Most recently, I was friends with this counterfeit, I mean guy. Yeah, I’m about to “go there.” I befriended him for several reasons, and stop being his friend for more reasons than I can count. I loved a lot of good qualities he had, until I found out he actually had none. It’s almost as if his “inner me” got tired of pretending to be someone he was not, and what I was not going to do, was stick around to see if things would change. A lot of times, I can be so enamored with someone, that the little things I should be paying attention to, are overshadowed by the big lies they tell. At any rate, I got fed up with the fabricated stories, extreme negativity, and most importantly, his misplacement of blame. In the short time that I knew him, everything he had ever experienced in life, was the result of him being dealt a “bad hand,” yet he was the damn dealer.
Essentially, when the honeymoon was over, so were we! I realized if I couldn’t spend the rest of my life being friends with him, there was no way I could ever be anything more to him. Besides, I wanted so much more for myself, and if all he could give me was lies and negativity, I knew he couldn’t give me anything else. At least nothing good, for that matter. Was the decision to severe ties with him difficult? Initially, no, because I kept trying to make myself not see the things that I did. Was the decision to severe ties with him the best one I’ve made in a long time? Lord knows, but one thing I do know, when God put that fire out, He said it’ll never reignite again…and I wouldn’t want it too! I hate I wasted an entire year of my life that I can never get back, and even though I lost time, I gained a lot of strength and endurance. That experience has taught me to run when my mind tells me to, instead of staying put at my heart’s command.
It doesn’t matter who you are, how seasoned (old) you are, or how smart or wise you are, you can STILL be deceived. God will always show you warning signs and give smoke signals, and when He does, pay attention!
Until next time my NOTE takers!