Happy New Year, everyone! Wishing all of God’s eternal blessings upon you! I don’t have a post today, other than to let each and everyone of you know, it’s time to Get Out And Live (G.O.A.L.) for 2019! No more being stressed, depressed or worried about the things you don’t have. Be grateful for the things you do have, and whatever you stand in need of, put in the WORK until you get it!
Sometimes, we are so caught up in materialistic things and wanting what others have, that we miss out on opportunities….opportunities we would’ve seen, had we not been so focused on others. Money comes and goes, but don’t allow your happiness to follow it! Be you, but most importantly, be PROUD of you! It’s a brand new year, make it a GREAT one!
Good Morning my “note” takers! I pray you all are doing well! On Saturday, December 08, 2018, I celebrated the release of my new book, “Let’s TALK” and my new business venture, CH1 Bookstore, Coffee shop and Lounge (coming 2019)! Despite the nasty rain and extremely cold weather, four of my friends decided to still come out and help me celebrate such a joyous occasion for me. I’ve always known I wanted to be a business owner, but I didn’t have the proper resources (still probably don’t), knowledge and drive.
I’ll admit, I was incredibly lazy, and wanted everyone to do all the legwork for me…even running it! However, because of my controlling ways and OCD, I couldn’t allow “my baby” to be held in the arms of just anyone. So, I did plenty of research (am still researching) and decided I was going to make this happen! I prayed, and prayed and prayed, and asked God to provide me with the guidance that I needed to successfully run a business, only IF it was His plans!
After receiving confirmation, I began to think of what I would call my business. After wrestling with so many names, I finally settled on “Chapters”, but that was not His intention. Instead, while driving home from dinner one Sunday afternoon, I looked over to the car to my left, and the license plate read, “1CH“. Immediately, I heard God say to me, “Chapter 1, because it is the start of many more blessings to come“. I was so overjoyed and overwhelmed by emotions, and I couldn’t process what I heard.
I knew then, that I had confirmation from God, and with Him on my side, there’s no way I could fail! Besides, I reminded myself of the scripture Jeremiah 29:11, which states of God’s plan for my life. Even equipped with all of that, I’m still nervous, because I don’t know the first thing about running a business. However, I’ll do whatever it takes to commit myself to my business and making sure it’s successful.
A lot of times in life, we often talk ourselves out of our accomplishments, because we feel we waited too late or are too old to do anything. However, you’re not late, you’re right on time! Don’t allow others achieving their goals to stop you from achieving yours, simply because they did it at an early age, and you’re just now getting started. Everyone has their own journey and go at their own pace, so don’t feel as though you have to keep up with anyone, for fear of falling behind.
I am 34-years-old, and am just now setting out to accomplish things I’ve always wanted to do since I was a child. I used to have the same thoughts and feelings of everyone getting ahead of me, which caused me to lose focus. If anything, it only made me feel bad, because I felt as though they were succeeding and I was doing anything but. After a lot of soul searching and self-talk, I convinced myself that I can do anything I want to do and be anything I want to be…no matter how old I am! So can you!
If we’re real honest with ourselves, some people are only “temporary delights”. They come into our lives for a moment in time to serve whatever their intended purpose is, and then we should let them go. ~Deetra La’Rue
Relationships can be very fickle, because they’re here one day and gone the next. I never understood what people meant when they spoke of “seasons” from a contextual standpoint. Sometimes my small mind can’t make inferences or “put two and two together”, but I later learned the reference was towards the actual four seasons we may or may not experience (I live in Alabama….trust me, we may get three seasons if we’re lucky). When I learned the clear meaning behind the metaphor, I finally knew the reason why so many people came and went in my life.
Just like the seasons, those particular friendships and relationships had their time limit. Although a few of them had the luxury of experiencing far too many seasons with me, eventually, I had to change my clothes (let them go) to prepare for the new weather. I like to be pretty consistent, because sometimes I’m afraid of change, and the unknown that’s associated with it. That’s probably one of the main reasons why I fell in love with a particular season, and didn’t want to let go to embrace the upcoming one. I knew had I made a change, it meant letting go of the past, which ultimately is what some people have been reduced to.
If we’re real honest with ourselves, some people are only “temporary delights”. They come into our lives for a moment in time to serve whatever their intended purpose is, and then we should let them go. Notice I said “we should let them go”, because they aren’t going to release themselves. They’ll stay for as long as we allow, knowing all along they don’t have good intentions, but the benefits they receive are far too good to give up. I found myself entangled in an unhealthy situation for six seasons, because I kept thinking eventually the “weather” would get better. If anything, it didn’t and it only became more dreary and cold.
Besides, he wasn’t going to go anywhere, because he knew what he was receiving from me (i.e. too much time, energy, support, etc.) was too substantial and valuable; something you would think he could get from someone else, but he couldn’t. Let’s face it, no woman or man is/was going to put up with that, unless he or she was in the place I used to be in, desperate and lonely (reserve the judgment and applaud my bravery; I’m trying to be more transparent here).
When I got tired of trying to hold onto the leaves (people) that the wind (God) was trying to blow away from me, I released my hold and finally just let them go! They had become discolored, unrecognizable (changed) and was simply not something I needed to keep anymore. After they were blown out of sight and eventually out of mind, I prepared for what was to come next! I knew I had to release the old, especially to embrace (and appreciate) the new! All along, God had something better for me, but because I kept bringing old people into my new season, I experienced a cold front far longer than I should have. It took me awhile to see sunny days, because they were constantly being overshadowed by the (unintended) people around me. Nonetheless, I’ve finally got the hang of it, and have no problems letting people go!