We’re always talking about change, yet there are times we never really want it; we just like the idea of it. I used to have a student that would come to my office just about everyday, always complaining about her circumstances, and how it was her siblings fault, that she was going through such a difficult time. After trying to get her to come to her senses, and take full responsibility for her actions, I also challenged her to put into plan an action, to help her overcome her situation.
For awhile, she was making progress, until she no longer saw any. Shortly thereafter, she went back to complaining about wanting change, but not wanting to do anything to bring about it. Having had enough, one of the last times she came into my office, I said to her, “You’re constantly screaming about needing change, yet you’re not doing anything about. If you want change, do something about it! If you’re not willing to do anything about it, then STOP talking about it, because I’m tired of listening!” Not only did she stop talking about it, she stopped coming into my office.
If people would rather complain, than do anything to change their situation, change how you respond to them!
Until next time my NOTE takers!