You got it made

In 11 days I’ll be 35 and over the past 6 days

I experienced firsthand what it meant to “live”

I was scared, to say the least, because it was something

I hadn’t done in forever

Due to the life I “lead”, others may differ,

but it’s only because “they’re out” and “i’m in”

Spectators are funny, yet so fortunate, because they feel as though

they have the worst view, when indeed they have the best

My “glamourous” life has obstructed them from my truth, and honestly,

it’s the best protection they’ll ever receive (you’re welcome)

Admiration is one of the finest compliments you can pay me,

but there’s no amount of money you can “pay me” to be envious of me

Remember, I know what’s really going on

You only think you do

To be fair, there are some areas of my life that are doing well

and I’ve come a long way from where I started

but those few areas will never compensate for the s***load of things I lack

Thanks, but I’m not your #goals, especially when I’m still trying to conqueror mine

You’ve gotta be careful “clicking” and “liking” what you see

because the things that social media can’t display

are the very things you don’t want (and neither do I)

So, the next time you wish for my life, just STOP and thank God for your own!

Besides, compared to me, “you got it made”!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Happy Again: Adding the value back to your life

For a very long time, I felt lost (more like deserted), and I just didn’t know which way to go. If I went left, would things suddenly go “right” for me, or would I continue to wonder around endlessly, looking for my peace and joy…from someone/something else? Like you, I often found myself attaching my happiness to a person, place or thing, but the only thing that could make me happy, was me!

I remember when I was a teenager, I always dreamed of moving to New York, and eventually Atlanta, Georgia, because I thought that’s where my happiness, career, husband, and life was. If nothing or no one could fix what I was going through, then a move across the world would surely do it. I’ve been to Atlanta more times than I can count, and although I was happy when I got there, there was nothing that’d make me happier, than leaving.

The same can be said for New York. I visited NYC for almost a week, and although it was everything that I dreamed it would be and saw on t.v., within 3 days, I was ready to go. I was happy to have experienced the moment, but I was even more happier to get back home to Alabama. I didn’t understand fully that I was attaching my happiness to destinations, until I read an article by Psychologist Dr. Robert Holden, on “Destination Addiction”. He states that, “Destination Addiction is a preoccupation with the idea that happiness is found somewhere else”.

For years, I tied my happiness to different states and people. I foolishly thought a city could give me what I needed, and when I went, it was nothing but a temporarily delight. My happiness faded away, because I was not happy where I was. When I became an adult and entered into my 30’s, I found my happiness, and sad to say, it was in a place that I knew existed, but kept hidden for so long (me)! My happiness brought me joy, peace and more importantly, it added the value back to my life that I had taken away.

Everyone has a choice, so if you’re unhappy, that’s your choice! Quit tying your happiness to places, people or things, because they will disappoint you every time.

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Not your problem!

Being negative is a choice! People choose to be that way, because they are looking for two things: attention and someone to blame! Regardless of their antics, don’t alter your character to mirror theirs! Be the bigger person and walk away, even though you’ll be alone! We all have choices, and how people go about making theirs, is not your problem! Besides, if they’re unhappy, they can choose to change it. If not, then they should at least stop talking about it! Live your life, even if they hate seeing you enjoy it!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

$1.00

Being “supported” is very important to me. However, as I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned that a lot of times the ones we want to support us, either won’t, or make up a “few cents” in our $1.00. For a few weeks now, I’ve had the discussion with my Therapist about how bothersome I am when people don’t support me, especially when I make it a point to be there for them.

Every time I spoke of how many events where I’ve invited people, whether it be with my business, church or birthday parties , I’ve had little to no participation. As disappointed as I was, I kept inviting people, because I thought surely they’d show up for the next one. Let down after let down, I felt hurt and disrespected almost, because I always make a point to try and be there for others, especially during momentous times for them.

Rather than being disappointed again, I started to not advertise every “high in my life”, and just enjoy my success alone. However, in the midst of my “whining”, my Therapist said to me, “Dee, you have $1.00, and the people that supports you make up that one dollar. You’ve just got to figure out how much money they have in that one dollar. But, what I need you to understand is, the people you want to support you, probably have the least amount of money in the dollar. All that matters, is that you have support, regardless of who it comes from”.

Thomas Edison (lightbulb moment)! Her statement was so true, but at the same time, I kept saying, “but they should”! Her, response, “No they don’t”! Honestly, she was right! In fact, none of them had too. After that, my assignment was to sit down and count my change and figure out who made up my dollar. Although I didn’t like the fact that most of my “change” went to people outside of my family, I just accepted the fact that they were there for me, when they needed to be. Essentially, I couldn’t be mad at that!

People will disappoint you, based upon your expectations of them. However, you can’t expect those who are close to you or in your circle, be everything to you, as you have been to them. Again, it goes back to being okay with knowing that everybody won’t always be there for you, but when they are, just celebrate that!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue


Are you really “living your best life”?

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you’ve imagined. ~Thoreau

I get so tired of the overused expression, “I’m living my best life”, when what I see is anything but “best”. People have a tendency of putting on a façade, to give others the impression that they are having the time of their lives, when they wish they lived the life they pretend to lead.

Monthly trips, new “fits” (clothes) and a different MCM or WCW (Man Crush Monday or Woman Crush Wednesday), and none of it can still make you happy or probably ever will, because you’re too busy living your life for others or to appease them, to say the least.

But, what for? What do you owe them, and why do you to pay them back with your “happiness”? You shouldn’t compromise who you are or your joy, just so someone can click “like”, “share” or label you as “goals”. The sad thing is, they’re striving to be like you, when even you don’ t know who the hell you are. How can you, when you’ve put on a façade for so long?

Are you really “living your best life”? “The life you’ve imagined”? Or, the one others imagined you to have? You’re still trying to please people and keep your “image” going, when you’re falling apart at the d*mn seams. You can’t even stitch yourself together, because you’ve got to upload the next “lie” (insert emoji eye roll). #byefelicia

When you finally decide to establish the life you want for yourself and go after your dreams, only then will you be “living your best life”. However, you’ve got to be prepared that your “real life” will probably be ridiculed, go “unliked” and may even be deemed boring, but who cares? It’s yours! Don’t waste another minute trying to be someone else’s “goals” when you haven’t even accomplished yours!

Don’t misconstrue your truth to keep up with the demands of your lie! Be who you are, do what you want to do, and only then, will you be “living your best life”!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue