Posted in positive vibes only

Have a GREAT day!

Every morning like clock work, when I step into my office, I sit down and immediately prepare my TDL (to do list) for the day. I place a check box next to each agenda I plan to complete, and check them off as I go. This may come as a surprise to others, but the first box that I have to check off is, the one that says, “Have a GREAT day”! Yes, I purposely tell myself to “have a great day”, and believe it or not, it’s THE most important bullet on my list.

I aspire to live and lead my life with positivity, and if I’m not giving myself positive affirmations as such, then I allow others to “readjust my thermostat”. Immediately, my day goes from a cool 69, to a blistering 100 degrees, because I’ve allowed something someone said or did to get to me. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to fight someone just to regain control of my thermostat. It’s easy to become distracted or allow something to disrupt your day, when you don’t start off positive.

Self-care is extremely important to me, because if I don’t take care of myself, then how am I going to be of service to someone else? If that’s the case, I wouldn’t be able to complete my job duties successfully, and I simply can’t have that happen, when so many people rely and depend on me. Besides, when my day is not going right, neither is my attitude! I know some people are probably saying and thinking, “It doesn’t take all that”, but it does when I want to be my best self!

What are you telling yourself? Do you think or speak of yourself with positivity? Or, are you waiting on someone else to be your “hype man”?

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in Doing the right thing

Pro Bono

Are you one of those people who are always working for “benefit”, and not being of “benefit”? In other words, you’re looking at what you can get out of the deal, as opposed to what you can give someone else. We’ve all heard of the overly used expression, “I don’t work for free”, but would it hurt you if you did? I understand we all have to make a living, but what about those who can barely afford to live?

Do we look out for them, or concern ourselves with getting ours, and suggest they do the same? I know we can’t control people’s circumstances, shortcomings, or help everyone out, but what about the difference we’d make if we tried to? More importantly, are we willing too? Sometimes, I question if I’m the only one that still cares, because I feel like I’m one of few concerned with this agenda.

When I help others, it’s for four reasons: God has been a blessing to me, innately I’m a caring person, I love to and someone did it for me! I can’t look down on others and not offer an extended hand, especially when I’m in a position to help. Let’s be clear, when I speak of helping and giving, I’m not necessarily talking in terms of money. Too often, people equate helping with money, and while it “helps”, it’s not always what people need.

Some people need your time, expertise, love, support and to simply know that you care, and don’t mind being there. How can you set a dollar amount or place value on being a blessing to someone else? I don’t expect everyone to do everything for free, because I don’t (let’s be real)! However, I don’t charge for everything I do or expect something in return, all because I provided a service.

The joy I make them feel by helping out is my “hard earned pay”! I realize I can’t be everything to everybody or help the world out, but I’m going to do whatever I can to try and make a difference! You don’t always have to do something with the intent on being paid or rewarded for what you do. Sometimes, the difference you make is the only reward you’ll receive!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in Choices

Making decisions

Why is it so easy for us to hold onto things/people that don’t mean us well, yet we struggle with letting go of what’s not meant to be? It’s shameful almost, because in our minds, we’ve created this fantasy that we so desperately try to live in. We’ll suffer, endure hurt and pain, all because we want to “make it work”. However, no matter how much we try to make things right, they’ll always go wrong.

I don’t like “forced things”, yet surprisingly, I find myself almost always in forced situations. I used to stay, because I didn’t want to receive the backlash I assumed I’d get, for hurting someone’s feelings or telling them “no”. All along, I knew those situations or people weren’t good for me or to me, but again, I stayed, because I simply didn’t want to be bothered with the….

Nonetheless, regardless of what choice I made, the outcome always remained the same. I was pleasing them, although I was displeased with myself! How did I get to the point of allowing others to dictate who and what I was? What I did, and how I did it? I wasn’t a puppet, so I couldn’t understand why I was allowing people to control my strings.

Better yet, I demanded the ventriloquist take his/her hand out my back, because I was ready to speak for my d…..self! I ultimately made the decision to let go of people and their b…….I wasn’t taking anymore of what they were giving, because I didn’t benefit from it anyway. Essentially, I stood up for myself, and have been ever since. Besides, I can’t live in fear of people’s backlash, when I don’t fear them!

If a situation or person is not of benefit to you, then end it! Don’t allow someone to hold you hostage, because they’re fearful of you once you become free! Stand up for yourself and make the choice to walk away! After all, the decision is yours!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in Keep Climbing

Broken Ladders

Barbara and Jane have been friends for years, and no matter how many arguments or disagreements they’ve had, they refused to let anything come between them….well, anything but success. You see, Barbara is more successful than Jane. Let’s pretend for a moment, that money equates to success (in some people’s eyes, this is true). Barbara is now higher up in the company, although they both started out at the bottom of the totem pole.

Prior to the promotion, both ladies struggled to make ends meet and worked tirelessly to climb their way up. Application after application, they applied and were denied! They always stated that if one was to come up before the other, they’d extend the hand to pull the other up. One day, God blessed Barbara with the opportunity of a lifetime, Chief Executive Officer. What a come up, but I don’t think anyone was more happy for Barbara, than her good friend Jane.

Regardless of the power shift, they both remained good friends and continued to work well together. One day, Jane decided to pursue her dreams of becoming her own boss, and opened her writing business. Barbara told Jane that she’d do whatever she can to help her advance, because she wanted to see her succeed. At first business was slow and although she wanted to give up, Jane continued to push through, because she knew that “There were NO shortcuts to success”!

Jane asked Barbara to allow her to do a presentation to the company, but it would be a separate charge, and not considered a part of her salary. Barbara obliged and was “thrilled” to do whatever she could to help. Days, weeks and months went by, and Barbara didn’t make good on her word. Unbeknownst to Jane, she’d get her opportunity of a lifetime, her very first PAID speaking engagement (plus two others lined up)…..that included a book signing. She was so thrilled, because her business was taking off, which meant more money for her.

Needless to say, not everyone was happy, especially Barbara. You see, she knew of Jane’s gifts and there wasn’t a doubt in her mind that she would do well and be successful, just as long as she wasn’t more successful than her. Barbara didn’t forget to ask the company to allow Jane to do a presentation, in fact, she deliberately didn’t ask, because she knew it would open up doors for Jane. However, what she failed to realize is, she couldn’t hold Jane back, because God was pushing her FORWARD!

In case you haven’t realized by now, I’m Jane, and at some point, you probably were too! A lot of people claim to be your friend or rally in your corner, but secretly, they want you to remain on their level or lower. They’re envious and openly express their disgust of you climbing higher up the ladder of success, over them. They’ll pull, tug and grab on you in an attempts to bring you down, so you’re unable to climb any higher than them.

However, what they fail to realize is, God is the LADDER and there’s NOTHING they can do to stop Him from catapulting you higher! I’ll never understand why someone would want to hinder my success or cause me to become stagnant, because they are fearful of me being “better” than them. I will never forget Barbara’s ulterior motives, or what she potentially thought she could gain by not helping me, but no matter what, I’m going to keep climbing! One day, I’ll “look down” at her, and say, “It’s been awhile. You should ‘come up’ and visit”!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in purpose

The Greatest Deposit

Everyone has been given “The Greatest Deposit” they’ll ever receive, yet so many people don’t know what it is. On the other hand, some of them do, but they do whatever they can to avoid it, or use the excuse that they don’t know what “it” is. Everyone has a PURPOSE, and whatever your purpose is, is the “Greatest Deposit” you’ll ever receive. It’s God’s will for you, and if you are “unsure” what His will is, just pray and ask Him.

For a very long time, I questioned what my purpose was and why everyone else knew it, but me. I love writing, public speaking and encouraging others, but I didn’t think it was what I was supposed to be doing for the rest of my life. Needless to say, it’s EXACTLY what I want to do for the rest of my life! I love what I do, and give God all the glory and praise, for blessing me with the “Greatest Deposit” He could’ve given me.

When I started writing, it was not to touch people, impact them or make an impression on them. I did it to release me of my depression, anxiety and because I got complete joy out of it. I felt (and still do) relaxed and free whenever I wrote. Simply put, it just makes me feel soooooo good! When I was going through my darkest days, I didn’t realize then, all that God was setting up for me. I needed to go through some of the things I did, so I could be able to help others.

To be honest, help is exactly what I’ve been doing, even though I didn’t realize that’s what it is. All I know how to do is be myself, but little did I know, that being myself is what people needed. The very thing that I kept asking God to give me clarity on, was something I had all along, but didn’t quite know what “it” was. Once I figured it out, I was on a mission to make a “deposit” into every person’s life that I came in contact with.

Everybody has a purpose and whatever it is, is the deposit that God has chosen to input into you. You can allow the “deposit” to sit in you and go unused, or you can make a “withdrawal” and bless someone else with your wealth! If you are unsure of what deposit you’ve been given, pray to God to give you clarity and understanding. After all, He’s the one who gave it to you!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in successful

“There are NO shortcuts to success….REPEAT”!

When I was in high school, I played the clarinet and marched two years in the BEST band in the land, Sidney Lanier Marching Poets! We practiced a lot and sometimes they’d be so rigorous and exhausting, but the reward I received from marching and performing, was not only worth it, but priceless. After each practice and before we were dismissed, our band director Mr. Charles C. Cooper, would have us chant our motto: “There are NO shortcuts to success….REPEAT”!

There’d be times the drum major would have us repeat it over and over again, until we were begging to stop. I knew the message behind the motto, but I didn’t understand the message behind the motto, until I started my own business October 2018. Naturally, I’m a hustler, go-getter and will stop at absolutely nothing, to achieve my goals. One of the biggest goals I set for myself, was to have a successful and lucrative business/brand.

As crazy as I can be at times, I set my goal a little too high and became extremely hard on myself, because I made a promise I couldn’t keep. Essentially, within my first couple of months of being in business, I aimed to make thousands of dollars. A bit ambitious, but I was determined to do it. Within the first few months, I not only didn’t have the thousands of dollars I was hoping for, I was NO…WHERE…NEAR…CLOSE!

Initially, I beat myself up…pretty bad, but I remembered the motto Mr. Cooper had us to chant. Rather than continue to beat myself up, I just knew I had to be more realistic with my goals, and not expect success to happen overnight, or try to take any “shortcuts”, because there are none. Five months after starting my business of writing and publishing my books, I have added Motivational Speaker to my resume, and the door of opportunities having been opening up for me!

Two months ago, I prayed to God for paid speaking opportunities, and He has definitely delivered. I’m so blessed and fortunate to have booked 3 paid speaking engagements, and I just know this is only the beginning! Although my dreams and goal of having thousands of dollars within my first month of business didn’t go as planned, I PLAN to have that and so much more, by the year’s end. Remember when I told you all I was a 34-year-old multi-millionaire? #waitforit

No matter how high you set your goals, or how ambitious you are, if you don’t meet the expectations you set for yourself, when you said you would, don’t give up! Keep going, and remember, “There are NO shortcuts to success…..REPEAT”!

Until next time my NOTE takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in Keep Going

$1.00

Being “supported” is very important to me. However, as I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned that a lot of times the ones we want to support us, either won’t, or make up a “few cents” in our $1.00. For a few weeks now, I’ve had the discussion with my Therapist about how bothersome I am when people don’t support me, especially when I make it a point to be there for them.

Every time I spoke of how many events where I’ve invited people, whether it be with my business, church or birthday parties , I’ve had little to no participation. As disappointed as I was, I kept inviting people, because I thought surely they’d show up for the next one. Let down after let down, I felt hurt and disrespected almost, because I always make a point to try and be there for others, especially during momentous times for them.

Rather than being disappointed again, I started to not advertise every “high in my life”, and just enjoy my success alone. However, in the midst of my “whining”, my Therapist said to me, “Dee, you have $1.00, and the people that supports you make up that one dollar. You’ve just got to figure out how much money they have in that one dollar. But, what I need you to understand is, the people you want to support you, probably have the least amount of money in the dollar. All that matters, is that you have support, regardless of who it comes from”.

Thomas Edison (lightbulb moment)! Her statement was so true, but at the same time, I kept saying, “but they should”! Her, response, “No they don’t”! Honestly, she was right! In fact, none of them had too. After that, my assignment was to sit down and count my change and figure out who made up my dollar. Although I didn’t like the fact that most of my “change” went to people outside of my family, I just accepted the fact that they were there for me, when they needed to be. Essentially, I couldn’t be mad at that!

People will disappoint you, based upon your expectations of them. However, you can’t expect those who are close to you or in your circle, be everything to you, as you have been to them. Again, it goes back to being okay with knowing that everybody won’t always be there for you, but when they are, just celebrate that!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue


Posted in Change is good

RESET….RELAX….REPEAT!

When you’re so busy going, going, going, it’s nice to just reset, relax and repeat! Although I have gone months and years even, without writing, I promised myself that when I started this motivational forum, I would write everyday. Sad to say, I let that get away from me. However, I am so thankful that I chose to take a few days (or many more) away from writing, just so I can regroup.

Aside from my job having me to travel quite frequently, my extended work hours, mixed with my writing career, I barely have time to think, let alone what I’m going to think about writing. Honestly, having a little me time has done me so much good, because for the longest I didn’t know if I was going or coming. I no longer do “New Year’s Resolutions”, but a “goal board”, and one of the things on my goal board was to have more leisure time/me time.

I realized that I was going full steam ahead, and although I am forever grateful to God for all the opportunities He has afforded me with, there still comes a point in your life where you simply need to stop and hit the reset button. By no means am I complaining about my blessings, but I know in order for me to continue on with the things I have set for myself to achieve, I needed to take a step back, and work on my mental and physical being. Honestly, I think that’s the problem that most people have.

They immerse themselves in their work, avail themselves to others too often and stretch themselves thin, all because they don’t know how to say NO! I found myself in so many situations as such, but at the end of the day, I had to realize, I’m only one person and I can’t be everything to everybody! Besides, if I continued to overextend myself as I was, then I wouldn’t be no good to anybody, even me! Therefore, I decided to take a step back and regroup!

Although my mind began to wonder or stress over the opportunities I’d miss by saying no, my faith told me that, whatever God has for me is for me, and there won’t be any missed opportunities. Equipped with that, I faded to the background, am living my life, and taking things one day at a time, instead of feeling as though I have to do it all at once. Besides, if anything were to happen to me, I’d be replaced, and life would continue as it has, long before I got here!

It’s important to take some time for yourself and work on you. So many people feel selfish (i.e. mothers) for spending an ounce of time on themselves, because they feel as though they are neglecting others. Newsflash: sometimes you have to neglect others, so you can be better. Besides, people will deplete you of your energy, and then question why you’re so tired. But, you’ve got to be willing to let things go, reset, relax and REPEAT!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue