Posted in Faith and Determination

Eventually, you’ll come out!

For years, I was in a deep dark hole and I didn’t know if I’d ever come out or slide farther in. However, what I did know was, no matter what I was facing, I couldn’t let it swallow me up! I haven’t been the most vocal when it comes to Mental Awareness, but no longer faced with the concerns or scrutiny of the world, I can say without shame, I’ve suffered from depression and anxiety for a very long time….since the age of 14 to be exact.

At that time, I didn’t know what is was called, but I knew something wasn’t right. There would be times I’d have “the blues”, and after a few days or so, I’d feel better. But, when the days gradually turned into weeks and months, I knew I had more than just “the blues”, but a serious problem. Although I was a little reluctant at first, I shared with my Primary Care Physician at that time, what I was battling with. After a series of tests, she gave me two options: a prescription or a referral.

Not wanting either, I eventually conceded, because I felt I had already lost anyway. I took the medication, but later stopped, because I didn’t like the way it made me feel. I saw an LPC (Licensed Professional Counselor) for awhile, but even that did nothing for me, except resent my PCP for referring me in the first place. After I gave up on both, I started to self-medicate, but none of my remedies was working. At that point, that deep dark hole, was starting to look like home.

As long as I was in that hole, I was surrounded by darkness and the idea that I’d never get out. More than a conqueror, I knew I had so much to offer and a lot of life still to live. So, I started to dig and crawl my way up, but every time I reached the top, I’d slip and slide right back down. This continued for years, until I finally gained enough strength and adopted the mindset of a survivor. Equipped with this, I was well on my way to becoming free!

Would I surprise you if I told you I finally got out…..THIS YEAR?! 20 years later, I managed to crawl out of that hole and I have no intentions of falling back in! Some of you may be in a hole, almost at the top, or have accepted the fact that you’ll never see the light of day again. However, I’m here to tell you, it may take days, months, years even, but eventually, you’ll come out! But, you’ve got to WANT to come out! It may seem as though things will never get better, but they will!

Do you want to live or survive? As long as you’re in that hole, you’re only living. But the minute you decide you want to survive, is the second you will do everything in your power to come out of your situation. No matter how your situation looks, don’t give up, and more importantly, whatever you do, DON’T STOP CRAWLING! Keep digging until you are no longer surrounded by darkness and dirt!

Until next time Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in motivational

If you move, they’ll fall

I can remember as child, “testing my faith” (I didn’t realize that’s what it was back then), while playing a game with my acquaintances. I’d close my eyes and fall back, “trusting” (and praying like hell) that the person behind me would catch me. Just as I was falling back, it felt like I was inches away from the ground, but there would always be two arms to break my fall.

I often wondered what would happen if the person behind me, suddenly decided to move. Obviously, I’d fall and possibly get hurt. However, I was very fortunate to always have someone who “had my back”. Have you given any thought as to what would happen, if you “moved” and took a step back away from your family and friends?

Like me, I’m assuming they’d fall and become hurt. Although their pain would not be in the physical sense, nonetheless, they’d still get hurt. People are needy, and sometimes (more than we’d like to be) we’re the very ones they need. We lift them up, keep them encouraged, motivate them and support them….some of us, financially.

We began to question their motives and suddenly our natural instincts kicks in and tells us that we may be being taken advantage of, because we put out more than they pour in. But, how can they inpour anything into you, when they don’t feel as though they have anything to offer….and money is not what I’m speaking of.

If you’re anything like me, innately, you’re a very caring person and want to see the best in everyone, and the best for everyone. My students are my biggest and greatest examples, because everyday, they tug and pull on me until I beg them to save just a little bit of me, for me. Many of them have their reasons for requiring what seems like all of my attention, but none more than “Lisa” (obviously not her real name).

I see her just about everyday, and every time she comes into my office, she always has a “911”. I never understood how someone could need help all the time. However, I thanked God I wasn’t in her position, but in a position to be of help. Four months ago, “Lisa” came to support me at my first book signing, and after the fact, she came to me fragile and crying. I didn’t know the reason for her tears, nor did I question them. I just fell into routine, hugged her and told her “it was going to be alright”.

“Lisa” proceeded to tell me how “proud she was of me”, and as silly as I am, I laughed and told her, “that’s no reason to cry”. However, before the conversation ended, I was the one who needed the tissue. “Lisa” (who’s in her 50’s, by the way) told me “I was her role model and the reason she decided to stay in college. She continued by saying, out of all her family, I was her biggest supporter and the ONLY one who had her back”.

I was completely honored and happy, but most of all, disappointed in myself. All the times I questioned why she always came into my office, and the heavy breaths I let out when I saw her coming, suddenly were irrelevant. If anything, I felt bad and wondered what would’ve happened had I decided to “step back”. Would she still be in school? Who knows, but what I do know is, had I “moved, she would’ve fallen”.

You maybe in a position where you’re more helpful to someone than they are to you. Tired, used and overextended is how you maybe feeling, but do know, it’s all for a reason, and the reason is simple; THEY NEED YOU! It may take them some time (a little more than you anticipate) to get to the point where you can “step back and they not fall”, but whatever you do, don’t desert them when they need you the most!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in relationships

Finishing the puzzle

Have you ever met a woman that was so desperate for love, she gave up her entire being just for the corner of a man’s heart?  The old saying goes, “A piece of a man is better than no man”.  But, no man is worth having if he doesn’t add to a woman’s life, but instead takes away from her value.

At some point in her life, every woman has dreamt about her ideal man, planned her wedding and even picked out names for her unborn children (or maybe that’s just me). But to what extent would she be willing to go to get that “happy” ending?  Is losing her sense of identity worth the cost of being happy? 

Unfortunately, a lot of women become so caught up in the things that they want, that they neglect to take care of their own needs.  Rather than be patient and wait on the man that God has for us, we instead try to create him.  However, sometimes what we want is not necessarily what we may need. What we fail to realize is that you can be in a relationship with someone, but not have ownership of their heart. 

In other words, what good is it to have the key to a man’s heart, if it doesn’t unlock it?  No matter how hard we try to twist and turn the lock, it fails to open.  In more ways than one, relationships are a lot like puzzles.  We as women have all the pieces (signs), but are too afraid to put it together, because the whole idea of being finished (broken up) scares us, because there’s nothing left to do, but move on.

Rather than move on, we frantically check the box (hold on) hoping that maybe all of the pieces aren’t there.  Truth of the matter, they always were.  But, for some apparent reason, we can’t fathom the idea of being alone.  Immediately, we find fault and blame ourselves for the demise of our relationship, because of something we may or may not have done.  Therefore, we change ourselves and try to fit the description of what someone says we should be.

As a result, we ultimately end up not liking the person we’ve become.  While we were so busy finding love, we managed to lose ourselves in the process.  What’s even sadder is a man doesn’t realize he had a good woman until she’s gone.  Even then, he still doesn’t realize, because he never paid enough attention to even know she was there.  Besides, I don’t want a man whose ego is bigger than his heart.

He’ll never be able to love me, because he’s too busy loving himself. Truth be told, a woman should never fall for a man and expect him to pick her up, when he is the sole reason she is down.  Love is a beautiful thing, but it means nothing when you can’t feel it! Ladies, know your worth, but most importantly, know when to move on.

Until next time Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in Happiness & Joy

When you leave “we” for “me”

The woman I am becoming is going to upset some people, cost me a few family members, friendships and relationships, but I’m perfectly okay with that, because in the end, I choose ME! ~ Deetra La’Rue

This afternoon as I was reading my daily devotions, I read that “Those who pursue God’s purpose will always face hard times, troubles and trials”. I’m not sure whose words those belong to, because the plan didn’t give a name or author. Although I don’t know this person’s identity, one thing I do know is, ever since I turned from my old, unaccepting ways, I’ve been met with nothing but jealousy and problems.

I never understood how the minute one decides to live their life according to God’s purpose and try to do the right things, they’re automatically the enemy. I’ve been very forthcoming that I didn’t necessarily have the best attitude and do things the way God intended, but after finally getting my stuff together, I decided I wanted to live a more positive and influential life, not one that was insulting.

There were so many people who pointed out the error of my ways, but I honestly didn’t pay them any mind, because I felt like I was “faultless”. However, after one too many people started saying, “Hey Dee, this is what you’re doing….”, I decided I needed to sit up and pay attention. After all, my life wasn’t going in the direction I wanted it to go, and I now know it had a lot to do with my attitude and foolish ways.

After doing a much needed self-inventory, I started to read my Bible more, spend more time with God and chased after what He wanted for me, as opposed to what I wanted. When I left the negativity alone, my thoughts became positive and God’s will and purpose were more clear than ever. But, I wasn’t going to be able to pursue His plans, until I gave up my own. One of those plans were to remain tied to the same people who I’ve always had a connection too. Not so, said God!

“People who have chosen the path of God will always be met with the fiercest of opposition”. ~Author Unknown

I had what I thought were some pretty rock-solid friendships and relationships, until I started pulling away from them and drawing closer to God and what He has for me. When I showed them that “we” was no longer an option for “me”, I was met with attitudes, cold-shoulders, jealous and envy. You’d think I had committed a heinous crime against them, but the only thing I was guilty of was wanting to be and do better!

I guess my success or this newfound me, was too much to handle! Crazy thing is, I’ve always been the type of person that said I would include everybody once I won. But, it wasn’t that they didn’t want me to share, it was just that they didn’t want to see me WIN! As long as I was a part of the “we”, foolish or craziness, I was “good” in their eyes, because we were all the “same”.

However, when I said I’m going to act right and do “me”, suddenly I was the enemy or “better than”, when I don’t even act that way (NEVER WILL). You know, people are okay with you being less than them or equal to them, but when they feel you are well on your way above them, they resent you for your success/accomplishments, and will do everything they can to see you fail, even it means they’re the ones to pull you back down.

I want everybody to do well and I don’t want anyone to fail, because I’m afraid of them succeeding….even more than me. I would be foolish if I said that all I’m experiencing from people now, doesn’t bother me, because it does. But, one thing that doesn’t, is my ability to walk away! Besides, I don’t want to affiliate myself with someone or people who sees me as a threat, or choose to involve me in a secret competition that I’m not even aware that I’m a part of.

I’m thankful for the ones who are not offended or bothered by my success, because they want me to continue to do well. Note takers, the road to success is not an easy one, and often times we’ll want to take those we’re familiar with or close to, along with us, because it can be lonely. But, whatever you do, don’t allow them to hold you hostage to the idea of staying the same or remaining a part of “the group”, when you know God has better plans for you.

Sometimes we can get so caught up in pleasing “we”, that we forget all about “me”. I love me, I appreciate and am proud of the woman I am evolving into, even if that means being by myself at times. But, I’m okay with that, because I’ll ALWAYS choose me!

Until next time my Note takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in Opinions

Judge if you may!

***Disclaimer*** This post is not intended to push the “agenda of God” on anyone.  You can read to understand my position, but whatever you do, don’t try to change it!

When I talk about God or reference Him “too much”, I’m met with eye rolls, stares of disgust and uncomfortableness (from them, not me). Quickly, I take the form of two popular emoji’s that rolls its eyes and erupts into laughter.  However, when I speak of God, it’s no laughing matter.  I’m very confident and secure in my relationship with God, and have absolutely no guilt, qualms or shame when I speak of Him. He has blessed me abundantly and brought me out of a lot of situations, some that my family and you all will probably never hear of! No, that’s not to say I’m ashamed of what I’ve done nor what He has done for me or brought me through, but when I feel the time is right, I’ll share.

The reason for this post or rant, whatever you want to call it, is because I’m beyond annoyed when people always want to push their agenda or position on me, but when I name drop God, suddenly, I’m trying to convert them or make them a believer.  They even go so far as to bring up my past, “question” my Christianity and whether or not, I’m truly “a child of God”. 

I’m assuming they are looking for a certain way I’m supposed to act, speak or be even, and if I didn’t know any better, I presume it’s very close to perfection.  **Cues bullhorn** I AM NOT PERFECT, nor do I strive to be! I make mistakes (and will continue) just like everyone else and just because I am a child of the Most High, that doesn’t mean I’m supposed to walk on eggshells or be treated any differently than anyone else.

So, you want to hold me to a higher standard than others, but why? Do we all not fall short of His glory at times? Are we all not human? So, what makes you open to mistakes, but tell me I’m off limits from them? You wouldn’t dare be sitting amongst a throne (a judgmental one at that), perhaps? The last time I checked, the very spiritual being you don’t want me to speak of sits atop one of those, and only HE can judge. I get so tired of being cast as fake, phony and false, because I will praise, worship and talk about God in one breath, and iron you out in the next. 

Yes, I know the goal is to strive to be like Him, but again, I’m NOT perfect, He is!  I think the thing that really gets to me the most, is the same individuals dousing judgement on me, are the very ones living in complete sin, while hiding the rocks of stone they so freely decide to cast upon me. Throw all you may, but don’t hold me to a higher standard for things I do or say, when you are literally driving in the lane next to me, waving.  Stop the foolishness, but more importantly, stop the judgement!

Some probably won’t get it, but I hope you get when I say, I’m NOT perfect, but I have an awesome relationship with God and will continue to boast on Him, while making mistakes along the way! I don’t have it all together (and never will), and I am actively trying to “get it right”, whatever that maybe.  However, “Note” takers, don’t allow anyone to change your viewpoint or stance on anything or anyone you feel so strongly on or about.  We can all co-exist with different beliefs and opinions, and just because some doesn’t agree with yours, doesn’t make them better than you.  Let them “judge if they may”!

Until next time my “Note” takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in Women, Sisterhood

Strength in numbers: When women stick together!

“As women, we should always be connected to each other, because our chains are much stronger when linked together”. ~ Deetra La’Rue

Ever rode a bike and then you heard this “clink, clink clink” noise, only to look down and see that the chain had come apart? Were you able to keep riding or if you were anything like me, did you have to keep putting the chain back on the link in which it was connected to? What happened next? You probably started to ride again, until the chain fell apart. As long as the chain was detached from the bike, you weren’t able to do anything, right? Honestly, I feel that’s what women experience when we aren’t connected together. As long as there is a detachment from one another, we aren’t really able to accomplish all that we need, and we are exactly what the other needs. 

Bonds, friendships and camaraderie are important to me, especially amongst women.  A lot of times we are met with hate, dislike and rivalry with one another, when we’ve never met each other’s acquaintance.  We make our assumptions (often times they’re wrong), judgements and opinions, without a word of “hello” and no chance at a conversation. Why? Is it intimidation? Are we jealous or envious? I’m not sure, but what I am for certain of, is women need to stay connected to each other.  We’re all powerful in our own right, but when we stick together, we are indestructible!  We can accomplish so much more, if only we extended a hand to pull the other woman/sister up.

Two of the most profound things Mrs. Michelle Obama said that stuck with me is when she spoke at a 2009 Women’s State Department Women of Courage Awards.  She stated, “Women, we must stand up for ourselves. We must stand up for each other. We must stand up for justice for all”.  Secondly, at the 2012 DNC Convention, she stated, “When you’ve worked hard, and done well, and walked through that doorway of opportunity, you do not slam it shut behind you.  You reach back”. Have you ever thought what would happen if you decided to “reach back”? Your kind gesture and moment of selflessness could be the very thing someone else needs to bring them out of a bad situation, or possibly give them the motivation and drive they need to do something for themselves, or someone else, even.

There’s this big stigma that’s followed women for years, and it’s the fact that we are catty, combative, confrontational, and simply “don’t get along”.  I wouldn’t necessarily refer to myself as catty, but I’ve been combative and confrontational, to say the least.  However, my boldness and irregards to others feelings, damaged a few relationships I’ve had with some women. My get-with-you attitude caused hurt, dissension and discord amongst us, and the moment we became disconnected, our goals and agenda suffered, and the people we sought to help were affected, in a bad way.  As a result, I lost a few links in my chain, and even though I could’ve gone on to do things on my own, I feel we would’ve been more impactful and stronger had we stayed together. 

Sometimes it takes people seeing the “team”, before they can recognize individual players. Innately, I feel women are caring, nurturing, loving and giving people, and if you’d multiple that by ten, one-hundred or one-thousand even, there’s no telling what we can do! But, we must do it together! There’s strength in numbers, and we’re stronger when were together!

Until next time my “Note” takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in humble

Success: When you don’t know how to feel!

I feel overwhelmed! I’m getting all the things I’ve always prayed to God for, but now I don’t know how to process it all. Everything that I’ve prayed years for, is happening so fast, literally right after another, and before I can enjoy one blessing, I’m met with another. This is NOT a complaint or an act of ungratefulness, because I’m sure there are countless of others praying for what I have. However, what do you do when you don’t know how to deal with your blessings? I’m very fortunate and grateful for all that God has bestowed upon me, but sometimes I struggle with them.

Sometimes I don’t feel like an accomplished Author and Writer, and no matter how often people remind me of my success, I just smile and say “thanks”. That’s not to say I’m not appreciative of God’s blessings, because I am. I wrote my first book in 2 days, my second book in 18 days and published both within 4 months of each other (If you are a writer, you know firsthand, this is UNHEARD of), and although I was extremely elated when I completed both and so very proud of myself, no more than a few days later, I felt as though I hadn’t really done anything. It seems the people around me are more proud of me and happy for me, than I am.

Before I published my second book, God blessed me with my very own business, CH1, and I had been praying and fasting to Him for years for that. When I finally got confirmation that it was going to come to fruition, I was so happy and felt extremely accomplished, when I received my business license. However, not even 24hrs later, I was back to feeling “normal”. “What dampened my mood”? I honestly couldn’t answer, let alone had a reason for it. To be honest, right now, I just don’t know how to feel. But, what I do know is, I gotta get a hand on this whole “success” thing…..really fast! I know I’ve got to make a quick adjustment, because God has revealed to me so many more blessings, for 2019 in particular.

When I look back over all that I’ve accomplished, I’m not sure if the reason I feel so “blah”, is because I sometimes feel as though I don’t deserve my blessings, or it could be due to the simple fact that I just don’t know how to process it all, nor do I want the attention that comes along with it. I do know, however, that I am extremely grateful and beyond blessed that God still hears and answers prayers. For all of my “note” takers, rest assured that God hears your prayers and will answer them, in HIS timing, not yours! Due understand that you need to be getting prepared and ready to receive everything that you have asked Him for and more!

Now my prayers have shifted to God, that once He answers them, He doesn’t allow me to become overwhelmed by them! Again, I’m grateful and thankful, but still trying to balance them all. Nonetheless, I know just how He continues to bless me, He’ll help me adapt as well….and He’ll do the same for you!

Until next time my “Note” takers!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in relationships

Cinderella ain’t dead!

Keep dreaming….happy endings still come true! ~Deetra La’Rue

I’m a hopeless romantic, sometimes a little too hopeful, strung out on the idea of being in love.  There was a point in time in which I thought I was, but the idea quickly faded, soon after he did. I can remember experiencing what I thought to be my Prince Charming, however, he lacked the charm and was anything but royal. As a child, I’ve always been fond of fairytales, and found myself caught up in planning my own happy ending.  Cinderella and Ariel were two of my favorites to watch, but I didn’t like the fact that those Princesses didn’t look like me, in fact, none of them did. It wasn’t until I saw the Princess and the Frog, and finally realized that brown girls can be of royalty too!

I’ve been entangled in a couple of failed “situations”, in which I thought I had my knight and shining armor.  Even though they didn’t turn out as planned, I still raced to sleep at night. After my prayers and talk with God, I closed my eyes and watched the movie reel of my love life, but when I awakened, my fairy god-mother is nowhere to be found. But, I still continue to dream, because I know there is a man out there for me, and one day soon, I’m going to get my happy ending. I know that the cartoons and movies like to sell viewers what they call the “fantasy life”, because they think it’s the closest to what we’ll get to real.

Besides, they think a woman being “swept off her feet” is nothing but a figment of one’s imagination or just a really sweet “dream”. However, I know Kings and Queens do exist, and our significant other is waiting for the day we cross paths. Unfortunately for us, sometimes we allow our impatience to get the best of us, that we go seek the very thing or person, God says is supposed to find us. We’re exhausted, lonely, single and most of all, tired of watching others live happily ever after. Immediately, our thoughts begin to get the best of us, because we can’t understand why their dreams are coming true, and we’re still sound asleep.

Rather than sit still, we become huntsmen and lie in the cut, waiting to attack our prey. Days, months and years go by, and still no “kill”. The moment we give up is the moment we realize why we haven’t caught anyone…..it’s because WE ARE the prey! Men are supposed to hunt for us! In all honesty, that’s why a lot of times we experience some heartache and pain, is because we go and “find” the man we think is right for us, when he’s anything but. Dam*it, we want our happy ending, and we’ll do whatever it takes until we get it, except WAIT!

I know you may be lonely, in need of companionship, watching all your friends get married and have babies, but you can (and will) have it too! You’ve got to be faithful and know that God’s timing is going to be the right time for you! What you see others being blessed with, is because God said it’s their time. Don’t miss out on great opportunities or allow life to pass you by, because you’re too busy obsessing over finding the perfect man. I spent many if not all, of my twenties trying to “find” my husband, when I should’ve been trying to find myself!

I didn’t know who I was until I entered into my thirties, and I’m so finally happy to have met my acquaintance. Silly, right? In all reality, I’m so happy for this “alone time”, because I have so many business endeavors, PLENTY of time to write and work on my goals, as well as being able to travel and go as I please. Let’s be honest, if I were married or in a relationship with children, I wouldn’t be able to go so freely, because my time would have to be spread out equally. That’s why I don’t really stress about love anymore, because I know when the time is right, it’ll (he) find me! Ladies enjoy your me time and keep dreaming, because happy endings still come true!

Writefully yours,

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in motivational

NO WHITE FLAGS!

“It’s okay to fall down sometimes, just don’t stay there”! ~Deetra La’Rue

People are so quick to throw in the “white towel”, because it’s so much easier to just quit.  However, what they fail to realize is, the moment they give up, they forfeit their hopes and dreams.  Hope nowadays, seem to be the very thing a lot of people don’t have.  As I mentioned in my book, “Let’s TALK”, so many people are okay with falling down and remaining there, because it’s too much of a hassle for them to get back up again. 

Rather than use their strength to get up, they lie there, because they feel as though their situation isn’t going to get any better….which is something they don’t want to face anyway.  Every body has had their fair share of failures, and will probably expect more throughout the course of their lifetime. We all know it doesn’t matter how many times you fall down, as long as you get back up.  For some, getting back up is almost instant and adds fuel to their fire, which gives them the drive they need to succeed. 

For others, falling down just confirms the idea that they aren’t meant to succeed, so what’s the use in trying, right? #Wrong! Our mind wants us to believe that when we aren’t experiencing the success that we envisioned so quickly, we need to “wave our white flags”, because we’ll never achieve our goals.  That’s the problem, too many of us are still waiting on the microwave to go off at any moment now, because it’s much quicker than allowing our hard work to bake, while we sit through and enjoy the process. 

That’s it! Nobody wants to endure the process, they only want the results.  But, how can you honestly appreciate and enjoy your success, if you didn’t do anything to get it? If anything, it should make your success that much sweeter to have, because you know of all the hard work, sweat (stress, yes that too) and tears you put behind it.  Nobody ever said it would be easy, but rest assured, it’ll be worth it in the end! 

So, resist the urge to “throw in the towel” and “wave the white flag”! Success is hard work, and again, it doesn’t equate to how much money you have, so stop beating yourself up about it! Remember, “It’s okay to fall down sometimes, just don’t stay there”! 

Writefully yours, 

Deetra La’Rue

Posted in Faith and Determination

Detours

If you encounter a roadblock, go around it…..If you run into a brick wall, climb over it…..If you come to a closed door, open it! There will be obstacles in your life, but there will be solutions as well! No matter what gets in your way, DON’T GIVE UP, because there’s always a way “around” something! 

I remember being in church one Sunday morning, and the Pastor said, “Your problems have an expiration date and won’t last always”.  That resonated with me, because it was in that very moment that I realized, all that I was going through would be over with soon, but I just didn’t know how soon.  I had encountered a number of roadblocks, and didn’t know how I was going to go around them.  Credit card bills were piling up, I wasn’t making any money, I hadn’t “flown the nest” and quitting my job seemed like the easiest thing to do at that point. Besides, I no longer enjoyed what I was doing. 

After graduating from college and eventually Post-secondary school, I began my quest to find a “career”.  Application after application, I was “denied”, “not qualified” or simply didn’t get a call back.  Although I was met with rejection, I continued to apply, even though I didn’t have any faith that I would be selected, let alone called for an interview, because I had more no’s than I did yeses.  Despite not ever hearing from anyone, I continued in my “pursuit of happiness”.  I’ll admit, after a while, my faith really started to waiver, because I felt as though God had forgotten about me, or was punishing me one. 

Little did I know, I wasn’t being punished.  I was forced to take a slight detour, because the route I was on, wasn’t leading me anywhere, let alone to where God wanted me to be.  While on this detour, I drove down the “road to change”, traveled a little on “new attitude boulevard”, and managed to even cruise on “positive lane”, all the things I needed (and more) to get me around my roadblocks.  Realization had set in, and I knew that in order for me to walk straight into God’s will for me, I had to climb over a few walls, jump over some hurdles and open a lot of closed doors…..especially ones that people told me couldn’t be opened. 

Suddenly, my problems didn’t overwhelm me anymore, because I knew God was bigger than them and would help me overcome them.  As I began to take more detours in life, I reached places that I never thought I would see, encountered people who helped me get through my problems and ultimately became a better person. My life started to change for the better and the problems I thought would last for eternity, had expired.  It was then I played back the words the Pastor had spoke of, “Your problems have an expiration date and won’t last forever”.  I can smile now, because I know he was right! 

No matter how bad or difficult your situation is, it’s not going to be that way forever! It may seem like it’s taking an eternity for things to get better or you may feel as though God is not listening, although you are crying out to Him, but do know that He is! A lot of times we are waiting for God to do everything for us, but He’s waiting on us to just take the first step.  Get out of your comfort zone and move! Stop traveling roads that are familiar to you or simply bring you comfort.  It’s going to take you making a detour every once in awhile, in order for you to end up on the path God has chosen JUST for you! 

Writefully yours, 

Deetra La’Rue