When you’re so busy going, going, going, it’s nice to just reset, relax and repeat! Although I have gone months and years even, without writing, I promised myself that when I started this motivational forum, I would write everyday. Sad to say, I let that get away from me. However, I am so thankful that I chose to take a few days (or many more) away from writing, just so I can regroup.

Aside from my job having me to travel quite frequently, my extended work hours, mixed with my writing career, I barely have time to think, let alone what I’m going to think about writing. Honestly, having a little me time has done me so much good, because for the longest I didn’t know if I was going or coming. I no longer do “New Year’s Resolutions”, but a “goal board”, and one of the things on my goal board was to have more leisure time/me time.

I realized that I was going full steam ahead, and although I am forever grateful to God for all the opportunities He has afforded me with, there still comes a point in your life where you simply need to stop and hit the reset button. By no means am I complaining about my blessings, but I know in order for me to continue on with the things I have set for myself to achieve, I needed to take a step back, and work on my mental and physical being. Honestly, I think that’s the problem that most people have.

They immerse themselves in their work, avail themselves to others too often and stretch themselves thin, all because they don’t know how to say NO! I found myself in so many situations as such, but at the end of the day, I had to realize, I’m only one person and I can’t be everything to everybody! Besides, if I continued to overextend myself as I was, then I wouldn’t be no good to anybody, even me! Therefore, I decided to take a step back and regroup!

Although my mind began to wonder or stress over the opportunities I’d miss by saying no, my faith told me that, whatever God has for me is for me, and there won’t be any missed opportunities. Equipped with that, I faded to the background, am living my life, and taking things one day at a time, instead of feeling as though I have to do it all at once. Besides, if anything were to happen to me, I’d be replaced, and life would continue as it has, long before I got here!

It’s important to take some time for yourself and work on you. So many people feel selfish (i.e. mothers) for spending an ounce of time on themselves, because they feel as though they are neglecting others. Newsflash: sometimes you have to neglect others, so you can be better. Besides, people will deplete you of your energy, and then question why you’re so tired. But, you’ve got to be willing to let things go, reset, relax and REPEAT!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

No longer the baby

“Honey, your father and I have something to tell you. You’re going to be a big sister”! As you watch their face light up, your world has just turned to darkness, because the spot (light) you’ve held for so long, is now gone. 1000 thoughts are racing through your mind, but the one that sticks out the most is, “What does that mean for me”?

Like the individual in the story above, a lot of you can probably relate. However, I’m not speaking about having a new sibling, but feelings of being replaced, left out or forgotten about, even. Sort of like your Freshmen year in college, you got all the attention, because everybody was curious as to who the “newbies” were on campus.

You probably experienced extra special treatment, because people wanted to ensure your first year was a success. Then, you became a Sophomore, and your title of once being the “new kid on the block” changed. Suddenly, you’re struggling to fit in and find a spot. “No longer the baby”, you feel left out and unimportant.

You’ve been shunned, and the light that once shone on you, is now shining on someone else. You’re desperate…..and will do whatever it takes to regain the attention and love you’re all too fond of. Stopping at nothing, you do all that you can to get people to “notice” you again, even if it means changing who you are.

Stop! Before you mess up a good thing (meaning you), I’d like you to consider this: positions change! You’re not meant to stay in the same spot forever, so don’t get comfortable! So many people miss out on great opportunities, because they’ve become complacent with where they’re at, and don’t want to move.

Advancement in employment is declined, because nobody wants the responsibility of leading (some people are good and perfectly okay, with following). Some women pass on a good husband, and men a good wife, because they’re too busy trying to turn the one they have into the one they want. Good luck with that!

The opportunity of a lifetime can come your way, but you refuse to give up your “something for nothing”. Sadly, you let your blessings pass you by, because you’re afraid of what the “shift” is going to do for you. However, you’ve got to understand that change is inevitable and sometimes it’s what we need most! You may be in a pretty good position, but there is something more promising and better on the way! All you need to do is get uncomfortable and move!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue