“I’ve met rejection many times in my life, and although I’m not a “fan” of it, I still respect it!
I don’t think anyone can say with honesty, that they like being told “no”! Whether it be “no”, you didn’t get the job, “no”, you didn’t get accepted into our school or the dreadful, “no”, I’m not interested in you! #Yikes……Talk about a blow to the heart! Although you’ve been hit time and time again, usually, it’s what comes after the “hit” that’s most important.
**Helps you off the ground** Okay, now that you’re up, let’s process why you got knocked down in the first place, and was it even worth the “fall”. So, you’ve put in application after application, and still no response, or it’s the response that you were not looking for, “Thank you for your interest in our company, but….and usually, it’s the “but” that gets us, because we know what’s coming next.
Here’s the thing: You’re not for everybody, and chances are, you’re going to get overlooked, passed on and rejected many more times in your life. However, are you going to keep being “hit”, or are you going to “put your dukes up” (hands)? You’ve got to learn that a “no” or rejection is not the end of the world, or the reason you should give up. No matter how much you are affected by the outcome you didn’t want, you’ve got to keep going.
You can’t sit around harboring resentment towards companies or people, because they didn’t choose you. It’s not to say you aren’t a good person or are incapable of doing the job, it’s just to say that there was somebody better than or more qualified than you. Not that you’ve received your “NO” and have processed “WHY”, let’s move to Phase 2: getting past the rejection.
I know we’d all like to think we’re perfect or don’t need room for growth or improvement, but let me be the first to say, LIES you tell! LOL! Everybody can improve themselves, no matter how big or small it is. Lay all your cards out on the table and do a self-inventory check. Figure out what area you are weakest in, and come up with a strategy as to how you can improve and become stronger.
It’ll probably do you some good to talk with your peers, family or friends, because they maybe able to see things you can’t. Trust me, I’ve been there before, when I didn’t realize the error of my ways, because I felt I didn’t have any (only the people who were constantly down my throat). It wasn’t until I solicited the perspective of my sisters and couple of friends, that I realized there was indeed something there, that I was either overlooking or simply didn’t want to acknowledge (see me growing? LOL).
After I took their perspective into consideration, I began to flourish and I’ve only gotten better! So, now that you’ve been rejected and processed the “why”, now you know how to get past it. The next time you’re rejected, don’t get mad….just say to yourself, “Okay, what could I have done differently”? Re-direct that would be anger into your strategy and work until you get the results (or response) you want!
Until next time my Note takers!