Miles Away

You want it…..you can smell….you can even taste it, yet it’s so far away. Success requires hard work, yet some people don’t want to do what it takes to get it, because the distance is a little farther than they’d like to go. You see, some people just aren’t willing to go the extra mile, because they’re complacent where they are.

Don’t be one of those people! If success is what you’re after, it doesn’t matter how long it’ll take you to get there, because no distance is too large or great to stop you from achieving your goals and dreams. That’s the difference between “those who want it” and “those you just want to talk about it”!

All my life, I’ve envisioned being my own boss and having a successful writing career and bookstore. I’ve talked about it for years, and five months ago, I finally started my writing company, CH1. Although I didn’t generate thousands of dollars in revenue within the first month or few, my business has started to pick up and take off.

I’m already successful, but I know the monetary success that I aspire to have, is going to take me some to attain. However, rather than being one of those who just want to talk about the things I want to have/achieve, I decided I “wanted it”, and put in the work to get it. I’m fully aware that success doesn’t happen over night, and I’m realistic when it comes to my goals, so I refuse to settle for complacency, all because I’m miles away from my goals.

Whether it be 5, 10, 20 or 100 miles between me and my success, I’m going to continue trekking, because every step I take, is only making me that much closer to my goals!

Keep going NOTE takers!

Until next time!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

The opportunities are limitless…How many do you want?

I want a lot of things, and although I don’t always get most of them, one thing’s for sure, I’m going to certainly try! I already wear a thousands hats, and I’ve decided to add another one to my collection: Grant Writer! Writing is a gift that I’ve been blessed with, and I love what I do! I’ve always known I wanted to write for the rest of my life, whether paid or not, and get excited every time I get a pen in my hand.

Recently, I wanted to go beyond the parameters I tried to confine myself to, and seek to become a Grant Writer. After doing my research, I decided to invest my time, energy and efforts, and enrolled online to fulfill (one of many) my dreams. I’m a week into class, and let’s just say, I’ll need to know more than just writing, in order to become a Grant Writer. To be honest, writing is just a pre-requisite to getting started.

Although I was extremely overwhelmed by the wealth of information I’ve learned this far, it’s not enough to make me want to give up and quit. Often, this is too many peoples story, because they don’t want to put in the work and often look for shortcuts (see post on “No shortcuts to success”). However, anything worth having is worth fighting for, so I’m going to fight and stay with this, until I reach my goal, of becoming a Certified Grant Writing Consultant.

I know there have probably been times where you were told, you weren’t going to amount to anything, or that was just too impossible for you to do. But, “nothing’s impossible when the word itself says ‘possible'”. You can do anything you set your mind to do, and the age old expression still stands: the sky is the limit! Don’t settle or subscribed to someone else’s ideologies for your life, when you’re the one that’s got to do the living!

Remember, the opportunities are limitless….How many do you want?

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Hold on, it gets better!

“Don’t give up when dark times come. The more storms you face in life, the stronger you’ll be. Hold on. Your greater is coming.”
Germany Kent

I talk about God a lot (get over it), and I converse with Him daily! Almost to the point, I have to preface and say, “I know we just talked, but I forgot something”. Am I the only one that finds humor in that (probably)? Earlier this year, when I was completing my goal board, I asked God to bless me with everything on my board, and to not wait until the end of the year to do it. I know, the gall of me!

Of the few thousand (LOL) things I asked Him for, was to open the door of endorsements and paid speaking opportunities. Let’s just say, only 3 months into the new year, I was blessed with the opportunity to speak with RAH High School students. Not only are they paying me for the event, but they are also purchasing copies of my first book, “Glitter but no gold: How I turned my wounds into wisdom”, AND they are having a book signing for me!

I knew God worked in “Kairos time” (meaning His timing), but I didn’t think it would be so soon. I have been in complete awe and shock, because this just seems so surreal to me! I kept saying to myself, “Somebody wants to PAY to hear me speak”!!!! Not only that, I have been tapped to be Guest Speaker of my church and I’ve already booked other paid speaking engagements as well! God is truly good, and I am forever grateful, thankful and appreciative of Him for answering prayers.

There were so many times and days that I thought I’d never get anything I prayed for. It seems I kept sending up requests, and not getting a “yes” in return. However, the “yes” was always there; I simply had to wait for it! Just think, who would’ve known what would’ve happened, had I decided to not “hold on”. I can’t begin to tell you how many times I wanted to give up, because I felt it would’ve been better than staying the course.

I know this is only the beginning for me, and I am so grateful and anticipate the things God has in store for me! You too are probably wanting to throw in the towel and quit, but remember, “NO WHITE FLAGS” (see my previous post on this)! You maybe tired and want to just let go, but “hold on, it gets better”!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Have a GREAT day!

Every morning like clock work, when I step into my office, I sit down and immediately prepare my TDL (to do list) for the day. I place a check box next to each agenda I plan to complete, and check them off as I go. This may come as a surprise to others, but the first box that I have to check off is, the one that says, “Have a GREAT day”! Yes, I purposely tell myself to “have a great day”, and believe it or not, it’s THE most important bullet on my list.

I aspire to live and lead my life with positivity, and if I’m not giving myself positive affirmations as such, then I allow others to “readjust my thermostat”. Immediately, my day goes from a cool 69, to a blistering 100 degrees, because I’ve allowed something someone said or did to get to me. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to fight someone just to regain control of my thermostat. It’s easy to become distracted or allow something to disrupt your day, when you don’t start off positive.

Self-care is extremely important to me, because if I don’t take care of myself, then how am I going to be of service to someone else? If that’s the case, I wouldn’t be able to complete my job duties successfully, and I simply can’t have that happen, when so many people rely and depend on me. Besides, when my day is not going right, neither is my attitude! I know some people are probably saying and thinking, “It doesn’t take all that”, but it does when I want to be my best self!

What are you telling yourself? Do you think or speak of yourself with positivity? Or, are you waiting on someone else to be your “hype man”?

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Pro Bono

Are you one of those people who are always working for “benefit”, and not being of “benefit”? In other words, you’re looking at what you can get out of the deal, as opposed to what you can give someone else. We’ve all heard of the overly used expression, “I don’t work for free”, but would it hurt you if you did? I understand we all have to make a living, but what about those who can barely afford to live?

Do we look out for them, or concern ourselves with getting ours, and suggest they do the same? I know we can’t control people’s circumstances, shortcomings, or help everyone out, but what about the difference we’d make if we tried to? More importantly, are we willing too? Sometimes, I question if I’m the only one that still cares, because I feel like I’m one of few concerned with this agenda.

When I help others, it’s for four reasons: God has been a blessing to me, innately I’m a caring person, I love to and someone did it for me! I can’t look down on others and not offer an extended hand, especially when I’m in a position to help. Let’s be clear, when I speak of helping and giving, I’m not necessarily talking in terms of money. Too often, people equate helping with money, and while it “helps”, it’s not always what people need.

Some people need your time, expertise, love, support and to simply know that you care, and don’t mind being there. How can you set a dollar amount or place value on being a blessing to someone else? I don’t expect everyone to do everything for free, because I don’t (let’s be real)! However, I don’t charge for everything I do or expect something in return, all because I provided a service.

The joy I make them feel by helping out is my “hard earned pay”! I realize I can’t be everything to everybody or help the world out, but I’m going to do whatever I can to try and make a difference! You don’t always have to do something with the intent on being paid or rewarded for what you do. Sometimes, the difference you make is the only reward you’ll receive!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Making decisions

Why is it so easy for us to hold onto things/people that don’t mean us well, yet we struggle with letting go of what’s not meant to be? It’s shameful almost, because in our minds, we’ve created this fantasy that we so desperately try to live in. We’ll suffer, endure hurt and pain, all because we want to “make it work”. However, no matter how much we try to make things right, they’ll always go wrong.

I don’t like “forced things”, yet surprisingly, I find myself almost always in forced situations. I used to stay, because I didn’t want to receive the backlash I assumed I’d get, for hurting someone’s feelings or telling them “no”. All along, I knew those situations or people weren’t good for me or to me, but again, I stayed, because I simply didn’t want to be bothered with the….

Nonetheless, regardless of what choice I made, the outcome always remained the same. I was pleasing them, although I was displeased with myself! How did I get to the point of allowing others to dictate who and what I was? What I did, and how I did it? I wasn’t a puppet, so I couldn’t understand why I was allowing people to control my strings.

Better yet, I demanded the ventriloquist take his/her hand out my back, because I was ready to speak for my d…..self! I ultimately made the decision to let go of people and their b…….I wasn’t taking anymore of what they were giving, because I didn’t benefit from it anyway. Essentially, I stood up for myself, and have been ever since. Besides, I can’t live in fear of people’s backlash, when I don’t fear them!

If a situation or person is not of benefit to you, then end it! Don’t allow someone to hold you hostage, because they’re fearful of you once you become free! Stand up for yourself and make the choice to walk away! After all, the decision is yours!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Broken Ladders

Barbara and Jane have been friends for years, and no matter how many arguments or disagreements they’ve had, they refused to let anything come between them….well, anything but success. You see, Barbara is more successful than Jane. Let’s pretend for a moment, that money equates to success (in some people’s eyes, this is true). Barbara is now higher up in the company, although they both started out at the bottom of the totem pole.

Prior to the promotion, both ladies struggled to make ends meet and worked tirelessly to climb their way up. Application after application, they applied and were denied! They always stated that if one was to come up before the other, they’d extend the hand to pull the other up. One day, God blessed Barbara with the opportunity of a lifetime, Chief Executive Officer. What a come up, but I don’t think anyone was more happy for Barbara, than her good friend Jane.

Regardless of the power shift, they both remained good friends and continued to work well together. One day, Jane decided to pursue her dreams of becoming her own boss, and opened her writing business. Barbara told Jane that she’d do whatever she can to help her advance, because she wanted to see her succeed. At first business was slow and although she wanted to give up, Jane continued to push through, because she knew that “There were NO shortcuts to success”!

Jane asked Barbara to allow her to do a presentation to the company, but it would be a separate charge, and not considered a part of her salary. Barbara obliged and was “thrilled” to do whatever she could to help. Days, weeks and months went by, and Barbara didn’t make good on her word. Unbeknownst to Jane, she’d get her opportunity of a lifetime, her very first PAID speaking engagement (plus two others lined up)…..that included a book signing. She was so thrilled, because her business was taking off, which meant more money for her.

Needless to say, not everyone was happy, especially Barbara. You see, she knew of Jane’s gifts and there wasn’t a doubt in her mind that she would do well and be successful, just as long as she wasn’t more successful than her. Barbara didn’t forget to ask the company to allow Jane to do a presentation, in fact, she deliberately didn’t ask, because she knew it would open up doors for Jane. However, what she failed to realize is, she couldn’t hold Jane back, because God was pushing her FORWARD!

In case you haven’t realized by now, I’m Jane, and at some point, you probably were too! A lot of people claim to be your friend or rally in your corner, but secretly, they want you to remain on their level or lower. They’re envious and openly express their disgust of you climbing higher up the ladder of success, over them. They’ll pull, tug and grab on you in an attempts to bring you down, so you’re unable to climb any higher than them.

However, what they fail to realize is, God is the LADDER and there’s NOTHING they can do to stop Him from catapulting you higher! I’ll never understand why someone would want to hinder my success or cause me to become stagnant, because they are fearful of me being “better” than them. I will never forget Barbara’s ulterior motives, or what she potentially thought she could gain by not helping me, but no matter what, I’m going to keep climbing! One day, I’ll “look down” at her, and say, “It’s been awhile. You should ‘come up’ and visit”!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue