break free of something they were for certain would “hold me back or down”.

I’m no Leo (Libra’s RULE), but folks gotta understand, you can’t cage a lion and expect it to remain captive, when it’s used to being “wild and free”. Besides, I’m extremely claustrophobic and don’t do well in closed spaces, so there’s no way I’m going to be confined to someone else’s ideas of me, and what I should be (or doing). #haveseveralseats #anentirestadiumfull

Sometimes I have to laugh to keep from crying (for them), because there’s nothing more sad, pitiful and pathetic, for someone to try and extinguish your “fire”, because they can’t seem to keep their flame burning. I’ve had many naysayers in my life and people who didn’t believe in me, because they thought that I wasn’t capable.

Rather than retaliate, I just used the negative energy they projected towards me as ammunition to do everything they said I couldn’t! As a Pastor once said, “Although the battle is raging, the war is already won”. Even though the fight has yet to end, I am a victor, because I keep fighting for what “they” told me I couldn’t have……and that’s the right to be who I am, without people trying to conform me into who they want me to be.

A lot of people are hurting! They can’t take their foot off the break and excel, because they’ve allowed someone to “stop” them from doing what they want to do. I consider myself a bit of a show off at times, so I fully encourage (and welcome) people to try and put a stop sign in front of me, because I RUN right through that sh…..EVERY time! #sorrynotsorry

Listen, give your critics the BEST seat in the house, and let them watch your success! I guarantee you, they’ll leave wondering how you managed to escape, when they failed to do all they could to trap you!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue