Notes by La'Rue

So many people are getting “robbed” everyday, and they have no idea that “comparison” is the reason for the stick-up! 

I am sad quite often, and sometimes wonder if my happiness will ever return.  Getting dolled up, putting on my favorite red lipstick and highest pair of heels used to cure the “blues”, but not even clothes can restore my smile.  I’ve somehow allowed my comparison to others to steal my joy. I’m in a pretty good space in my life, and I am on the horizon of being the most successful I’ve ever been.  But, it’s the “success” part that’s getting to me.  

Although I don’t make 6-figures (check back with me in 2019), I consider myself to be pretty successful.  However, I take a look to my left and right, and see that everyone around me are either CEO’s, VP’s or closing major business deals, and here I am just trying to get mine off the ground.  Just like that, 6 days of absolute bliss and happiness from the release of my new book Let’s TALK!, launch of this website and start of my FIRST business, has been overshadowed by what someone else has accomplished. 

Talk about a rip off! Immediately, I say to myself the same exact thing I tell my students, success=HARDWORK and not the amount of money you have! I can’t covet what my neighbor has, because it’s only making me appear less thankful for the things I have.  I come from a very harsh background and am extremely blessed and fortunate to have made it out of my situation.  When I look back on my childhood (or lack of, I should say) I am a CEO, VP and so much more, in comparison to my life then.  I refuse to waste another second of my time dreaming, loathing or being jealous over someone else’s success, when I have so much of my own to be proud of and thankful for!

Chapter 14 in my new book Let’s TALK!, is entitled, “Focus on you, not them”. Just a brief excerpt: “Everybody knows comparison is the thief of joy, and every time you compare your journey to that of another, you lose happiness and ultimately become unappreciative of your blessings.  It’s one ting to admire others success and use it as your motivation to achieve your own, but it’s another thing to want what someone else has, simply because they have it….you’ll never be able to achieve your own goals, because you’re too busy focusing on others”. 

Be happy for others, but don’t allow their success to make you unhappy! Be patient, Rome wasn’t built in a day, so don’t expect your empire to be! 

Writefully yours, 

Deetra La’Rue