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Afternoon, NOTE takers! I purposely didn’t put a title for this post, but rather a punctuation mark, because it represents how I currently feel. I have been VERY busy with school, my full-time job, running my own business, maintaining/updating my website, and booking speaking engagements along the way, that I’ve forgotten I’m only one person and sometimes I get tired. BUT, no matter how tired I am, I still keep moving forward, because I am receiving things I have prayed years for, and I couldn’t be more happier!

In 3 days, I will be speaking to RA High School 9-12 students, about my personal life experiences and how I overcame them. On top of that, I’ve very fortunate and blessed that they also will be having a book signing for me, and I feel so honored! Sometimes, I sit and ask, “Why would they want me to come speak”?, but I realize I have a very awesome and brave story to share, especially to those who are in need of hope, and are going through what I’ve been through.

In the words of Drake, “What a time to be alive”! I couldn’t be anymore happier for the way my life is currently going, and hopefully, I won’t see a period (.) anytime soon. I want this train to continue going, and we all know that a period (.) represents the end, and I don’t want to be stopped! Praying that you too are experiencing complete joy, and all of God’s blessings! Keep going……it’s only the beginning!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

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When you leave “we” for “me”

The woman I am becoming is going to upset some people, cost me a few family members, friendships and relationships, but I’m perfectly okay with that, because in the end, I choose ME! ~ Deetra La’Rue

This afternoon as I was reading my daily devotions, I read that “Those who pursue God’s purpose will always face hard times, troubles and trials”. I’m not sure whose words those belong to, because the plan didn’t give a name or author. Although I don’t know this person’s identity, one thing I do know is, ever since I turned from my old, unaccepting ways, I’ve been met with nothing but jealousy and problems.

I never understood how the minute one decides to live their life according to God’s purpose and try to do the right things, they’re automatically the enemy. I’ve been very forthcoming that I didn’t necessarily have the best attitude and do things the way God intended, but after finally getting my stuff together, I decided I wanted to live a more positive and influential life, not one that was insulting.

There were so many people who pointed out the error of my ways, but I honestly didn’t pay them any mind, because I felt like I was “faultless”. However, after one too many people started saying, “Hey Dee, this is what you’re doing….”, I decided I needed to sit up and pay attention. After all, my life wasn’t going in the direction I wanted it to go, and I now know it had a lot to do with my attitude and foolish ways.

After doing a much needed self-inventory, I started to read my Bible more, spend more time with God and chased after what He wanted for me, as opposed to what I wanted. When I left the negativity alone, my thoughts became positive and God’s will and purpose were more clear than ever. But, I wasn’t going to be able to pursue His plans, until I gave up my own. One of those plans were to remain tied to the same people who I’ve always had a connection too. Not so, said God!

“People who have chosen the path of God will always be met with the fiercest of opposition”. ~Author Unknown

I had what I thought were some pretty rock-solid friendships and relationships, until I started pulling away from them and drawing closer to God and what He has for me. When I showed them that “we” was no longer an option for “me”, I was met with attitudes, cold-shoulders, jealous and envy. You’d think I had committed a heinous crime against them, but the only thing I was guilty of was wanting to be and do better!

I guess my success or this newfound me, was too much to handle! Crazy thing is, I’ve always been the type of person that said I would include everybody once I won. But, it wasn’t that they didn’t want me to share, it was just that they didn’t want to see me WIN! As long as I was a part of the “we”, foolish or craziness, I was “good” in their eyes, because we were all the “same”.

However, when I said I’m going to act right and do “me”, suddenly I was the enemy or “better than”, when I don’t even act that way (NEVER WILL). You know, people are okay with you being less than them or equal to them, but when they feel you are well on your way above them, they resent you for your success/accomplishments, and will do everything they can to see you fail, even it means they’re the ones to pull you back down.

I want everybody to do well and I don’t want anyone to fail, because I’m afraid of them succeeding….even more than me. I would be foolish if I said that all I’m experiencing from people now, doesn’t bother me, because it does. But, one thing that doesn’t, is my ability to walk away! Besides, I don’t want to affiliate myself with someone or people who sees me as a threat, or choose to involve me in a secret competition that I’m not even aware that I’m a part of.

I’m thankful for the ones who are not offended or bothered by my success, because they want me to continue to do well. Note takers, the road to success is not an easy one, and often times we’ll want to take those we’re familiar with or close to, along with us, because it can be lonely. But, whatever you do, don’t allow them to hold you hostage to the idea of staying the same or remaining a part of “the group”, when you know God has better plans for you.

Sometimes we can get so caught up in pleasing “we”, that we forget all about “me”. I love me, I appreciate and am proud of the woman I am evolving into, even if that means being by myself at times. But, I’m okay with that, because I’ll ALWAYS choose me!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

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“This is a stick-up”!

So many people are getting “robbed” everyday, and they have no idea that “comparison” is the reason for the stick-up! 

I am sad quite often, and sometimes wonder if my happiness will ever return.  Getting dolled up, putting on my favorite red lipstick and highest pair of heels used to cure the “blues”, but not even clothes can restore my smile.  I’ve somehow allowed my comparison to others to steal my joy. I’m in a pretty good space in my life, and I am on the horizon of being the most successful I’ve ever been.  But, it’s the “success” part that’s getting to me.  

Although I don’t make 6-figures (check back with me in 2019), I consider myself to be pretty successful.  However, I take a look to my left and right, and see that everyone around me are either CEO’s, VP’s or closing major business deals, and here I am just trying to get mine off the ground.  Just like that, 6 days of absolute bliss and happiness from the release of my new book Let’s TALK!, launch of this website and start of my FIRST business, has been overshadowed by what someone else has accomplished. 

Talk about a rip off! Immediately, I say to myself the same exact thing I tell my students, success=HARDWORK and not the amount of money you have! I can’t covet what my neighbor has, because it’s only making me appear less thankful for the things I have.  I come from a very harsh background and am extremely blessed and fortunate to have made it out of my situation.  When I look back on my childhood (or lack of, I should say) I am a CEO, VP and so much more, in comparison to my life then.  I refuse to waste another second of my time dreaming, loathing or being jealous over someone else’s success, when I have so much of my own to be proud of and thankful for!

Chapter 14 in my new book Let’s TALK!, is entitled, “Focus on you, not them”. Just a brief excerpt: “Everybody knows comparison is the thief of joy, and every time you compare your journey to that of another, you lose happiness and ultimately become unappreciative of your blessings.  It’s one ting to admire others success and use it as your motivation to achieve your own, but it’s another thing to want what someone else has, simply because they have it….you’ll never be able to achieve your own goals, because you’re too busy focusing on others”. 

Be happy for others, but don’t allow their success to make you unhappy! Be patient, Rome wasn’t built in a day, so don’t expect your empire to be! 

Writefully yours, 

Deetra La’Rue