Posted in hungry for more

Greed

Two weeks ago, I was blessed with an opportunity of a lifetime, well, at least in my lifetime! I spoke to close to 400 students, faculty and staff, at one of the high schools in North, AL. Upon my arrival, I didn’t really know how many students I was going to speak to, because the number fluctuated between 300-350. I was very nervous to say the least, but with God’s grace, I knew I would get through it. When I met the Principal, he informed me that I was originally to scheduled to speak in the auditorium, but due to me speaking to the ENTIRE high school, they could only accommodate me in the gymnasium.

Talk about insanity! I was thrilled, ecstatic and had feelings of apprehension, all at once. Doubt started to set in, but I knew this is what I was called to do, so I closed my ears to defeat and eyes to fear. I was in my element, and the words flowed like milk and honey. Granted after it was over, I felt as though I didn’t really give my best, because every time I surveyed the audience of 300 (plus), I couldn’t help but wonder if I touched them or bored them? However, based upon the praise, compliments and positive feedback, it’s safe to say they “felt” what I said.

At the end of the day, I was on an absolute high, and there was no way I was coming down anytime soon. I became greedy, and wanted more….so much more, and whatever I set my mind to do, I don’t stop until I conqueror it. Many of you know, that I am a Motivational Speaker, and I get paid great money to speak with high school students, but none of you know that I am in the early phases of working to become a Certified Life Coach. I told you I was greedy! I know without a doubt that God has blessed me with a wonderful gift! I love what I do, and how my story makes them feel is much more rewarding than the pay.

I’ve shared this before, and I’ll share this again, the stars are still there…..all you’ve got to do is reach for them! It doesn’t matter how old you are or how long you’ve waited to achieve your goals. All that matters is that you put your best foot forward, apply lots of effort, quite a bit of sweat and plenty of tears, and you’ll be where you want to be. However, you’ve got to be okay with knowing that success rarely comes on the first attempt, so keep working until you reach it!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in Don't worry, be happy

Happy Again: Adding the value back to your life

For a very long time, I felt lost (more like deserted), and I just didn’t know which way to go. If I went left, would things suddenly go “right” for me, or would I continue to wonder around endlessly, looking for my peace and joy…from someone/something else? Like you, I often found myself attaching my happiness to a person, place or thing, but the only thing that could make me happy, was me!

I remember when I was a teenager, I always dreamed of moving to New York, and eventually Atlanta, Georgia, because I thought that’s where my happiness, career, husband, and life was. If nothing or no one could fix what I was going through, then a move across the world would surely do it. I’ve been to Atlanta more times than I can count, and although I was happy when I got there, there was nothing that’d make me happier, than leaving.

The same can be said for New York. I visited NYC for almost a week, and although it was everything that I dreamed it would be and saw on t.v., within 3 days, I was ready to go. I was happy to have experienced the moment, but I was even more happier to get back home to Alabama. I didn’t understand fully that I was attaching my happiness to destinations, until I read an article by Psychologist Dr. Robert Holden, on “Destination Addiction”. He states that, “Destination Addiction is a preoccupation with the idea that happiness is found somewhere else”.

For years, I tied my happiness to different states and people. I foolishly thought a city could give me what I needed, and when I went, it was nothing but a temporarily delight. My happiness faded away, because I was not happy where I was. When I became an adult and entered into my 30’s, I found my happiness, and sad to say, it was in a place that I knew existed, but kept hidden for so long (me)! My happiness brought me joy, peace and more importantly, it added the value back to my life that I had taken away.

Everyone has a choice, so if you’re unhappy, that’s your choice! Quit tying your happiness to places, people or things, because they will disappoint you every time.

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in You're already official

Verified (No “check” sign needed)

If you frequent social media, Instagram in particular, you’ll notice that only the “verified” have a blue check mark besides their handle (account name). Typically, this means that the person possesses some type of status or are extremely popular, to say the least. They’ve been validated by society, and unless you have the blue check sign, then you’re not a part of the esteemed. To some this may not matter, but for many, it’s everything. Their total existence is based upon the acceptance of others. They can’t live, unless they know people are “checking” for them.

I’d like to take a few minutes of your time, to briefly talk about a man who “verified” you over two-thousand years ago. This post is not intended to infringe upon anyone’s beliefs, but to let you know, you’ve been validated long before you were created. In fact, if someone was willing to take responsibility for your sins, and die as a result of it, that alone should be an indication of your worth. Too often, we give society credit for “building” people, when the only thing they’re responsible for is tearing them down. Depending upon what you do or the level of interest one has in you, you’re “in” and the next minute, you’re out.

However, regardless of what you do or the nature of what you did, Jesus will never count you out! Your validation comes from Him, so society’s approval is neither required nor needed. With Him, you can make one-thousand or more mistakes, and your approval rating still won’t go down. He forgives and forgets, but society remembers and condemns. Who’s validation do you want more? Do you need a blue check sign to be accepted, or can you accept His verification as being enough?

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in What are you doing "it" for?

Are you doing it for the cause, or because you want the applause?

If you’ve ever met a (good) servant, there are a few things you’d notice right off the back: they’re committed, hardworking and shy away from attention. They steer clear of the limelight, because their goal is not to be seen, but to help. Doing it for the cause is their “why”, so they don’t have a need to be “thanked” for it.

On the other hand, you have those who are fame vultures and will stop at nothing to be recognized, even if it means putting on a facade, just so they can receive the applause. There’s nothing that motivates them more than attention, and they’ll stop at nothing to get it. Besides, it’s their lifeline, and without it, they’d be non-existent.

Automatically, you can see the clear distinction between the two. One is fueled and driven by what they can do for others, while the latter is accelerated by what others can do for them. Are you going to go the rest of your life looking for attention, or would you rather bring “attention” to a matter that needs it?

What are you doing “it” for? Is it because you love what you do, or you love the praise you get for doing it?

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue