The Purge

“When I make it, I’m bringing everybody with me”! Have you ever questioned the reason as to why you don’t have something you want, is because you are holding on to something you don’t need? You desperately want to win in life and can’t, because they’re the reason you keep losing! You don’t understand, they’ve been there with me during my struggle”, but what if they are the cause of the struggle? I know you want to have friends, but some people can’t be to you what you are to them, not because they don’t know how, but because they don’t want to. I went through a period in my life, where I thought I had three of the strongest and most loyal people on my team, that I was proud to call friend. As the years went by and when I started to move up, they were strategically planning to bring me down. Although I saw the signs, was subjected to their jealousy and a victim of their false adoration, I still tried to bring them along. I carried them with me for years, but I eventually had to “cut off my hand to save my arm”. What I thought I needed, was the very thing I had to get rid of.

There is going to come a time in your life where you need to purge yourself of some people. Regardless of the attachment, if it’s not beneficial to you, then you need to considering detaching yourself from it. Granted you want everybody to share in your success, but you can’t, when they’re secretly conspiring to stop it. Although they may have acted as though they were for you and with you, they really were against you! You can’t pick up everybody and allow them to enjoy the ride, when they want it to be over (for you). “Everybody can’t go on your journey. It’s yours for a reason”.

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Happiness is a choice!

Are you happy? Sad? Negative or positive? Everybody is responsible for their own decisions, and I’m sick of people allowing others to influence theirs. The moment we give someone control over our emotions, essentially, we are saying, “Do as you please…….I give you all power”!

Why would you want someone to control or determine how you feel? How you live your life? How is it, that you can allow them to dictate how you feel, when half the time, they don’t even know why they’re sad? It irks me when people throw themselves pity parties, extend an invitation, and then get upset when you refuse to come.

I made the choice to make my own decisions. Nothing or no one controls me, so that way, when things don’t go as planned, I can only fault myself, because ultimately, it was “my choice”. When I got tired of struggling and playing the cards I was dealt, I “made the choice” to do better for myself.

Everyday, I choose to be happy and try not to allow what’s happening around me, to effect me! Everybody has choices, so if you are choosing to be anything other than happy, then you have to live with your decision! Stop misplacing blame and accept responsibility for your feelings and actions.

Happiness is a choice, so if you aren’t, it’s because you chose NOT too!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Making decisions

Why is it so easy for us to hold onto things/people that don’t mean us well, yet we struggle with letting go of what’s not meant to be? It’s shameful almost, because in our minds, we’ve created this fantasy that we so desperately try to live in. We’ll suffer, endure hurt and pain, all because we want to “make it work”. However, no matter how much we try to make things right, they’ll always go wrong.

I don’t like “forced things”, yet surprisingly, I find myself almost always in forced situations. I used to stay, because I didn’t want to receive the backlash I assumed I’d get, for hurting someone’s feelings or telling them “no”. All along, I knew those situations or people weren’t good for me or to me, but again, I stayed, because I simply didn’t want to be bothered with the….

Nonetheless, regardless of what choice I made, the outcome always remained the same. I was pleasing them, although I was displeased with myself! How did I get to the point of allowing others to dictate who and what I was? What I did, and how I did it? I wasn’t a puppet, so I couldn’t understand why I was allowing people to control my strings.

Better yet, I demanded the ventriloquist take his/her hand out my back, because I was ready to speak for my d…..self! I ultimately made the decision to let go of people and their b…….I wasn’t taking anymore of what they were giving, because I didn’t benefit from it anyway. Essentially, I stood up for myself, and have been ever since. Besides, I can’t live in fear of people’s backlash, when I don’t fear them!

If a situation or person is not of benefit to you, then end it! Don’t allow someone to hold you hostage, because they’re fearful of you once you become free! Stand up for yourself and make the choice to walk away! After all, the decision is yours!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue