“It’s over”, is probably one of the last things anyone in a relationship wants to hear. Like most women, I’ve spent a great part of my life fantasizing and preparing for marriage, that I’ve never entertained the idea of divorce, because in my eyes, I “just know”, it’s going to work. Although I’m a hopeless romantic and optimist, I’m not naïve either. I know things can happen, people change and so does their feelings, and not everyone is meant to be together forever. The divide is not to say you don’t love them anymore, but the relationship you shared is no longer beneficial for you. The dissolution of marriage can be for a myriad of reasons, but often times, the journey you start together, can lead you down different paths.
I’m probably not the best at using analogies, but I’m great at making a point. Although division can be viewed negatively, it can be a good thing. For some of us, separation needs to happen, in order for our next to occur. I’ve made mention before, that two months back, I was relieved from my job (see post here https://notesbylarue.com/2020/08/28/relieved/). Although I was not hurt, I wasn’t the least bit surprised either. For months, I felt God was calling me for change, and I knew it would only be a matter of time before I would leave, or He forced me to. Initially, when I started, I really had no plans of leaving, because I loved the work I did, I definitely enjoyed the perks and benefits, and the pay was good.
As time passed, that burning fire and desire I had to be there, was slowing losing its flame. However, I continued on, because I was in love with what I did, but not with where I was. The same can be said for marriage. A person can be in love with you, but not with the union. Redirecting, I stayed and tried to make things work, but things no longer were (again, marriage). After months of stalling, God created a divide between us, because He knew I was afraid to let go, even though things were no longer beneficial for me. I had not received a raise, jealousy prohibited me from promotion and the spark was just not there. I promise, I am not leading you to leave your marriage/relationship. LOL!
Yet, I am leading you to believe that everything happens for a reason. It could be that God is protecting you, or the company that you work for could be on the brink of closing, so God decided to release you first. Who knows, but what I do know is, there comes a time where you will need to separate yourself from people and things. You’ll be alone, but I have no clue how long it’ll be. However, God will sustain you and give you provision. Better is on the way, because there’s no way (I believe) He will close one door, and not open a bigger one. Separation is not easy, but it’s absolutely necessary!
Until next time my NOTE takers!