The Greatest Deposit

Everyone has been given “The Greatest Deposit” they’ll ever receive, yet so many people don’t know what it is. On the other hand, some of them do, but they do whatever they can to avoid it, or use the excuse that they don’t know what “it” is. Everyone has a PURPOSE, and whatever your purpose is, is the “Greatest Deposit” you’ll ever receive. It’s God’s will for you, and if you are “unsure” what His will is, just pray and ask Him.

For a very long time, I questioned what my purpose was and why everyone else knew it, but me. I love writing, public speaking and encouraging others, but I didn’t think it was what I was supposed to be doing for the rest of my life. Needless to say, it’s EXACTLY what I want to do for the rest of my life! I love what I do, and give God all the glory and praise, for blessing me with the “Greatest Deposit” He could’ve given me.

When I started writing, it was not to touch people, impact them or make an impression on them. I did it to release me of my depression, anxiety and because I got complete joy out of it. I felt (and still do) relaxed and free whenever I wrote. Simply put, it just makes me feel soooooo good! When I was going through my darkest days, I didn’t realize then, all that God was setting up for me. I needed to go through some of the things I did, so I could be able to help others.

To be honest, help is exactly what I’ve been doing, even though I didn’t realize that’s what it is. All I know how to do is be myself, but little did I know, that being myself is what people needed. The very thing that I kept asking God to give me clarity on, was something I had all along, but didn’t quite know what “it” was. Once I figured it out, I was on a mission to make a “deposit” into every person’s life that I came in contact with.

Everybody has a purpose and whatever it is, is the deposit that God has chosen to input into you. You can allow the “deposit” to sit in you and go unused, or you can make a “withdrawal” and bless someone else with your wealth! If you are unsure of what deposit you’ve been given, pray to God to give you clarity and understanding. After all, He’s the one who gave it to you!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

“There are NO shortcuts to success….REPEAT”!

When I was in high school, I played the clarinet and marched two years in the BEST band in the land, Sidney Lanier Marching Poets! We practiced a lot and sometimes they’d be so rigorous and exhausting, but the reward I received from marching and performing, was not only worth it, but priceless. After each practice and before we were dismissed, our band director Mr. Charles C. Cooper, would have us chant our motto: “There are NO shortcuts to success….REPEAT”!

There’d be times the drum major would have us repeat it over and over again, until we were begging to stop. I knew the message behind the motto, but I didn’t understand the message behind the motto, until I started my own business October 2018. Naturally, I’m a hustler, go-getter and will stop at absolutely nothing, to achieve my goals. One of the biggest goals I set for myself, was to have a successful and lucrative business/brand.

As crazy as I can be at times, I set my goal a little too high and became extremely hard on myself, because I made a promise I couldn’t keep. Essentially, within my first couple of months of being in business, I aimed to make thousands of dollars. A bit ambitious, but I was determined to do it. Within the first few months, I not only didn’t have the thousands of dollars I was hoping for, I was NO…WHERE…NEAR…CLOSE!

Initially, I beat myself up…pretty bad, but I remembered the motto Mr. Cooper had us to chant. Rather than continue to beat myself up, I just knew I had to be more realistic with my goals, and not expect success to happen overnight, or try to take any “shortcuts”, because there are none. Five months after starting my business of writing and publishing my books, I have added Motivational Speaker to my resume, and the door of opportunities having been opening up for me!

Two months ago, I prayed to God for paid speaking opportunities, and He has definitely delivered. I’m so blessed and fortunate to have booked 3 paid speaking engagements, and I just know this is only the beginning! Although my dreams and goal of having thousands of dollars within my first month of business didn’t go as planned, I PLAN to have that and so much more, by the year’s end. Remember when I told you all I was a 34-year-old multi-millionaire? #waitforit

No matter how high you set your goals, or how ambitious you are, if you don’t meet the expectations you set for yourself, when you said you would, don’t give up! Keep going, and remember, “There are NO shortcuts to success…..REPEAT”!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

$1.00

Being “supported” is very important to me. However, as I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned that a lot of times the ones we want to support us, either won’t, or make up a “few cents” in our $1.00. For a few weeks now, I’ve had the discussion with my Therapist about how bothersome I am when people don’t support me, especially when I make it a point to be there for them.

Every time I spoke of how many events where I’ve invited people, whether it be with my business, church or birthday parties , I’ve had little to no participation. As disappointed as I was, I kept inviting people, because I thought surely they’d show up for the next one. Let down after let down, I felt hurt and disrespected almost, because I always make a point to try and be there for others, especially during momentous times for them.

Rather than being disappointed again, I started to not advertise every “high in my life”, and just enjoy my success alone. However, in the midst of my “whining”, my Therapist said to me, “Dee, you have $1.00, and the people that supports you make up that one dollar. You’ve just got to figure out how much money they have in that one dollar. But, what I need you to understand is, the people you want to support you, probably have the least amount of money in the dollar. All that matters, is that you have support, regardless of who it comes from”.

Thomas Edison (lightbulb moment)! Her statement was so true, but at the same time, I kept saying, “but they should”! Her, response, “No they don’t”! Honestly, she was right! In fact, none of them had too. After that, my assignment was to sit down and count my change and figure out who made up my dollar. Although I didn’t like the fact that most of my “change” went to people outside of my family, I just accepted the fact that they were there for me, when they needed to be. Essentially, I couldn’t be mad at that!

People will disappoint you, based upon your expectations of them. However, you can’t expect those who are close to you or in your circle, be everything to you, as you have been to them. Again, it goes back to being okay with knowing that everybody won’t always be there for you, but when they are, just celebrate that!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue


RESET….RELAX….REPEAT!

When you’re so busy going, going, going, it’s nice to just reset, relax and repeat! Although I have gone months and years even, without writing, I promised myself that when I started this motivational forum, I would write everyday. Sad to say, I let that get away from me. However, I am so thankful that I chose to take a few days (or many more) away from writing, just so I can regroup.

Aside from my job having me to travel quite frequently, my extended work hours, mixed with my writing career, I barely have time to think, let alone what I’m going to think about writing. Honestly, having a little me time has done me so much good, because for the longest I didn’t know if I was going or coming. I no longer do “New Year’s Resolutions”, but a “goal board”, and one of the things on my goal board was to have more leisure time/me time.

I realized that I was going full steam ahead, and although I am forever grateful to God for all the opportunities He has afforded me with, there still comes a point in your life where you simply need to stop and hit the reset button. By no means am I complaining about my blessings, but I know in order for me to continue on with the things I have set for myself to achieve, I needed to take a step back, and work on my mental and physical being. Honestly, I think that’s the problem that most people have.

They immerse themselves in their work, avail themselves to others too often and stretch themselves thin, all because they don’t know how to say NO! I found myself in so many situations as such, but at the end of the day, I had to realize, I’m only one person and I can’t be everything to everybody! Besides, if I continued to overextend myself as I was, then I wouldn’t be no good to anybody, even me! Therefore, I decided to take a step back and regroup!

Although my mind began to wonder or stress over the opportunities I’d miss by saying no, my faith told me that, whatever God has for me is for me, and there won’t be any missed opportunities. Equipped with that, I faded to the background, am living my life, and taking things one day at a time, instead of feeling as though I have to do it all at once. Besides, if anything were to happen to me, I’d be replaced, and life would continue as it has, long before I got here!

It’s important to take some time for yourself and work on you. So many people feel selfish (i.e. mothers) for spending an ounce of time on themselves, because they feel as though they are neglecting others. Newsflash: sometimes you have to neglect others, so you can be better. Besides, people will deplete you of your energy, and then question why you’re so tired. But, you’ve got to be willing to let things go, reset, relax and REPEAT!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

She found out who she was

At the age of 34, I became a multi-millionaire! It took me a long time, a lot of sacrifice and hard work to get to this point, but ultimately, I MADE IT! I used to sit and dream about this type of wealth, but to actually have it is way more than anything I could have ever hoped for. Sometimes, I get so overwhelmed by my blessings and am unsure how to handle and process it all, because I’m still in awe of God’s work.

Who would have ever thought, the poor, black girl from Montgomery, AL, would be “sitting on top of the world”, because being apart of it was just not enough! I had to have it, and I had to have it ALL! I dodged bullets (bad relationships/people), climbed mountains (obstacles) and tried to run past failure, but it got me. What? You thought I could outrun him? So did I, but he was too fast and always knew when to catch me.

Once I got around him, I was well on my way. I earned two degrees, received a promotion, wrote and published two books, launched my own website and became a successful business woman (owner). At that point, nobody could tell me nothing, because I found out who I was! I knew my worth and made sure everyone else did too! There were times people would say “You ain’t all that”, but my confidence said, “Speak for yourself”.

Still in disbelief, people say, “Who do you think you are”, to which I firmly and confidently reply, “Deetra La’Rue, Author, Writer, CEO and Owner of CH 1 Bookstore and Lounge”. You see, I’m kind of a big deal, but I don’t make a “big deal” out of it, because I’m no better than anyone else, but I know what I do best, and that’s succeed! I have goals and I’m checking them off as I go.

I couldn’t keep dreaming and watching others do it. I couldn’t keep trying to “live through someone else”, who didn’t even know I existed. I couldn’t keep delaying the things in which I had been praying for. I couldn’t keep saying, “I wish”, “One day” or “I’ll be glad when….” I woke up, got up and I worked my *** off to be able to live and enjoy the life that I have.

I didn’t step on anyone to get here….I didn’t sleep with anyone for a position….instead, I created and built my own! I’m a 34-year-old multi-millionaire and having the time of my life! When I discovered who I was, I realized my potential and power! Make no mistake about it; I DESERVE to be where I’m at, all because I figured out who I am!

People will try, but when you are confident and know who you are, nobody can tell you who you aren’t!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

It’s not about you

A goal of mine when I started this forum, was to post every…..single….day! Needless to say, I haven’t necessarily been on my “P’s and Q’s”. Before I post, I ALWAYS ask God, “What do you want me to tell these people”? After sitting in deep thought for some minutes or two, I end up saying something, although that “something” may not be what I want to share. However, it ends up being something that we feel the readers need.

I’ve never been fond of the way I was raised or the life experiences I went through, and I sure as heck didn’t want to make others aware. Although I couldn’t understand why I was being tortured (so, I thought), I just knew I had to be going through what I did for a reason. My reason used to be as punishment for something I’d done in my life, but He forgives all, so that was no longer an option.

As crazy as this may sound, I learned that my misfortunes needed to happen. (1): It was all apart of God’s plans (2): There was a lesson in it for me and (3): There was a blessing in it for someone else. Part of the things I went through (I feel), was to be able to help others who were about to make their way through where I had been, or who were trying to find a way out. As much as I questioned and asked “Why me”, in all honesty, it wasn’t even about me.

It was about “her”, “him”, “they” and “them” all along….it was never about Deetra! I selfishly choose to put the attention back on me! When I took me out of it, and realized God was using me to help them, the struggles, heartache and pain, all made sense. I can’t begin to tell you the lives I’ve impacted, transformed or made a difference in, because I used my pain to help them get through theirs.

Because I was able to identify with them, I could help! Because I had been through the trenches and they the terrains, I could help! Because I had been through the fiery furnace and they the pits of hell, I could help! Because I said, “Yes Lord, Your will and not mine”, I could help! You never know what your situation may do to help others, but you can’t see it, because you’re too busy trying to get the hell out!

I’m not asking or recommending anyone to stay in a detrimental situation, to obtain experience to pass on to the next person. What I am saying is, sometimes it’s not about you, but them….and the only way you can help them, is if you’ve gone through it yourself! I’ve fallen on many of occasions, and the only way I was able to get back up, was on the strength of someone else’s story. Keep shining! You’re someone’s light in their darkness.

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

99-1

How does it feel to be outnumbered? Defeated? The feeling that the whole world is against you? Take a number, I’ve been waiting for you. Sometimes it feels easier to give in, than to stand up and fight. You ever get so tired of having to defend yourself to people, who have no value, place or purpose in your life? Great! Let’s link up and chat! Hopefully, by the end of this post, your feelings of defeat will be no more.

In all seriousness, I’ve always fought my whole life, so what people are doing to me now, shouldn’t come as any surprise. If anything, I should “expect” it, but we’ll talk about expectations at a later time. For instance, there are these “special” ladies that I know. For whatever reason, these “precious”, “sweet”, “caring” (I’m being totally facetious here) women often get the courage to try and outnumber me.

They hurl insults and threats, and fight with the other to be the first to “bring me down”. Time after time, I feel the sting from their thrown rocks, but it’s not enough to knock me down. If anything, when I see them, my feet are planted so firmly in the ground, that even their hurtful words couldn’t “blow me away”.

To be honest, I’ve never been exposed to so much jealously and hate, but I’m thankful to have withstood it all. I don’t know their reason (if any), why they despise me so much. I’ve tried to have conversations as to what the issue is, but somehow nobody ever seems to have one. All they know, it’s me! I’m flattered and thankful for the “compliment”, because it warms my heart to know people think the “world of me”, and I don’t even think of them.

You see, I’ve learned that some women are intentionally messy and intimidated by strong women. Because they aren’t comfortable with themselves or perceive you as a threat, they’ll do whatever they can to make you uncomfortable. This is why it’s so important to have high self-esteem and confidence, because during times like this, nothing or no one can tear you down!

My confidence, personality and looks are a solid 10, so there’s no way I’m going to allow a “struggling 2” to knock me off my high horses. Yes, I’m bragging, because I’ve come too far to allow what anyone say or do to compromise how I feel about me. It’s no wonder that when people can’t handle me by themselves, they recruit others for help. The sad thing about it is, the recruits are so gullible and have no mind of their own, that they allow others to think for them.

A lot of people have passed on the opportunity to get to know/befriend me, because their “friend” told them not to. Having no mind of your own has got to hurt! However, no matter how many people they draft, it’s still not enough to form an all-star team to beat me! I don’t laugh anymore to keep from crying…I laugh now, because I give them effort for trying!

I saw this post on Instagram that read, “Some people are about to be sorry they missed the opportunity to get to know you, because they listened to what somebody else said about you”. I feel soooo sorry for those people, but am glad that they are one less group that I don’t have to worry about!

People know when you have a lot to offer, are special or possess wonderful qualities in you, that they wished they had for themselves. Therefore, they’ll try to defeat you, outnumber you or do whatever they can to bring about your demise. Although it may be tough at times, remember they can only do to you what you allow them to!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Don’t know, don’t care

I don’t know why it is so hard for people (strangers at that) to just mind their own da** business! Yesterday during one of my morning routines of getting coffee and a bagel, this guy decided to openly chastise me for wearing a leg-barring dress in 65 degree weather. If you’re in Alabama, then you know the weather hasn’t quite made up its mind what it wants to do.

My first thoughts were to “bless his heart” with some unkind words, but since my attitude has changed, my mind followed suit. Instead, I looked at him, particularly his wedding band, and couldn’t figure out for the life of me, why this stranger was concerned about another stranger’s clothes. I mean seriously dude, you have a wife!

Maybe he spoke out, because he’s used to usurping power, but you can’t control someone you have no authority of. Then too, I’m not sure why he felt so comfortable expressing his feelings to me, but I made sure to express mine. I informed him that he spoke to me in a way that appeared as though he wanted me to care, but I couldn’t….and I still don’t!

From his rebuttal, he’s obviously not a fan of outspoken women, but I made it very clear, I don’t like controlling men…especially one who doesn’t stay in their place. After leaving, he still tried to continue to “make his case”, but at that point, he was “overruled” and I presented him with my “closing arguments”.

Besides, I don’t know this man, so I don’t care what the hell he has to say, let alone thinks of me. To be honest, that has been one of the stories of my life. People always want you to care, especially as it pertains to their (unsolicited) views of you. However, I am not impressed with unwanted input!

As I’ve stated before, “I would care, but this doesn’t involve me”! I’m not sure the reason for him affronting me or making such a big deal, but I’m almost for certain, whatever it was/is didn’t “involve” me! People will pick and try to cause drama for you, but don’t subscribe to their “issues”.

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Still here

Anybody that knows me, knows that I am notoriously private (well, I try to be). Sometimes, I’m pretty easy to talk to and other times I’m not (at least that’s what I’ve been told). As I’ve gotten older and wiser, I’ve let my guard down (just a little) and try to be transparent, because I never know who I may help along the way.

It’s no secret that I share a lot of my personal hardships and life experiences on this forum. What’s simply a “post” to you, is more than words; it’s my life! As discreet as I try to be, it’s no secret my battle with depression and anxiety, amongst other things. However, one of the biggest things I’ve struggled with, is whether or not I deserved to “still be here”.

Last year, one of the biggest and bravest things I decided to do, was want more for myself. I decided that I was no longer going to be held captive to my past, my mistakes and most important, the negative thoughts I had of myself. Besides, I couldn’t fault people for not feeling or thinking positive of me, when I didn’t require it from myself.

NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) is one of many organizations that I support (for “obvious” reasons). During one of my many days of online shopping (lol), I came across this jewelry maker on Etsy, and one of the most popular items she sold, was “still here” necklaces, that were followed by the semi-colon sign.

Well, if you are a stranger to the MI (Mental Illness) world, the semi-colon represents a “pause in one’s story, but not the end”. Depression and anxiety was not the end of me (although it tried to destroy me), so I was eager to purchase a necklace, support the cause and allow others to see how brave I was.

My bravery and transparency has allowed others to come forth and share their story. One of my students came to me yesterday, after months of being absent, stating to me why she hadn’t been as active as she needs to be. She shared with me that she is struggling very bad with depression and anxiety, so much, that she literally had to force herself out of bed, and even she doesn’t know how she was able to do it.

Immediately, I felt her anguish, pain and most of all, I felt for her, because not too long ago, I was “trying to get up out of that bed”. I knew then, why I was “still here”….

I don’t care what you are going through or have been through. Never question why you are “still here”…just be thankful that you are!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Get comfortable

Never change yourself to fit the description of what someone else says you should be, because in the end, you might not like the person you’ve become! I’ve always had people against me, particularly women, who stopped at nothing to tear me down. No matter what I did….it wasn’t good enough! No matter what the issue was….I was to blame. But, no matter what they did to sabotage me….I was never destroyed!

Time and time again, my strength is tested, and regardless of how hard the battles or bullsh*t gets, I still win! My enemies are strategic in their plans to bring about my demise, but I’m still standing, leaving them baffled as to why I haven’t fallen yet. After many failed attempts, they try to break me with their words. They talk about me to no end, and when they do…..I let them.

They judge me based upon someone else’s feelings of me, and when they do…..I let them. They try to make me out to be the bad guy, and when they do……I let them. I “let them” do a lot of things, but one thing I won’t, is let them get comfortable! Haters, enemies and jealous individuals have no place in my life, nor will I lower myself to their level, just so they can be seated.

Despite how bad things get, I just keep getting better. I’m no longer hurt by the things that used to hurt me, and when people invite me to a fight, I don’t RSVP to their games. I’m a self-respecting businesswoman, entrepreneur and millionaire (it’s coming) and I’ve got too much to lose! I’m being elevated higher and higher, so the more I go up, the less I’m able to see down (I don’t need to see my haters anyway).

Don’t allow anyone to get comfortable with misery in your life, just because they are uncomfortable in theirs!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue