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Great Value

As far back as I can remember, I’ve always been shallow. The looks, personality and attitude had to be a 10, and if a person failed to meet those requirements, I failed to give them any of my time or attention. The old saying goes, “Looks aren’t everything”, but to me they were. I didn’t care if you had the best personality, a wad full of money or had everything good going for you, if I didn’t think you looked good, then I felt as though you weren’t good enough for me. Whew! Thank God for growth!

I now realize I was so outta pocket, and when I look back over the few guys I passed on, I whip myself tirelessly for making such a huge (and dumb) mistake. I was that shopper that always went for the “name brand items”, and passed on the ones that were “lesser in value”. I don’t know why, but the name brand items “appeared” to be better. However, the more I bought them, the less appealing they were. Truthfully speaking, I was choosing the things that looked good to me, but were anything but. Needless to say, “Everything that looks good to you, isn’t good for you”.

As I rose from the depths of my shallowness, I started to gravitate towards the “Great Value” items. Although they were cheaper, it turns out they were actually better than the more expensive items. All those years I passed on “mediocre”, because I thought I had something great. If you haven’t figured it out by now, my shopping experience has nothing to do with “food”. It’s about me making the wrong selections as it relates to men. I didn’t give the nice guys, who weren’t so easy on the eyes a chance, because I was too hung up with looks.

Turns out the couple that I did entertain, were no doubt good-looking, but that’s where it ended. They had no substance and essentially, were a waste of my time. As a result of me being so caught up with looks, I couldn’t see anything else. I’ve learned to never judge a book by its cover! Instead, I open it up, read a few chapters, and then determine whether or not I want to continue on. Besides, some of the least appealing books, end up being a pretty “good read”!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in All that glitters isn't gold!

Glitter but no gold

I titled this post after the name of my first book, “Glitter but no gold: How I turned my wounds into wisdom”, because perception is everything, but our false reality is not! Have you ever logged onto your social media account, only to see people hashtag, #goals?

Completely unaware of what’s behind the images they see, all they know is, it’s (or they are) their “goal”. For all we know, they can be modeling themselves or life, after someone who’s not even living theirs! Like a child, we see nice, shiny things, and automatically equate it to gold, but everything that glitters is not!

This is one of the biggest things I preach constantly to my students and strangers even, because for some apparent reason, they think I “have it all”, when a lot of days, I’m falling apart at the seams. I keep telling them, they don’t want these problems! However, all they see is a very nice truck, beautiful clothes and shoes, a great personality and someone who’s outgoing, but they don’t know what lies behind a “smile”.

I mask a lot of things, but one thing I won’t ever do, is sell someone a dream, that even I can’t afford to have! We’re so quick to envy, lust and want what others have, but deep down inside, they’re desperately trying to give it away, because they don’t want the negativity that’s attached to it. It could be abuse, low self-esteem, suicidal thoughts and so much more! Who knows, but all I know is, I don’t want anything that someone else has!

Keep in mind, it can sparkle, glisten, be radiant or shine, it still doesn’t make it GOLD!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue