Hello, I’m Deetra La’Rue

Founder of Notes by La’Rue, your source for all things inspiration, motivation, and encouragement. My blog is founded on the premise that God’s word gives people hope and I aspire to use His word to change lives one NOTE at a time.

  • I object

    I was reading various news articles on yesterday, and one was concerning the Grammys. I’m sure you’re all familiar with the music awards show, but for those who aren’t, the Grammys is the “Oscars” of the music industry. As I read and even questioned some of the nominees, I noticed in particular that one of the music industry’s “favorite” female rappers was not listed in one of the more prestigious categories. I immediately went to the comment section because I knew it would be on fire. “Oh my gosh, she (well-known female rapper) was robbed.” “I can’t believe they left her out, when she’s the goat (greatest of all time).” “How can a female rapper who’s only been on the music scene for a few months, be nominated over someone who’s been in the game for years?” Were some of the responses I read. After having enough of the foolishness, I responded aloud but not on the thread. “One can’t measure a person’s accolades based upon the amount of time they put into working. What God has for someone is for them. He may have one person to work 50 years to acquire a certain level of success and recognition, and another person only 5 months. Whichever route He takes you on, you’re destined to win.

    Don’t let someone question your longevity, label you an overnight success, or accuse you of doing the bare minimum to get to where you are.  Whether you achieve your goals in 5 days or 5 years, makes no difference. All that matters is you did it, and no one can take away what you’ve earned. There will be people who object to your success, but don’t subject yourself to their opinions. If anything, you should be proud of your accomplishments.


  • The filling station

    Whenever God presents me with a new opportunity, particularly a job, I always ask the same three questions:

    1. How long will I be here?
    2. Who will benefit from me being here?
    3. Why am I here?

    Of course, He never answers #1 (at least not immediately), but He never fails to provide me with answer #3. Every job I’ve had, was a filling station. All the knowledge and skills I acquired were used to get me to my next location, until I reached my final destination. While there have been times I wanted to keep driving and not stop when God told me to, I got off on my intended exit, because it is imperative for me to get what I need for where I’m going. It won’t always make sense, but do know that where you are is only preparing (and propelling) you to where you will end up next. God makes no mistake in the path He chooses for your journey. You might not like it, but you’re going to love where it takes you. No matter how frustrating things get, stay the course. You’re (already) headed in the right direction.


  • You can recover

    Two months ago, I had to cancel an assignment because of Hurricane Ian. I was scheduled for a couple of meetings, but what we thought was excessive heavy rain, turned out to be much worse than we’d imagined. Ian was very deadly and destructive and left thousands of people without their homes, power, and personal belongings. While they can never reclaim the loss of life, they can certainly recover from the storm. As with any storm in life (not just involving the elements), no matter how severe or life-changing it is, you can bounce back. It may take you months or years to rebuild, but you’ll come back stronger than ever before. We never know when life may throw us curveballs, so we can’t always prepare for them. However, what we can do is prepare to be given back more than what we lost.

    Rainbows still come after storms; you just have to find them. Don’t allow what you’ve gone through to convince you that it’s the end because it’s not. It’s only the start to something more beautiful.


  • Canceling Regret

    “You’ve changed,” Is a statement I often hear, especially from people who haven’t seen or spoken to me in a while. “Thank God for change,” is always my response, because I’ve come a long way from the person I used to be. Even though change can be good, not everyone is receptive to it, especially when it causes things to change for them. I used to waste a lot of time on people and things I should’ve never played a part in. That embodied me having bad friendships, involvement with people who had ulterior motives, unproductive, dissension starters, no goals, unmotivated, and the list continues. Not only was I around these people, I was like them (to a certain extent). While I’ve never had ulterior motives or a lack of goals, I can say I’ve been unmotivated, not as productive as I could have been, and one who starts drama. Although I’m not proud of anything I’ve done, I don’t regret who’ve become as a result of it.

    Seeing how destructive and hurtful I was in the past (not just to others but myself) made me want to be better, especially for my future. I’m not the bitter and angry woman I once was, and if that is the only impression you have of me, then clearly you don’t know me at all. I’ve evolved into someone I’d never thought I’d be but desperately needed. I realized the change wasn’t just for me, but necessary to help others alike to move on from where I used to be. People sometimes will guilt trip you for changing. They’ll accuse you of now thinking you’re better than them and everyone else, when they probably don’t have a clue as to how you once were, or they’d be glad you sought better. Now that I’m doing things entirely different, there are some things I give more thought to as opposed to just doing on impulse. However, I don’t regret anything I’ve gone through because it’s helped me to get to who and where I am.

    Don’t be conformed to the person you used to be, because someone doesn’t like who you’ve become. They want to hold you hostage to your past, because they can’t get past the fact that the one thing they used to control has now changed, which is you. Change is good and if you get the opportunity to do it, go for it. It’ll make you better.


  • Erasing Progress

    For years, I’ve fought to get to the place in my life where I’m not easily impacted by others’ negative thoughts and opinions of me. For most of my childhood and early adulthood, I placed too much stock into how I was perceived by society instead of how I saw myself. When I was met with hate, dislike, or harshness, I played it off and acted as if none of it bothered me, when deep down it did. Not only did it bother me, but it also hurt me, a lot. In looking back, I think it hurt me more than I really know. When I went to therapy, I knew that was one of the most important things I had to work on, especially as it pertained to my mental health and career goal. When I’m not working in higher education or writing, I occasionally take part in public speaking. We all know the minute you put yourself out there, you become a target and subjected to society’s (unsolicited) opinions.

    During my 14-month sessions, I learned some very valuable tools that has helped me to handle things (and people) I never thought I’d be able to. There have been moments I’ve been in heated arguments or situations that threatened to erase my progress, but I didn’t allow it. I didn’t allow it to set me back either, because therapy has done a lot to propel me forward. Those people and things were dangerous and a detriment to me, and if I would’ve given in, it probably would’ve been the end of me. I often hear stories of people who’ve escaped bad situations or relationships hesitate to go back, because the person who lost them wants closure or to reel them in again, knowingly all along they haven’t changed, they just want to finish destroying them. Don’t be one of those people.

    If you’ve made it to a point in your life where you’re not easily affected by negative chatter or how one perceives you, I applaud your strength. It can be hard tuning out the noise but once you chose not to listen, it gets a little easier (and better) over time. I’ve invested a lot of money (therapy) in my mental health, and it was very instrumental in my progress. While I often get upset that I paid someone to help me in an area that I struggled in (especially one that most deems to be trivial), I’m happy that I did. Although I’ll never be able to erase the negativity spewed out, I won’t allow it to erase my progress.