Notes by La'Rue

There’s nothing more aggravating than trying to assemble something, that’s come with a thousand and one pieces. We all dread reading the ever confusing thick “white booklet”, also known as the instructions. Before we even allow ourselves the chance to fully read it, let alone follow it, we quickly try to do it on our own. “I got this”, we say. Well, a migraine and a few hours later, we’re elated and proud of ourselves for completing the assembly. As we try to put it to use, we realize it’s not working. We’re dumbfounded, because we know for a fact we did everything right, so we’re not sure where we went wrong. Although we’d like to think we dotted every “i” and crossed all t’s, we forgot one very important thing…. to follow all the steps. Because of our impatience and urgency for wanting things now (and I’m talking right now), we’ll skip steps 2-5 to get to 6, when 2-5 are most critical to us. It’s during these steps that we learn what we need to complete the process.

Do you often find yourself hurrying to the next phase, by jumping over steps, because you simply can’t wait? Don’t worry, we’re in this thing together! Take a marriage for example. Typically, before you marry, you go through the dating phase. Here, you learn each other, and share your likes, dislikes, etc. Next, (if all goes well) you meet what could possibly be your best friend or your worst enemy, “the family”. At this point, you’re about to determine if you’re going to run to the altar or for your life. LOL! All jokes aside, this step is important, because if you’re planning a future with someone, you want to know what you’re getting yourself into. Once you pass this step, it’s smooth sailing…until you encounter a riptide: living together. This is important for a lot of people, because they want to know if they are able to co-live with their partner, if they’re clean, leave the seat up, and so forth. In other words, do I really want to get married to you!

Lastly, you’ve made it to the homestretch, the final step, marriage. Do understand that although a lot of people will make it here, they won’t stay. When they skipped steps 2-5, they failed to get what’s required to not only help them reach step 6, but to stay there. In most cases, this doesn’t apply to everybody, because I’m sure there are plenty of couples who went straight from the first date to the courthouse. Although this is particularly not about marriage, and is probably not a good analogy, I can only hope you see what I’m trying to convey: have patience! It’s so easy to become antsy and want to rush to see what’s next. So much so, you end up skipping the line, when you needed to wait your turn. Remember, every step counts, so please take your time and wait!  

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue