Month: October 2019

Paralyzed

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I want to leave my job, but my students need me….

I want to say “yes”, but I need to say “NO”…….

I want to take a break from school, but I need to keep going (although I’m mentally drained)….

I want to be a Doctor, but I need to just be a Nurse (says my mom)….

I want to leave my boyfriend, but I need to remain with him, because I won’t find anyone better……

I want to move, but I need to stay, because my “life” is in Alabama….

I want to have more, but I need to be content with what I have….

I want to be further along, but I need to be right where I am….,,,

Have you ever “wanted” to do something, but was paralyzed with fear? Maybe the “unknown” and “possibility of failure” has somehow coerced you to believe you can’t do what you want, because success is not guaranteed. Perhaps you’re unwilling to pursue your goals, because you “just know” opposition is ahead. In order to not run into it, you forgo your dreams, because things are much “safer” where you are.

Fear is one of the most debilitating things one can experience. For years, it has invoked terror into people and scared them into believing they’re not worthy of nothing, let alone anything good. However, you can’t live your life in a panic room, because your’e afraid to “move”, to “leave”, to “take a break” or say “no”. Don’t allow fear to determine how far you go, and don’t allow it to paralyze you!

#fearnothing #fearnoone #fearwillNOTwin

Until next time my NOTE takers,

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Powerless

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“A woman unaffected by insults, has made her enemies absolutely powerless”. ~Entity

There is no greater feeling than knowing I took their power away!  They are weak, defenseless and cannot fight back, even if they wanted to.  I tower over them like skyscrapers, looking down and laughing, because they can no longer hurt me with the venomous things that used to hurt me.  All the insults, darts and attacks they lodged at me, missed!  After years of trying to please many Masters, I cut the strings and begin to walk and talk on my own. When I didn’t care enough about me, I was affected by everything everyone said, even the things that weren’t true. When I developed a thicker skin, not even the “stings” could penetrate through.

One of my favorite and fellow bloggers, Dr. Perry, wrote a post on the “Law of allowances”. One of the most profound things he states is, “It is important to point out that the allowance of negative behaviors, from people in your life, is not because of a law of attraction but has everything to do with the law of allowances. What negative behaviors are you willing to allow from the people who surround you? It can be as simple as allowing a person to take a week to respond to your text. Or, it can be as serious as allowing abusive behaviors in your relationships”. The hurt and pain I experienced from others, was “allowed”. I “allowed” them to speak to me negatively. I “allowed” what they said to hurt me and change the way I viewed myself.

Speaking of allowed, one of the worst things you can do, is allow someone control over you (your emotions/feelings). In some of my many sessions, I would always tell my Therapist how this person made me mad or made me act a certain way. In her “strong” voice, she’d say, “A person will only do what you allow them to do, because you’ve given them control”. Although she can be a bit spicy at times in her delivery, she has given me nothing but truth! I didn’t realize what I was doing at the time, but essentially, I was giving my power away. Sad to say, I relinquished all control over to my enemies.

When I regained control, I saw the benefits of turning a blind eye to my enemies. Instead of fighting tic for tac with words, I simply didn’t use any. Remember, silence is a response, and when people talk about you, let them! Granted words will hurt, but they won’t when you don’t care!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Be good to me

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“What you tell yourself everyday, will either lift you up or tear you down”~ @journeystrength

I LOVE me! That’s a huge accomplishment for me, because it hasn’t always been that way. There were so many years I went searching for love, because I couldn’t give myself any. I began looking to others to build me up, increase my self-esteem and give me a pat on the back, but the only thing I got was repetitive disappointment. After continual upsets, I promised myself, I’d “be good to me”, instead of relying on someone else to do it. The days of my self-sabotage decreased and my self-esteem soared. I stopped talking down to myself, and picked myself up, with showers of kudos and praise. Ultimately, I felt good, when I felt good about me!

Are you not “feeling” you? Don’t quite think you look your best? Are you still saying, “I’ll be so glad when I lose this weight, so I can……” So you can what? Finally live your life? In the amount of time it will take you to lose weight, you will have already wasted too much time, and missed out on a lot. Remember, you set the tone for how you feel, and if you don’t feel good about you, then you can’t expect someone else to!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

You can’t handle the truth

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“You’re too confident”……

“You’re too smart”………

“You’re too ambitious”……

“You’re too hard-working”….

“You’re just too much”!

Ever felt like you had to change your identity, all because someone couldn’t “identify” with you? Better yet, have you stopped loving the things that make up you, in order to be acceptable and pleasing to others? If you have, we’ve wasted a lot of time. However, for those of you who haven’t, I admire (and once needed) your strength. I went through a period of trying to be “socially acceptable” and then most regrettably, “people acceptable”. But, in the end, the person I had become, was NOT acceptable to me! When I found my strength, I lost others’ opinions and standards of me. Just because someone feels a certain way about you, doesn’t mean you have too! Besides, I will never stop being who I am, just because someone else can’t handle it!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Nobody like you

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“If everybody could do it, they would”! Have you ever wondered why you, of ALL people, were blessed with the gifts and talents that you have? Maybe you’ve pondered or perhaps even questioned, “Why me, not them”? Do you think it’s a coincidence, or do you believe it was on purpose? If you’re anything like me, you chose the latter. Before you were created, God had only ONE blueprint in mind……yours! When He designed you, He didn’t have an example to use, because He knew, there’d be nobody like you!

So often I see/hear of people wanting to be like someone else, which disturbs me, because I can’t think of anyone I’d rather be, other than me! It’s disappointing to say the least, because I can’t begin to tell you all the “Beyonce’s” and “Michael Jackson’s” I’ve seen, but none pale in comparison to the original. Now granted, “imitation is the sincerest form of flattery”, but why try and emulate someone you weren’t created to be? God didn’t create you to mimic someone else, especially when He knows “the original is worth more than the copy”.

Better yet, how do you think it makes Him feel, when you want to be someone other that what He’s created? Whether you know it or not, essentially, you’re telling Him that you don’t value or appreciate who you are, because you feel as though His other creations are worth more than you (just think about it), and are somehow even better. I don’t know about you, but I can’t think of anyone on this planet, that’s better than ME! You can call me arrogant or foolish, but if you’re going to call me anything, I’d rather you call me UNIQUE…because there’s NOBODY LIKE ME!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue