Hello, I’m Deetra La’Rue

Founder of Notes by La’Rue, your source for all things inspiration, motivation, and encouragement. My blog is founded on the premise that God’s word gives people hope and I aspire to use His word to change lives one NOTE at a time.

  • Canceling Regret

    “You’ve changed,” Is a statement I often hear, especially from people who haven’t seen or spoken to me in a while. “Thank God for change,” is always my response, because I’ve come a long way from the person I used to be. Even though change can be good, not everyone is receptive to it, especially when it causes things to change for them. I used to waste a lot of time on people and things I should’ve never played a part in. That embodied me having bad friendships, involvement with people who had ulterior motives, unproductive, dissension starters, no goals, unmotivated, and the list continues. Not only was I around these people, I was like them (to a certain extent). While I’ve never had ulterior motives or a lack of goals, I can say I’ve been unmotivated, not as productive as I could have been, and one who starts drama. Although I’m not proud of anything I’ve done, I don’t regret who’ve become as a result of it.

    Seeing how destructive and hurtful I was in the past (not just to others but myself) made me want to be better, especially for my future. I’m not the bitter and angry woman I once was, and if that is the only impression you have of me, then clearly you don’t know me at all. I’ve evolved into someone I’d never thought I’d be but desperately needed. I realized the change wasn’t just for me, but necessary to help others alike to move on from where I used to be. People sometimes will guilt trip you for changing. They’ll accuse you of now thinking you’re better than them and everyone else, when they probably don’t have a clue as to how you once were, or they’d be glad you sought better. Now that I’m doing things entirely different, there are some things I give more thought to as opposed to just doing on impulse. However, I don’t regret anything I’ve gone through because it’s helped me to get to who and where I am.

    Don’t be conformed to the person you used to be, because someone doesn’t like who you’ve become. They want to hold you hostage to your past, because they can’t get past the fact that the one thing they used to control has now changed, which is you. Change is good and if you get the opportunity to do it, go for it. It’ll make you better.


  • Erasing Progress

    For years, I’ve fought to get to the place in my life where I’m not easily impacted by others’ negative thoughts and opinions of me. For most of my childhood and early adulthood, I placed too much stock into how I was perceived by society instead of how I saw myself. When I was met with hate, dislike, or harshness, I played it off and acted as if none of it bothered me, when deep down it did. Not only did it bother me, but it also hurt me, a lot. In looking back, I think it hurt me more than I really know. When I went to therapy, I knew that was one of the most important things I had to work on, especially as it pertained to my mental health and career goal. When I’m not working in higher education or writing, I occasionally take part in public speaking. We all know the minute you put yourself out there, you become a target and subjected to society’s (unsolicited) opinions.

    During my 14-month sessions, I learned some very valuable tools that has helped me to handle things (and people) I never thought I’d be able to. There have been moments I’ve been in heated arguments or situations that threatened to erase my progress, but I didn’t allow it. I didn’t allow it to set me back either, because therapy has done a lot to propel me forward. Those people and things were dangerous and a detriment to me, and if I would’ve given in, it probably would’ve been the end of me. I often hear stories of people who’ve escaped bad situations or relationships hesitate to go back, because the person who lost them wants closure or to reel them in again, knowingly all along they haven’t changed, they just want to finish destroying them. Don’t be one of those people.

    If you’ve made it to a point in your life where you’re not easily affected by negative chatter or how one perceives you, I applaud your strength. It can be hard tuning out the noise but once you chose not to listen, it gets a little easier (and better) over time. I’ve invested a lot of money (therapy) in my mental health, and it was very instrumental in my progress. While I often get upset that I paid someone to help me in an area that I struggled in (especially one that most deems to be trivial), I’m happy that I did. Although I’ll never be able to erase the negativity spewed out, I won’t allow it to erase my progress.


  • Walk it out

    As I was scrolling through Instagram, I came across a video of a camel struggling to walk through sand. Before you question the validity of the video (especially since camels are natural creatures of the desert), hear me out. To set the scene, this camel appeared to be going through the aftermath of a sandstorm, because it was an excessive amount surrounding it. In fact, it was covered knee deep in sand and at one point appeared to be galloping like a horse as it fought to get its legs in front of itself, because the sand was weighing it down.

    As it struggled to climb the hill, I thought to myself, “Why won’t someone help?” Especially the person up top recording. Then it dawned on me. There will be times in our lives where we all struggle to make it to the top. Although there will be people watching who are already where we aspire to be, they won’t do anything to help us. Instead, they’ll sit back and watch as we struggle to make the uphill climb, hoping and probably praying we never do. But here’s what I want you to do, continue to climb. I don’t care how long it takes you to reach your goal, keep humping (no pun intended) until you get there.


  • God don’t like ugly

    I don’t care who you are or where you are proximity wise in this world, we all have heard the expression, “God don’t like ugly.” Well, I’m here to tell you today, yes, He does! He likes when our situations are ugly, hard, difficult, and deemed to impossible to get out of, because that’s when He shows us what He’s really capable of. He’s capable of doing exceedingly and abundantly above all we could ask or imagine. He’s capable of turning nothing into something. He’s capable making a way out of no way. He’s capable of everything because He knows He won’t ever fail at anything. His power and strength is displayed best in our times of weakness and trouble.

    No matter how ugly or gritty that thing is you’re going through, He’s going to bring you through. I know He doesn’t like when people say or do ugly things, but I do know that in His timing, He can (and will) make all ugly things beautiful.


  • Listening Matters

    I’ve verbalized a million times that I have anxiety. It causes me constant headaches, a heightened sense of fear (for context, “doomsday”), extreme worrying, irritation, and restless nights. Incorporate that with negative thoughts, social media, and the news, and you have a recipe for disaster. I consume a lot of online news and social media daily, that it affects me in a very unpleasant way. I fight with my mind and body to go to sleep at night, because it’s still “high” off everything I’ve set my eyes and ears to that day. It takes a lot for me to deprogram and sometimes I don’t. As a result, my sleep is interrupted. By morning, I’m so restless, tired, and fearful of what I’m going to read next, to which I find myself repeating the same antagonizing cycle over and over again.

    I’d reached my breaking point (literally) and realized the only way to not get myself “worked up,” is by limiting what I take in. I’m constantly learning that what you listen to matters, not only to your mental health, but physical and emotional well-being. There are a lot of devastating things going on in this world that affects me, even though I’m not in direct relation to it. In other words, it doesn’t have to happen to me, in order for it to bother me. I’m not sure if you can relate, but it can be so debilitating and leave you with thoughts and feelings of helplessness. I wish it were within my means to control some of the things that are happening, but what is within my control is how I respond to it. Although I know I can’t run from social media and the news, what I can do is tune most of it out.

    It’s okay to watch the news or indulge in social media. Just don’t make a habit of ingesting too much. Sometimes, you need to walk away for a while before it becomes too much you can bear.